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Topic: Wait or Create
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Wed 10/15/14 06:43 AM
A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?

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Wed 10/15/14 07:00 AM
Edited by falantino on Wed 10/15/14 07:09 AM

A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?

i think that matter depend more on new places that i go to more than a certain period , as in my first year in my college i met 4 or 5 friends in the 1st week who still my friends until now In addition to many colleagues ....

and another point if we are talking about dating so there will be a complex matter in that point as you can find till 10 from 50 persons who want to date you but you want to date another persons from the other 40 but you dont know who they are planing to date !! whoa ...

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Wed 10/15/14 07:51 AM
Edited by Datwasntme on Wed 10/15/14 07:53 AM
well said falantino : )

my last g.f. i meet online singles page
my present g.f. i meet online singles page

rare for me to meet someone in person
even more rare for me to meet someone new


i talked with about 1,000 females with in the 3 to 4 months i was looking , untill my lady found me : )

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Wed 10/15/14 08:01 AM
Ahhh, OP...therein lies the rub.

At my age, finding similarly-aged, similarly-lived, similarly-living available men is difficult.

Add to that, what I do for a living/where I work, and the odds decrease even further.

Heap on top of that the city in which I currently reside, and it comes close to nil.


Having said that though, I keep my eyes open...and when - and IF - the right opportunity were to present himself...I'd have NO trouble meeting him/speaking with him.


I believe for most of us, anyway...it just takes one.


:thumbsup:

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Wed 10/15/14 08:16 AM
Edited by Leigh2154 on Wed 10/15/14 08:20 AM

A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?


Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:

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Wed 10/15/14 08:22 AM
Hmm... well according to those numbers... I'm going to go to the football games.. and hold the door open for everybody.... 25,000 people.. per game..... by the end of football season I should have a date...lol...
.. and it only takes meeting that one special someone.. who knows !.she may even live in a faraway land..flowerforyou


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Wed 10/15/14 08:40 AM


QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?



Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:


That's what I would have said. Wear your smile everywhere.

mrld is right it comes down to one, the last one...

Several years ago, I had found the mathematical formula, the predictive use of optimization for love by a mathematician. I can not find the original article. Seems to be the consensus that the range is test driving them from 12-37 . embarassed

Here's a couple articles, based on mathmatician, Clio Cresswell:
How Many Dates Till You Find A Soul Mate?
Mathematics and Sex

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Wed 10/15/14 08:51 AM



QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?



Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:


That's what I would have said. Wear your smile everywhere.

mrld is right it comes down to one, the last one...

Several years ago, I had found the mathematical formula, the predictive use of optimization for love by a mathematician. I can not find the original article. Seems to be the consensus that the range is test driving them from 12-37 . embarassed

Here's a couple articles, based on mathmatician, Clio Cresswell:
How Many Dates Till You Find A Soul Mate?
Mathematics and Sex


Both really interesting articles Fleta!:thumbsup: ...I like this quote by Einstein, "As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain, and as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality."...bigsmile

Morning!waving flowerforyou

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Wed 10/15/14 08:53 AM
Morning Leigh flowerforyou Yeah, reality is relative and individual. laugh Manifest it.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 10/15/14 10:58 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 10/15/14 10:59 AM


A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?


Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:

Hiya Leigh!!
Yes, very true ... and I mostly smile and am positive as well. But I still don't get into conversations with let's say 10+ new men a week
10 new men a week ... I may have to move to another place, LOL

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 10/15/14 10:59 AM

Hmm... well according to those numbers... I'm going to go to the football games.. and hold the door open for everybody.... 25,000 people.. per game..... by the end of football season I should have a date...lol...
.. and it only takes meeting that one special someone.. who knows !.she may even live in a faraway land..flowerforyou



Dang your smart! I'm intrigued ...
But wait a minute, an entire season for one date? LOL Are you sure this plan is going to work? :tongue:

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Wed 10/15/14 11:02 AM
I meet, on average, about 100 woman a week. Out of that I consider about a third of them to be attractive. I have some sort of conversation that last longer than 5 minutes with about ten of them and NONE of them seem to be single because they always bring up something about their husband/fiance/boyfriend.

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Wed 10/15/14 11:03 AM



A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?


Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:

Hiya Leigh!!
Yes, very true ... and I mostly smile and am positive as well. But I still don't get into conversations with let's say 10+ new men a week
10 new men a week ... I may have to move to another place, LOL


The USA is waiting for you!!!bigsmile flowerforyou :banana: ...Hurry up!laugh

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Wed 10/15/14 12:00 PM

I meet, on average, about 100 woman a week. Out of that I consider about a third of them to be attractive. I have some sort of conversation that last longer than 5 minutes with about ten of them and NONE of them seem to be single because they always bring up something about their husband/fiance/boyfriend.

Well, when you ask a woman for hot sex within 5 minutes of meeting her it's hardly surprising she mentions a husband or boyfriend or Fiance:wink: flowerforyou

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Wed 10/15/14 12:27 PM
Wait or Create? Why only apply this to the dynamics of human pair bonding?

For my chosen profession, if I would have waited, I would have starved long ago.

With the power of the mind, all that can be dreamed or conceived, can be manifest real. You simply need to want it bad enough to make it happen.

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Wed 10/15/14 01:48 PM


I meet, on average, about 100 woman a week. Out of that I consider about a third of them to be attractive. I have some sort of conversation that last longer than 5 minutes with about ten of them and NONE of them seem to be single because they always bring up something about their husband/fiance/boyfriend.

Well, when you ask a woman for hot sex within 5 minutes of meeting her it's hardly surprising she mentions a husband or boyfriend or Fiance:wink: flowerforyou


If that's how it went down I'd agree, but what usually happens is I get this "My husband (boyfriend, etc...) and I really like this place."

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Wed 10/15/14 03:34 PM




A single friend of mine sent me a clip from Matthey Hussey and there's this thing he comes up with: Do you Wait or Create.

question: how many new men/women do you meet a week? As in having a convo with him/her for at least 5 minutes, looking in each other's eyes, talking etc. So not the mail man.
If the answer is 1 or less, how long do you think it's going to take till you find 'the one'?


... Okay, I'm starting to get mildly concerned now ...


example: you're attending a party with 200 men (or women). Maybe you feel remotely attracted to 20 of 'em. And out of these 20, maybe just 10 you'd consider dating. And maybe only 5 you'd consider dating again.
From these 5 last men (women) standing, maybe, maybe one is 'the one' for you. Big maybe still.

So even with 200 men/women ... chances are very very slim. Imagine if you only meet one new guy/gal a week? 4 years and prolly still no one.


Getting more concerned now .. lol

QUESTION for you guys, curious, how many new men/women do you meet a week?


Good morning smexy!flowerforyou ...Matthey Hussey makes his living as a human dynamics coach, matchmaker, and author...He's hot as a firecracker right now, tons of people are listening to his advice...Don't get caught up in the numbers Crystal, they are more for his benefit than yours!:wink: ...I find it incredibly easy to meet men and women...I get into conversations at the gas pump, in the supermarket, the library, restaurants, everywhere!...When I go out for ANY reason, I wear a smile and I try to look my best...People (men and women) are drawn to an open, friendly face and an accessible attitude..:thumbsup:

Hiya Leigh!!
Yes, very true ... and I mostly smile and am positive as well. But I still don't get into conversations with let's say 10+ new men a week
10 new men a week ... I may have to move to another place, LOL


The USA is waiting for you!!!bigsmile flowerforyou :banana: ...Hurry up!laugh

Haha, then we could have girl-time and fun!
But I'd also have to find some dude to marry so I could stay ... and I'd love to have girl-time with you but I think marrying a bloke for it, is pushing it, lol

Just think of it, me at my wedding:
- "Do you, Crystal, take this dude to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for ....."
- Yeah yeah yeah, hurry the f*** up, I'm having drinks with Leigh in an hour!"

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Wed 10/15/14 03:41 PM
I will volunteer to be that dude..
. but I have conditions..yes yes.. you can have all the girl time you want..lol.but.. for every hour of girl time... you give me an hour of you and me time...ok... think it over..laugh flowerforyou

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Wed 10/15/14 03:44 PM

I will volunteer to be that dude..
. but I have conditions..yes yes.. you can have all the girl time you want..lol.but.. for every hour of girl time... you give me an hour of you and me time...ok... think it over..laugh flowerforyou

Hmmm ... very interesting ... Since we're negotiating ... the you and me time better be danged good quality time ... and ... I get to roll naked on your silver whenever I feel like it :tongue:

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Wed 10/15/14 03:50 PM
Hmm.. you would rather ,roll over my silver naked!.. then meeee...
Hmm.. I need to go think this over..hmm.... I will be back with my terms...flowerforyou

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