Hey all, I'm married happily but my wife has had surgery that's left her out of action so she has insisted I find an open minded person to "be with" on top of not being able to do anything she also has no interest in anything else. Finding it hard to find people like that though. Any help?

do you want to stay happy and married ???? then stick with your wife she will love you more !!!!!!! this is a no brainer DA !!!!!!!!

sparkyae5, that's what I call mature advice. It's good to have people like you on this forum.

Actually, if it is a mutual thing, do as she wishes... I do not think you will have a problem finding the person you seek to fill that need, there are plenty of people out there open to things like that.. Perhaps I would try some good old movies and some lotion there with your wife, could be interesting?...

I love all the advice you get in the forums from people telling you how to have a successful relationship... Wait, why are they here? Lmao

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THANK YOU THE FEELING IS MUTUAL---

It's no use telling this guy what to do. His mind is already made up. Him and his wife want what they want I guess. They'll just need to look for someone who doesn't mind being in a threesome.

Hiway rest stops.
Peeps don't go there after surgery.

Welcome :-)

another fine example..^^�. of why some men are so confused... she says do it... and you do and you're damned..
she says do it... and you don't and you're damned... so is it women just don't know they're mines..hmm..
oh and I get that she's being.. concerned for his well being.. and she is testing the waters .. so to speak..
. but why would a woman say go ahead.. why do women have to test us..?... you marry someone but you don't trust them...hmm..

Yes, I can see your wife's recovery going well not having to worry about fulfilling your basic needs.

This companion you seek, will she also be responsible for the cooking and cleaning? I can't imagine you would want to put these undue hardships on your wife either. And I can tell you are not versed in the ways of taking care of your damn self.

well I'm not speaking to the vows..
I'm speaking of.. mixed messages women send... most men have had those messages.. most women have sent those messages.. I truly feel for the op.s.. situation... to be loyal.. to try to be faithful... but at the same time you're a human being.. you have needs and desires... his wife is mature enough to realize this... the physical is not the heart... it is merely the physical... and I know . there are other ways she can keep him happy...
.. but obviously they have discussed this... I hope you find someone.. who is sensitive to your needs op...

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phD, we can't all be creatures of black and white. Where then is the mystery

the mystery lays in between the black and white..... and masturbating gets old after awhile... we seek out contact human touch.. the warmth of another body... the softness of a touch.. someone else's sweet words..
floating over your mind...mmmmm

well its... the to each their own..
you say potato I say but Auto..lmao
I'm out..!!!..

Why must we bash everyone for being honest??? He did not ask your opinion from a moral standpoint... Obviously he is not looking very hard... Getting laid is easy... People that aren't thinking things through and weighing out the pros and cons, generally do not ask questions.. Just who the hell are any of you to talk down from a moral hilltop??

Where were all of your vows when you signed those divorce papers?....

Honestly, he will probably not read any of it... But that is pure speculation. Like I said, I do not believe he is really trying that hard..

It takes a lot of courage to be honest... I would say he is one of the better ones.. It is good to see someone not coming off playing the victim role... So, I can appreciate that, regardless of what my perspective is on his situation.

Hope you enjoy the rest of your evening :)

oh yes one more thing before I go..
he is not breaking his vows..
he is honoring his wifes wishes.
so he is in some way up holding his vows...hmm.. now I'm out..lol