Name calling? That's not very nice. I live life with passion how about you?

Smoke a fat joint!

I just try not to focus on me, try doing something for someone who is worse off than me,

good post! "#1 s" talking about a couple types of happyness here and one been a slight form of"Happyness of comparative advantage" which can generally mean people find happyness by been better at something or by having more of something compared to another but can be conflicting with the other form of happyness (happyness of blessedness)to help people or be helped.IDK...happyness of comparative advantage ?? I know many times when I was down and things weren't going well in my life,after the big lecture from my Dad he would always close with
"Here ends lesson ? 7,987,456"..lol and then say " There is always
somebody worse off than you, you just have to take a look around and you don't have to look very far...do you"? That works like a charm for me,that is IF I think about it as we can easily take things for granted in the Western hem.

"Happyness of blessedness" one may get this from raising a family or helping people or supporting someone or someone helping you.
This is a rewarding form of happyness that most can take part in.

I know for myself been on the move constantly that I still haven't become close to reaching general happyness so the form mentioned
above becomes a necessity for fulfilment.

As the ladys are saying, and a lot of psychologist preach, and that is the importance of self care.try to do one thing for yourself daily and that may be that nature stroll the guys are talking about.
Monetary happyness can be short lived.

YUP!

I confess, last time I was at Lowe's I spent $10,000 :-)
Then, had it all stolen, and I still had to pay or it :-(

Still, with the Beachfarmer awaiting us at home, I am
wondering if they have maid uniforms...

What else, MINGLE!

Usually, if I take an honest look at myself, there is a reason I feel like that.
Once I know the reason..simply do what needs to be done to change it.
Also meditatation, yoga, etc.
Blowing something to hell often works wonders.

AND THERE'S ALWAYS THIS!!

Although, it's not everybodies 'cup of tea'.

I think the only way you will snap out of it, is when you become so bored of it, that you will want to scream. A bit like having Cabin Fever. I can only stay in one room for so long. I've never been good at staying in hospital overnight, because I get bored just laying there. It makes me feel imprisoned. So I can't stand it. I think until staying in the rut overwhelms you completely, you still won't notice life passing you by. A lot of people tend to get themselves all angry about it. But until you get so exasperated by it, I doubt you'll get yourself out of it. Maybe you're depressed but don't realize it? Getting bored of it, is what needs to happen.

It depends on the rut:

If it is a work related issue I read positive and reaffirming books to get ideas of how to get out of the mental block I'm experiencing - if however it is related to people I work with, I talk it through with them reasonably - if it doesn't work I move on....

A grief related issue for me means I have to focus on it, relive the happy moments and I have learnt that I have to take my time to wrap my head and feelings around the loss of a person I loved, cared about and who had an impact in my life........this is time, tears, looking inwards and reflecting until I can feel that tightness of loss easing .....over time. I focus on the living and making every moment count.....

If it is an 'I feel down in the dumps day' etc.... nothing puts a smile on my face more than watching youtube home videos, silly pranks, some hilarious footage of my daughter, anything that I find amusing and I start with the ritual 'Soufie' spoke about - me time, hot, long soak in bubbles, relaxing and uplifting music, nails etc........

If someone else has a lot to say or to criticise me....so be it, I've grown a thick skin to ignorant morons, and instead of wasting my breath on a retort or my health on worrying I surround myself with people that love and appreciate me with all my faults......

Breathe in good..........breathe out bad........

I get out of the "dwell Hell" by get to moving my body. No matter what the physical choice I make there will be an improvement. Meditation is awesome. You can redirect your thoughts when they feel like a broken record. on and on and on...

one more thing. I live close to a hospital and when I drive by I remind myself some are having a much worse day!!

I tend to stay to myself till I work it out in my mind... Yard work or doing something around the house gives me time alone to think the situation out.... Sometimes it helps you see things a bit clearer and realize things were right there in front of you but you choose not to see the signs... Then put it aside and move on....

Look in the Mirror,point at the Guy in there,and have a good laugh!


Helps,........................sometimes!

Unfortunately, the only type of people most calming methods will hardly work on, are traumatized people. Because their brain becomes a tad damaged. The logic and reason parts of their brain, stop communicating with each other. So they sometimes need brain surgery to fix that.

You had to say "maid uniforms"!