Topic: Who Deals the Best?
MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 05/19/14 11:24 AM
with breakups, men or women?

I'd say the women, most of us (not all most) address/accept it, cry, then move on like a phoenix rising. Sometimes with men it's often drawn out long periods of time. Thoughts?

panchovanilla's photo
Mon 05/19/14 11:30 AM

Kind of like this??

no photo
Mon 05/19/14 11:39 AM
Edited by funkyfranky on Mon 05/19/14 11:45 AM

luvmeforlife's photo
Mon 05/19/14 11:41 AM


Kind of like this??



so true

TBRich's photo
Mon 05/19/14 11:44 AM
Yeah, women are pretty much cold hearted

MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 05/19/14 12:07 PM
Well that makes a lot of sense, facing problems and moving on make us cold hearted.


MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 05/19/14 12:11 PM




I'm thinking this is a U2 song I missed

isaac_dede's photo
Mon 05/19/14 12:22 PM
Who's better at games? Men or Women?

Who's better at parenting? Men or Women?

Who's better at sex? Men or Women?

Like the questions above I personally don't think one sex is superior to the other in any thing, it all comes to individuals. But that's just my opinion.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 05/19/14 12:38 PM

Who's better at games? Men or Women?

Who's better at parenting? Men or Women?

Who's better at sex? Men or Women?

Like the questions above I personally don't think one sex is superior to the other in any thing, it all comes to individuals. But that's just my opinion.


The question was meant in a more broader sense, like from personal experiences. It wasn't a cliched competition question people often ask.

msharmony's photo
Mon 05/19/14 12:39 PM

with breakups, men or women?

I'd say the women, most of us (not all most) address/accept it, cry, then move on like a phoenix rising. Sometimes with men it's often drawn out long periods of time. Thoughts?


I believe its deeper than dealing with a breakup and more about dealing with love.

I think, in western culture, men are much more likely to view a woman as a thing, an object, a prize, a possession, and that collecting them becomes kind of their norm so a loss of one is not as much of a big deal.

However, WHEN A MAN is viewing that woman as their love and someone they truly cherish , I believe they deal with losing that relationship the same as women when we lose the one we love.

Its more dependent upon the nature of the relationship that suffered the breakup and whether the party truly and deeply loved the other, as long as they did, its gonna be rough for them for a bit.

LUNG1954's photo
Tue 05/20/14 10:18 PM
Although it’s hard for a man to understand, flowers, little gifts and small acts of helping with the dishes, with the children and with clean up mean a great deal to a woman. These things may feel truly insignificant to man, but to a woman they are very important.
You will find women asking that life be mutually decided -- chores, money, roles and responsibilities respectfully thought through together. Most women do end up doing more of the household chores, even if they both work, but a wise man will offer to help. And a wise woman will be appreciative of each act of support.
One thing men don't understand about women is that often, when a woman is overloaded by chores – she won't say anything. She just goes on giving until she bursts with anger. Unfortunately, she is waiting for him to offer help (as she would do) and he is waiting to be asked (he assumes she is fine and he is not needed unless she asks). To avoid this, women can remember to ask, and men can remember to help.

Totage's photo
Tue 05/20/14 10:50 PM
Edited by Totage on Tue 05/20/14 10:51 PM

with breakups, men or women?

I'd say the women, most of us (not all most) address/accept it, cry, then move on like a phoenix rising. Sometimes with men it's often drawn out long periods of time. Thoughts?


Generally and primitively speaking, I would say women. Women tend to be more in touch emotionally, making it more difficult to move on. Women may be able to hide it better than men, because men tend to have a more difficult time processing and dealing with emotions.

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Tue 05/20/14 10:55 PM
I'm not afraid of any woman...bring it on!!! I can be very cold hearted myself, you never lost anything that you never had in the first place.... biggrin

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Wed 05/21/14 05:00 AM
I would say the person that deals with a break up better is more than likely the person that is calling an ends to the relationship. Man or woman, they already have a head's up for the means to an end. Which allows them to process thru the break up sooner and move on easier.

LUNG1954's photo
Wed 05/21/14 07:54 AM
A study has found that, contrary to popular belief, when a relationship is in trouble it is men who suffer the most. Romantic ups and downs apparently have a greater effect on the mental health of young men than women. While women are more likely to display their depression to friends, men are more likely to store up their feelings - with negative health effects including making them more likely to drink alcohol.
Professor Robin Simon, who led the study, admitted she was shocked that the results overturned the widespread assumption that women are more vulnerable to the emotional rollercoaster of relationships.
'Surprisingly, we found young men are more reactive to the quality of ongoing relationships,' she said.
That means men's mental health is more affected by the harmful stress of a rocky relationship.
The researchers also found that men get greater emotional benefits from the positive aspects of an ongoing romance. This contradicts the stereotypical image of stoic men who are unaffected by what happens in their relationships.

mrld_ii's photo
Wed 05/21/14 08:25 AM

A study has found that, contrary to popular belief, when a relationship is in trouble it is men who suffer the most. Romantic ups and downs apparently have a greater effect on the mental health of young men than women. While women are more likely to display their depression to friends, men are more likely to store up their feelings - with negative health effects including making them more likely to drink alcohol.
Professor Robin Simon, who led the study, admitted she was shocked that the results overturned the widespread assumption that women are more vulnerable to the emotional rollercoaster of relationships.
'Surprisingly, we found young men are more reactive to the quality of ongoing relationships,' she said.
That means men's mental health is more affected by the harmful stress of a rocky relationship.
The researchers also found that men get greater emotional benefits from the positive aspects of an ongoing romance. This contradicts the stereotypical image of stoic men who are unaffected by what happens in their relationships.




I'd agree with this. Generally speaking, women are provided more tools and support for emotional expression and healing than men are.
Generally speaking, men are taught - and supported - to "suck it up and get over it".