Here's a question I pose for you all:

Do you believe men and women who are promiscuous (go with lust and not feelings when they sleep around) have abandonment issues from their parents?

No.

Can you elaborate?

Yes.

Not necessarily the parents. You also see/hear of ppl going nuts sexually after a relationship ended, as if to boost their self-esteem and self-worth. Similar thing with ppl who've had a partner that rejected them.

I actually don't think that ppl with fear of abandonment would easily go there? I thought they were more the type of ppl to latch on to someone and then sort of throttle the life out of them, lol. So more prone to finding them ONE person that will give them stability and security in life, an anchor to hold on to.

Well whenever you address it seriously, they brand it "slut shaming" and it's impossible then to have a discussion about it. Sleeping with loads of people without much attachment/feelings, trust and precaution is in my opinion, dangerous, not to mention being this apathetic is worse in the long run to someone's self-worth.

There are many reasons/causes for promiscuity.
I don't think abandonment is a main one.
I think a serious lack of self esteem is a big one.
And the causes/reasons for low self esteem and low self-worth, are many.

I think moving from one person to another brews something missing beneath the surface. Feeling worthless can come from a lack of love and protection in a parental role model. It can be one of the main reasons, but not the only one.

I dated a girl that had BPD and she had abandonment issues. I researched it and it can not just be the abandonment but abuse as well. People with BPD or bipolar sufferers have difficulties handling normal emotions and will often engage in thrill seeking risky types of behaviour as a coping mechanism. What I read about BPD is that they do crave intimacy and fear abandonment but they also fear domination and that makes relationships difficult for them and they will keep pushing you away or dump you when things start to get too serious for them.

Somehow that doubled???

Have morals, self respect, respect for others, firm belief in loyalty/fidelity, honesty when feelings are involved......

....but REALLY LIKE TO #@%^!!!!! ......and don't believe in the double standard.....

Involved with someone now....but if I weren't....If I wanted to %$#@, .......I would *&^%!!!!!!

perhaps people are 'born' with a natural yearning for many partners ,,?


I think its just conditioning , whats important to that individual, whether they view sex as a venue to attachment or just an activity for personal enjoyment,,,

Is not making love....at least (imo) one avenue of sharing and attachment....and complete vulnerability that you give away in a trusting relationship?

yes,it is

but that is only one type of sex,,the lovemaking kind,,

Actually, abandonment is a main cause as it relates to lack of attention from father to daughter...Daughters who have been abandoned by their fathers through divorce, death, or indifference often resort to promiscuity as a way to gain power or control over men in a misguided attempt to keep them from leaving...This is just one of many causes though...Some others might include substance abuse, mental and physical abuse, and high libido.....

@ Beach.....I'm thinking you really like to %$#@ !!...lmao...!!

we're all born to mate but times have changed and we now choose who we let into our lives. i think we mostly yearn to mean something to someone. just leading with lust isn't related to a "natural yearning" i think people who do this and think nothing of it have some issues they haven't addressed within themselves.

sex and love are meant to be together in the end. i find personal enjoyment in things beyond just sex. it's meant to be intimate and an expression of feelings, taking the emotions away is almost like self-mutilating. though not often associated with the word, it takes away self-value.

Uh, lust is a feeling.

Each individual may have different reasons for their issues. Cookie cutter responses and therapy for this issue varies. And yes, "lust" is a feeling. Well spotted David.

Relationships are never prolonged on lust.

Lust doesn't amount to anything.

"Unfortunately, millions of marriages are founded on this sandy bedrock of dishonest courtship based on lust."

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/repairing-relationships/201207/is-love-you-are-feeling-or-just-lust