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Topic: DOES HE LIKE ME OR DOESN'T HE?
teebee79's photo
Fri 12/28/12 11:05 AM
Ok, I'm an adult woman who is capable of enjoying male company without feeling nervous or having " new to dating" panic attacks.
However, Recently Ive met an intrigueing man whom I have a lot in common with and I like him.... I like him Alot!

Ok, Guys- If a woman is really feeling you, Would you prefer she tell you right away??

or wait about 4 or 5 dates in ?

and if you are feeling her, Do you tell her right away or again wait the 4 or 5 dates in?


Whatever the concensus, I'm going wth it!

no photo
Fri 12/28/12 01:54 PM
Does he call, when you are with him, is he totally into you. Does he find anytime to talk or be with you? Do you have to hunt him down. Is he canceling dates. No offense, but it is all common sense.

burgundybry's photo
Fri 12/28/12 01:55 PM
Yes

Goofball73's photo
Fri 12/28/12 04:14 PM
I don't drag out dating a woman that I have nothing but friendship for and I know that the friendship will not develop into anything more. I don't want to waste her time and my time, and to be blunt I don't buy the whole "I have to wait and see" type deal. If I feel it, I know it. If I think something is there and it could be more, then I am gonna chance finding out if there is more to me and her. Now, I am not in any kind of rush to getting involved. But if it does happen, I am sure gonna seize it. but that's just me.

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 12/28/12 04:54 PM
Be honest with the guy.

"Hey I really enjoy spending time with you".

TexasScoundrel's photo
Fri 12/28/12 05:04 PM
Most men don't communicate as well as most women. That goes both for sending and receiving clues like body language. I'd suggest you either flat out tell him of your interest or send a very strong single like "accidentally" touching his penis. I remember a woman once doing the latter to me. She then smiled and said "excuse me" while looking at my crotch. Pretty bold on her part, but it also showed a lot of confidence. I liked it.

teebee79's photo
Sat 12/29/12 09:34 AM
Edited by teebee79 on Sat 12/29/12 09:36 AM

Most men don't communicate as well as most women. That goes both for sending and receiving clues like body language. I'd suggest you either flat out tell him of your interest or send a very strong single like "accidentally" touching his penis. I remember a woman once doing the latter to me. She then smiled and said "excuse me" while looking at my crotch. Pretty bold on her part, but it also showed a lot of confidence. I liked it.


Touching his penis "accidentally" is a little bolder than I am....and besides..I want him along with the penis :tongue:

MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 12/31/12 01:33 AM

I think our body language tells the other. That and your continued date arrangements.


The checking of the iphone repeatedly is a big one. If he's not doing that then I think its a green light to stalk him depending on how deep your affections run. bigsmile

OkiHeadDoctor's photo
Mon 12/31/12 01:54 AM
teebee, you will never know (not soon anywayz) unless you put it out there; go ahead and tell him "I like talking/being with you"

I would think that most mature men would appreciate it. Relationships are too sour of a game for me right now, but I know I would DEFINITELY appreciate a lovely lady like you telling me up front. Games are for the TV & Olympics, leave them OUT of dating.

DumbestUsernameEvr's photo
Mon 12/31/12 02:06 AM
Just speaking from my point of view here. I'm not very big on the whole chase thing and I'm also not very good at reading women. With this being said, if I show a genuine interest and do not receive clear signals of similar interest then I will quickly assume that I'm not her first choice and move on. No point putting time and energy into something that probably isn't real. My suggestion: If you want to move to the top of this guy's list of potential partners then call him once in a while instead of waiting for him to call. Suggest things to do together. Basically just show him that you're not just humoring yourself until you can find someone better to talk to. Don't make him do all the work.

no photo
Mon 12/31/12 03:55 AM
Well, I like to think that if a woman is feeling me, then ooops, as I'm a bit shy about being felt up, in public. Just kidding with ya ;) As for assessing any situation, I can gauge it better, if I see it infront of my eyes, rather than cyberspace.

no photo
Mon 12/31/12 04:05 AM
maybe you could ask a friend to come along, to better assess the communication between you both?

s1owhand's photo
Mon 12/31/12 04:09 AM
Wait. Don't tell him.

Case 1.

1. He is not into you. Telling him you are interested is not likely
to improve the situation.

Case 2.

2. He is into you. You have several more dates of flirtation to allow
the excitement to build. This is always good in my experience. These
are some of the most fun and enticing times. There is nothing like the
time spent developing a sense of building anticipation. Of course you
could be having sex now but the longer you hold off the more fun it
can be...eventually everyone's reserve of patience will be exhausted
and it will be physically and emotionally impossible to resist. Why
rush?

devil

:banana:

irisheyes79's photo
Mon 12/31/12 11:03 AM

Wait. Don't tell him.

Case 1.

1. He is not into you. Telling him you are interested is not likely
to improve the situation.

Case 2.

2. He is into you. You have several more dates of flirtation to allow
the excitement to build. This is always good in my experience. These
are some of the most fun and enticing times. There is nothing like the
time spent developing a sense of building anticipation. Of course you
could be having sex now but the longer you hold off the more fun it
can be...eventually everyone's reserve of patience will be exhausted
and it will be physically and emotionally impossible to resist. Why
rush?:thumbsup:

devil

:banana:

no photo
Mon 12/31/12 11:06 AM

Ok, I'm an adult woman who is capable of enjoying male company without feeling nervous or having " new to dating" panic attacks.
However, Recently Ive met an intrigueing man whom I have a lot in common with and I like him.... I like him Alot!

Ok, Guys- If a woman is really feeling you, Would you prefer she tell you right away??

or wait about 4 or 5 dates in ?

and if you are feeling her, Do you tell her right away or again wait the 4 or 5 dates in?


Whatever the concensus, I'm going wth it!


If I made it to date 4 or 5 with a guy, it would be because I like him. I wouldn't keep dating him if I didn't.

no photo
Mon 12/31/12 11:08 AM
"He chased her till.... SHE caught HIM" winking flowerforyou

ujGearhead's photo
Mon 12/31/12 11:52 AM


Ok, Guys- If a woman is really feeling you, Would you prefer she tell you right away??

or wait about 4 or 5 dates in ?



I'd prefer she told/showed me as soon as she knew it. If she waited 4-5 dates I likely would figure she wasn't feeling anything and I already woulda moved on. Actually, if I didn't feel/know there was a major mutual 'clicking' after the first date, there probably wouldn't be a second one.


no photo
Mon 12/31/12 03:28 PM
Edited by toxicpoizon on Mon 12/31/12 03:28 PM

Ok, I'm an adult woman who is capable of enjoying male company without feeling nervous or having " new to dating" panic attacks.
However, Recently Ive met an intrigueing man whom I have a lot in common with and I like him.... I like him Alot!

Ok, Guys- If a woman is really feeling you, Would you prefer she tell you right away??

or wait about 4 or 5 dates in ?

and if you are feeling her, Do you tell her right away or again wait the 4 or 5 dates in?


Whatever the concensus, I'm going wth it!


I would definitely prefer that she told me or let me know somehow. It does not have to be anything deep and earth shattering, but something to let me know that she potentially saw me as more than just a friend. Or the nice guy who will treat her like she wants to be treated and can lean on until she finds the guy she really wants to be with.

Wishing you the best!

TBRich's photo
Mon 12/31/12 03:33 PM
I prefer she let me know by smiling when she sees me, holding on a bit longer than usual, coming up with stupid ideas/reasons for us to be together.

jaded72's photo
Mon 12/31/12 09:17 PM


Wait. Don't tell him.

Case 1.

1. He is not into you. Telling him you are interested is not likely
to improve the situation.

Case 2.

2. He is into you. You have several more dates of flirtation to allow
the excitement to build. This is always good in my experience. These
are some of the most fun and enticing times. There is nothing like the
time spent developing a sense of building anticipation. Of course you
could be having sex now but the longer you hold off the more fun it
can be...eventually everyone's reserve of patience will be exhausted
and it will be physically and emotionally impossible to resist. Why
rush?:thumbsup:

^^this.
The anticipation is part of the whole experience for me. There's a chance for the attraction tension to build, and if after a bit it starts to fizzle, it's easier to walk away, then having put it all out there.

devil

:banana:


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