Topic: I am really new at this. Can you rate my profile/give me tip
DustinDixon's photo
Tue 11/19/13 08:07 PM
I just made my profile yesterday and I wanted some advice on refining it to be a attractive as it can be.

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Tue 11/19/13 08:18 PM
I think your profile is awesome. Good luck to you.

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Tue 11/19/13 08:37 PM
list some of your interests and hobbies.

Sorry to tell you bc I can tell you are a really nice guy, but the way your profile is, it seems as though, how do I express this, women might think they could walk all over you - take advantage of your good nature. Some might think you sound too eager to please. A relationship is give and take, so what do you want? Tell them.

It might be better to say, My family is very important to me and they come first in my life. I can tell people will take advantage of your good nature so you need to not leave that open like that-'who always puts others ahead of himself.' Don't get me wrong, this is an admirable quality but some may see it as an opportunity to take advantage and others might see it as a weakness. I just want to warn you to be more cautious. You can say you are compassionate, caring, helpful, etc.

Your selfie has a look of shock. Go practice a face in the mirror, and remember to relax your eyes when you are taking the pic so they don't look buggy. And if you are going to show your teeth, smile for goodness sake.

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Tue 11/19/13 09:05 PM
I disagree with Peachingit. You don't sound like a push-over. You profile was nice, but you should add more pictures.

PacificStar48's photo
Tue 11/19/13 09:51 PM
The blue shirt compliments your eyes but I agree the wide eyed look and the teeth almost look like you are gritting them rather than smiling. Look to the right, tip your head just a tiny bit and smile so it leads to your text.

More story shots showing your interests. These can be selfies until you can get more pictures just change outfits. Word to the wise; skip the temptation to use a hat or shades or any muscle shots.

Listing your interests specifically not generic terms will help.

I would edit a few "always" phrases as they make you sound too dramatic and immature.

Generally saying what everybody assumes is just filling space.

Most of this is "rookie" mistakes so don't be discouraged. At least you have introduced yourself like a gentleman and said nothing offensive so I give you a B+ and suggest just tweak it a little.

Welcome to Mingle. I have a feeling you will be well liked.

DustinDixon's photo
Wed 11/20/13 03:28 AM
Ok, I appreciate the all of the advice, and I went back and revised my profile, I think it's a lot better now, what do you think?

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Wed 11/20/13 09:44 PM
WOW!! You did a great job with your profile. If I came across it I would def nudge you. You told everyone that you want something serious, not a fling. that is good. Be straight up. I did like that you mentioned how family and friends are important, more than material things.

Personally, for me, I like the pic of you with the shoulder bag, the best. You look, relaxed and happy and out there. I think you should make this your main pic.

It's really, really good.

One thing you may want to do, as a time saving method, is adjust who can send you a message. Eg. You can prevent people who are married from sending you a message; or men, if you are interested in finding a woman; or say you only want to date women between 18 and 30, then only those can message you. I personally, like that feature.

Good luck.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 11/20/13 11:34 PM
Awesome revise! Gives people a good understanding of you. The additional pictures really blow this up to one of the best profiles I have seen.

Now be sure to jump in the forums and follow up with regular additions of pictures so you get lots of views.

Good Luck. Welcome to the all stars New Mingler!

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Thu 11/21/13 02:13 AM
Short and sweet - it certainly gets the point pretty quick, gives just enough information that it will intrigue the right person and give them something to ask you about. I personally like the picture with your cat. I would have said the one where you're lying down in front of the fountains as it looks quite playful, but the view of your face isn't clear so best avoided for a profile picture.

Best of luck with your search!