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Topic: "MAMA'S BOY"????
ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Mon 11/03/14 05:49 PM
I'm really not sure what exactly IS a "mama's boy"? Generally someone submissive to women. Especially their mom. With a hole slew of behavior or psychological problems that follow. Like putting the new girl in a somewhat competition with the mom. It seems everytime I hear it,it always sounds like it's something negative,we only have one real mother,and personally,I feel we're suppose to love her to death and at times pamper her ECT as well It depends on the mom. There are some mothers that want their kids or boys to be independent and build their own families, make their own decisions, be responsible for themselves, not afraid to try and stand on their own, succeed or fail, to go off and explore the world and make a mark on it, to be independent men. There are a lot of mothers that just want to have their children be their children, extensions of their ego and themselves, to never grow up, to not leave the nest, to always give them purpose as a mother, to always have a string attached. When that happens then it retards the growth of the man so he is never anything more than a boy, whose identity is that of a son, rather than an individual man. Some moms treat their sons in a sense like wild animals. They care for them for a while until ready to be let go into the wild. Some moms treat their kids as purse chihuahuas and surrogate husbands/boyfriends, and the boys then start getting used to that treatment, expect that treatment, get lost without their mom, and have a hard time trying to survive as anything else. And if there is a conflict and the girlfriend says something like "you need to stand up to your mom!" then the purse dog is going to either bite the girlfriend, or feel like a complete a-hole for treating his "only mother in the world! That deserves to be pampered and loved!" harshly, coming to resent the girlfriend.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 11/03/14 08:58 PM
I'm really not sure what exactly IS a "mama's boy"? Generally someone submissive to women. Especially their mom. With a hole slew of behavior or psychological problems that follow. Like putting the new girl in a somewhat competition with the mom. It seems everytime I hear it,it always sounds like it's something negative,we only have one real mother,and personally,I feel we're suppose to love her to death and at times pamper her ECT as well It depends on the mom. There are some mothers that want their kids or boys to be independent and build their own families, make their own decisions, be responsible for themselves, not afraid to try and stand on their own, succeed or fail, to go off and explore the world and make a mark on it, to be independent men. There are a lot of mothers that just want to have their children be their children, extensions of their ego and themselves, to never grow up, to not leave the nest, to always give them purpose as a mother, to always have a string attached. When that happens then it retards the growth of the man so he is never anything more than a boy, whose identity is that of a son, rather than an individual man. Some moms treat their sons in a sense like wild animals. They care for them for a while until ready to be let go into the wild. Some moms treat their kids as purse chihuahuas and surrogate husbands/boyfriends, and the boys then start getting used to that treatment, expect that treatment, get lost without their mom, and have a hard time trying to survive as anything else. And if there is a conflict and the girlfriend says something like "you need to stand up to your mom!" then the purse dog is going to either bite the girlfriend, or feel like a complete a-hole for treating his "only mother in the world! That deserves to be pampered and loved!" harshly, coming to resent the girlfriend. True,sounds like sense,but here's where some may disagree with me,but first let me make it clear before some may think it may be about me in some way,my mom passed from 1996,I was practically on my own from about 14,and before that,I lived with my mom off and on,so while I agree that one should be able to stand on his own and not be dependent on your mom ECT,I feel you should never forsake your mother and should always be there for her if she needs you,not be up under her or let her make decisions for you ECT,lets be real,she carried us in her for 9months with no charge,how can we ever pay her for that?we can't,it's priceless,but everything else you guys said here makes all the sense in the world and that's what a man should be like!!

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Mon 11/03/14 11:25 PM
I lost my mom. So I'm a grandma's boy at best. GB rules!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 11/04/14 03:38 AM
I lost my mom. So I'm a grandma's boy at best. GB rules! Sorry about your mom too man.................................................lol but know body spoils us more than grandma !

Spenstar19 Joined Mon 02/03/14 Posts: 46	Wed 11/05/14 03:10 AM
Like I said, My great-grandma is the head of the family. We men in the family are mostly submissive to the women. But we're not like their 'pets'. We're mostly like soldiers and the women give the orders. Bad things happen when you disobey a direct order. But we have our fun. We get along. We can do our own things too and we also get a vote in the matter if it's a big deal. But for the little things, the women get the final say. I define a mama's boy as the son who does everything for his mother when she can just do it herself. And if the son starts acting too much like a daughter. My mom is slightly obese and has diabetes. She sometimes has me give her a shoulder rub because her back hurts and I feel bad for her. Plus she's been mostly bed-ridden since she just had brain surgery, so I fetch her bottle of water sometimes. Combine that with the 'soldier taking orders' thing, I say I'm a 3 out of 5 on the mama's boy chart.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Wed 11/05/14 03:48 AM
mama's boy = 18+ year old man with a 7yr old's idealism of his mother, whose behavior matches that idealism I.e "mommy can do no wrong" "but my mommy says...."

Spenstar19 Joined Mon 02/03/14 Posts: 46	Mon 11/10/14 02:41 PM
Oh, no. 'Mommy' can be wrong. But bad things happen if you try to point it out that she's wrong and you don't have proof. XD But yes, a grown man who acts like a loyal daughter. LOL That is a 5 out of 5 mama's boy.

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Mon 11/10/14 03:08 PM
I lost my mom. So I'm a grandma's boy at best. GB rules! HoneyFly I'm sorry to hear about your Mom passing So you must get spoiled by your grandma uh! I dated a Mommy's boy once, it was a terrible experience because she was taking care of his money/bills, buying him from under trousers and up. He never mature! That was pretty bad.

plastic_pancakes Joined Sun 10/18/09 Posts: 7399	Tue 11/11/14 07:17 AM
Typically the term is indicative of an individual that has a seemingly unusually close relationship to his mother, whether it be the need for approval after adulthood on a seemingly needlessly frequent basis, or the abject desire to fulfill the wishes of his mother despite any changes in his life. I mean... usually, this goes back to the idea of "mommy issues" and "daddy issues". I love my mom. She's unbelievably cool and she's supported me in all the crazy **** I've decided to do with my life, whether or not she believed in it, but that's also because I've always felt a sense of independence from my mother because she's so kind. I guess the inverse would be like me saying that I am, indeed, my father's son. But he's dead, so that really takes a lot of pressure off of the whole external validation thing.