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Topic: Am I too quick to dismiss potential relationships?
pureradiance Joined Fri 09/19/14 Posts: 1	Fri 09/19/14 08:14 PM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere?

Datwasntme Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 9701	Fri 09/19/14 08:21 PM
hard to say really he could have gotten busy or side tracked or didn't want to give away how much he liked you and desided to play it slow i agree with you though, would have been a turn off for me as well if they said they would call and never did at least they did text you and not left you out wondering all night but in the end only you can tell yourself that answer welcome to the zoo and best wishes on your hunt

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Fri 09/19/14 08:30 PM
For mine.....If I thought the girl had something that ticked my boxes I would be ringing.....I would want to hear her voice.....A text could never translate that...

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Fri 09/19/14 08:34 PM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? Too many variables here. Was your first 'conversation' on the phone, texting, or in person? If it was in person or text, 'call' many have meant he'd text. If it was on the phone, then I would have expected a call. Did he know that you despise texting? Maybe he wasn't quite ready to call and felt more comfortable texting. I guess if it were me, I wouldn't trip on how he contacted you at this point and not be so rigid, at least he did contact you in some form

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45322	Fri 09/19/14 08:37 PM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? Mmmm, I see no place where you asked for an explanation. Anything might have happened. Including his not knowing you resent texts. As, indeed, you now seem to be wondering. On the other hand, we all have a point where something triggers us to pull the plug. Probably saves time and effort. Still..

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48912	Fri 09/19/14 09:37 PM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? Maybe it is just a misunderstanding.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Fri 09/19/14 10:11 PM
Call s expensive than text..so maybe he doesnt have enough money yet..why didn't u tried to ask him y he failed to call u???so, yeah ur quite fast..and u sounds like not interested as well.I could b wrong..

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Fri 09/19/14 10:40 PM
I have..end a lot of new relationships.. . for a lot less. after all..!. when one is shopping.. it does not pay ,to be too hasty... if I do not feel. that I am NOT getting.. from my new potential partner... what I would so willingly give to them... what's the word..?.. . oh yes delete block...lmao

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sat 09/20/14 12:18 AM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? No it's not wrong. Nope you stood your ground.

valtheponytail35 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 264	Sat 09/20/14 02:15 AM
It's the smartphone age, people are texting all the time. When a guy really likes you u might expect some anxiety in his heart- he'll have stuff to worry about, what if I get too nervous and start stuttering? what if I say smth I didnt mean to come out that way? Texting has less stress cuz you can think before you say smth and it will come out right. I'm sure if he knew that you hate texting he'd called. But since you already shot him down just because poor guy used his smartphone in the way everybody does it in these days... perhaps it was you who weren't really interested.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33251	Sat 09/20/14 03:06 AM
It's the smartphone age, people are texting all the time. When a guy really likes you u might expect some anxiety in his heart- he'll have stuff to worry about, what if I get too nervous and start stuttering? what if I say smth I didnt mean to come out that way? Texting has less stress cuz you can think before you say smth and it will come out right. I'm sure if he knew that you hate texting he'd called. But since you already shot him down just because poor guy used his smartphone in the way everybody does it in these days... perhaps it was you who weren't really interested. ^^^ This... You didn't even give him a chance. If nothing else you could've asked why he changed his mind.

Sociopathmagnet Joined Mon 09/08/14 Posts: 8	Sat 09/20/14 04:47 AM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? Yes, because the man cannot read your mind or know your preferences on communication without your input. You could of also taken the incentive to call him.

KingRanjitSingh Joined Fri 09/19/14 Posts: 2	Sat 09/20/14 05:30 AM
There are way too many potential reasons why he chose to text rather then call. Honestly i think you were a little rash but I'm sure if you take the time to explain to him you guys can sort it out.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 09/20/14 07:37 AM
I recently met a guy. We had a descent conversation on Tuesday to which he replied that he would call me later that evening. A call did not come but rather a text -(which I despise due to its impersonal nature). Two days later I received another text from him but I had already deleted his number. Is is wrong to believe that a guy who doesn't call often is not truly interested? Was I wrong to tell him that his interest was not sincere? Doesn't sound like he is really interested and texting is very impersonal. Also; if he couldn't call you; he could of at least explained why in the text. It takes a couple of minutes to either call or explain if you are busy and don't have the time to talk. Honestly; I would have done the same as you and told him that he obviously is not interested.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 09/20/14 07:57 AM
It sounds like you were not that impressed or interested after the date. If I were interested in pursuing the friendship after the first date and he texted me I would have texted him back suggesting a second date. Or waited a bit to see if he suggested a second date. It's too early in the relationship to judge someone on whether they call or text you. And if the texting really bothered me (which it does not, I'm a big texted) I would have said so. Life is so much easier when people communicate their thoughts and feelings.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sat 09/20/14 02:11 PM
Well at least you didn't receive a message via morse code. I mean.....really????? Could you get any more impersonal?

valtheponytail35 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 264	Sat 09/20/14 02:45 PM
Jesus, why even bother to get an iPhone when you can make those very personal calls from the booth across the street.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sat 09/20/14 06:38 PM
It sounds like you were not that impressed or interested after the date. If I were interested in pursuing the friendship after the first date and he texted me I would have texted him back suggesting a second date. Or waited a bit to see if he suggested a second date. It's too early in the relationship to judge someone on whether they call or text you. And if the texting really bothered me (which it does not, I'm a big texted) I would have said so. Life is so much easier when people communicate their thoughts and feelings. Well this is a tall order.