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Topic: Dating Styles
1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:04 PM
When you're dating someone new, do you consider yourself to be more of a...


1. Fly by the seat of your pants type? Just doing whatever feels right as your dates progresses.


2. Careful evaluator? Considering each step along the dating path before determining where you are willing to go next?


Or


3. Procedure observer? Using what you believe are tried and true rules of engagement to keep things moving at the pace you prefer.


oldhippie1952's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:18 PM

When you're dating someone new, do you consider yourself to be more of a...


1. Fly by the seat of your pants type? Just doing whatever feels right as your dates progresses.


2. Careful evaluator? Considering each step along the dating path before determining where you are willing to go next?


Or


3. Procedure observer? Using what you believe are tried and true rules of engagement to keep things moving at the pace you prefer.





eh? huh

What if you plan dates but can change the plans? Does that make me volatile, as sometimes I don't know what we will do?what

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:25 PM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Sat 04/13/13 06:26 PM


When you're dating someone new, do you consider yourself to be more of a...


1. Fly by the seat of your pants type? Just doing whatever feels right as your dates progresses.


2. Careful evaluator? Considering each step along the dating path before determining where you are willing to go next?


Or


3. Procedure observer? Using what you believe are tried and true rules of engagement to keep things moving at the pace you prefer.





eh? huh

What if you plan dates but can change the plans? Does that make me volatile, as sometimes I don't know what we will do?what


I don't mean on a particular date, but within the whole time period you're dating someone. flowerforyou

oldhippie1952's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:28 PM
Oh well that will depend on what she likes, as I'm game for just about anything.

CuteKittyKat's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:30 PM

Mainly I can say I just go with my gut. Whatever feels right for me. I´m not one for been so focused on certain pace or rules. But I admit I have a little bit of everything. Sometimes I just let me feel if is going well or not, sometimes I observ and take decisions based on that, or sometimes I want to set a pace. It will depend on the vibe the date gives me.

miko1960's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:30 PM
Edited by miko1960 on Sat 04/13/13 06:31 PM
Fly by the seat of my pants, dates are usualy a lot more enjoyable when things are spontaneous, first dates however I would plan out you know keep it simple, more like a meet and greet, since I am a big Starbucks fan, I have had a lot of first dates at my local one, if we seem to hit it off then I already have everything in place for continuing our date.

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 06:59 PM


Mainly I can say I just go with my gut. Whatever feels right for me. I´m not one for been so focused on certain pace or rules. But I admit I have a little bit of everything. Sometimes I just let me feel if is going well or not, sometimes I observ and take decisions based on that, or sometimes I want to set a pace. It will depend on the vibe the date gives me.


I should have had a 4th one...the Combo Pack. :thumbsup:

andrewzooms's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:02 PM
Nothing expensive or fancy on the first two dates. If she really likes you, it will not matter where or what you do if she genuinely likes you.

CuteKittyKat's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:16 PM



Mainly I can say I just go with my gut. Whatever feels right for me. I´m not one for been so focused on certain pace or rules. But I admit I have a little bit of everything. Sometimes I just let me feel if is going well or not, sometimes I observ and take decisions based on that, or sometimes I want to set a pace. It will depend on the vibe the date gives me.


I should have had a 4th one...the Combo Pack. :thumbsup:


Indeed Cyn, indeed. But it´s more a thing of intuition, if I feel it then I continue dating him, if not, then I run the fastest I can.

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:24 PM

Nothing expensive or fancy on the first two dates. If she really likes you, it will not matter where or what you do if she genuinely likes you.


Say she likes you and you want to continue dating her. How do you make the decision about how slow or quickly you proceed? So, say if you really do ZOOM, Andrew, then you would probably be a #1 style dater. Sorry, I just couldn't resist that bit of corn dog. laugh flowerforyou


oldhippie1952's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:27 PM




Mainly I can say I just go with my gut. Whatever feels right for me. I´m not one for been so focused on certain pace or rules. But I admit I have a little bit of everything. Sometimes I just let me feel if is going well or not, sometimes I observ and take decisions based on that, or sometimes I want to set a pace. It will depend on the vibe the date gives me.


I should have had a 4th one...the Combo Pack. :thumbsup:


Indeed Cyn, indeed. But it´s more a thing of intuition, if I feel it then I continue dating him, if not, then I run the fastest I can.


In that case instead of a Combo Pack don't you mean Jet Pack?

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:31 PM

Fly by the seat of my pants, dates are usualy a lot more enjoyable when things are spontaneous, first dates however I would plan out you know keep it simple, more like a meet and greet, since I am a big Starbucks fan, I have had a lot of first dates at my local one, if we seem to hit it off then I already have everything in place for continuing our date.


Spontaneity is almost always fun.

It's fun when you surprise her by taking a wrong turn that ends up at the zoo, but not so fun when you spontaneously decide to feed her to the tiger. laugh

miko1960's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:37 PM
The ex and I were going on one of our usual dates, then somehow we ended up in New O'leans, man did we have a blast.

andrewzooms's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:42 PM


Nothing expensive or fancy on the first two dates. If she really likes you, it will not matter where or what you do if she genuinely likes you.


Say she likes you and you want to continue dating her. How do you make the decision about how slow or quickly you proceed? So, say if you really do ZOOM, Andrew, then you would probably be a #1 style dater. Sorry, I just couldn't resist that bit of corn dog. laugh flowerforyou




If she calls or texts me first excited about the next date I proceed a little faster. :smile:

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 04/13/13 07:47 PM



Nothing expensive or fancy on the first two dates. If she really likes you, it will not matter where or what you do if she genuinely likes you.


Say she likes you and you want to continue dating her. How do you make the decision about how slow or quickly you proceed? So, say if you really do ZOOM, Andrew, then you would probably be a #1 style dater. Sorry, I just couldn't resist that bit of corn dog. laugh flowerforyou




If she calls or texts me first excited about the next date I proceed a little faster. :smile:


So you judge by her response. You aught to win some kind of award for wisest male perspective. NICE! :banana:

no photo
Sat 04/13/13 10:18 PM

When you're dating someone new, do you consider yourself to be more of a...


1. Fly by the seat of your pants type? Just doing whatever feels right as your dates progresses.


2. Careful evaluator? Considering each step along the dating path before determining where you are willing to go next?


Or


3. Procedure observer? Using what you believe are tried and true rules of engagement to keep things moving at the pace you prefer.




Am point number 2-to the bone!

no photo
Sat 04/13/13 10:52 PM
A mix of 1 and 3.

I usually start off following a certain set of rules or ideas I have about how a date should go, but don't let myself get bogged into a set procedure which could be stifling or constricting. After a time of getting to know each other, I pretty much let the date run itself and try not to steer it or control where it ends.

I want there to be surprises.

PrintsCharming's photo
Sun 05/05/13 10:11 AM
There are all kinds of love in this world. But never the same love twice.

ArtGurl's photo
Sun 05/05/13 12:50 PM
Seat flier ... I just follow the energy and see where it goes.

ridewytepony's photo
Sun 05/05/13 01:17 PM

There are all kinds of love in this world. But never the same love twice.


Prints

I man with profound interest in profound wisdom

Are these all lodged in your " reprertoire"?



As we are only human and subject to change,


So i'm the "roll with the punches" kinda guy and that may require been what they desire, in terms of me
been very open & flexible,
I'm a bit of a people pleaser but one with healthy FIRM boundaries and if their pushed to much, then she
will find herself in a cab.
If my date starts getting to involed with the bill that i'm paying or what I should and shouldn't tip then i'm
pised!, its fine if she suggest that we give her a good tip because she did an excellent job, I agree. flowers


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