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| Topic: To trust or not to trust ... that WAS a question! :-) | |
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Well thank you to all the superior men who, thanks to their know it all attitude have chased a worthy and sincere person into deactivation. I hope you are proud of yourselves!!! You have no clue about trying to understand people and you are to be pitied for your lack of trying to comprehend people who dare to post their thoughts! You are too above us all!!! If you are that perfect yourself why would you be here!!!!! No one person has all the answers! Wake up and acquire some humility and understanding of people's concerns and willingness to understand! You people will never understand compassion for others!!! Missy, I agree with you! I hope she comes back as I am going to miss her!  NMGP: If you should come back....know that I miss you! Talk to me! |
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The know it alls caused the OP to deactivate thanks to their superior intelligence about everything!
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Well thank you to all the superior men who, thanks to their know it all attitude have chased a worthy and sincere person into deactivation. I hope you are proud of yourselves!!! You have no clue about trying to understand people and you are to be pitied for your lack of trying to comprehend people who dare to post their thoughts! You are too above us all!!! If you are that perfect yourself why would you be here!!!!! No one person has all the answers! Wake up and acquire some humility and understanding of people's concerns and willingness to understand! You people will never understand compassion for others!!! Missy, I agree with you! I hope she comes back as I am going to miss her! NMGP: If you should come back....know that I miss you! Talk to me! She was my friend and I hope she comes back too  
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Edited by
Amelinng
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Sun 10/26/14 07:49 PM
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Well thank you to all the superior men who, thanks to their know it all attitude have chased a worthy and sincere person into deactivation. I hope you are proud of yourselves!!! You have no clue about trying to understand people and you are to be pitied for your lack of trying to comprehend people who dare to post their thoughts! You are too above us all!!! If you are that perfect yourself why would you be here!!!!! No one person has all the answers! Wake up and acquire some humility and understanding of people's concerns and willingness to understand! You people will never understand compassion for others!!! Missy, I agree with you! I hope she comes back as I am going to miss her! NMGP: If you should come back....know that I miss you! Talk to me! She was my friend and I hope she comes back too She is my friend too...it must have broken her heart to leave so suddenly and not leave a word! I am heartbroken too!!
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The know it alls caused the OP to deactivate thanks to their superior intelligence about everything!  Humans claiming to have superior intelligence?  I'll have to tell that one the next time I'm at a gathering with other Melmacians. Anyway, back to the OP ... The author of the OP said that she would be going into stealth mode. Could she have meant that she was going to deactivate and just watch what others here do? |
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The know it alls caused the OP to deactivate thanks to their superior intelligence about everything! Humans claiming to have superior intelligence? I'll have to tell that one the next time I'm at a gathering with other Melmacians. Anyway, back to the OP ... The author of the OP said that she would be going into stealth mode. Could she have meant that she was going to deactivate and just watch what others here do? No it did not mean that! She had sent out new friends requests so that was clearly not her intent! |
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"Deactivated" doesn't necessarily mean "Gone forever".
People here deactivate and reactivate all the time. Plus, deactivation doesn't prevent one from reading posts as a visitor. |
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I realize that, and I hope she will be back! But the insensitivity of "the superior intellectual people" as they consider themselves, irritates me, and it takes a lot to irritate me, but it does!
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Well thank you to all the superior men who, thanks to their know it all attitude have chased a worthy and sincere person into deactivation. I hope you are proud of yourselves!!! You have no clue about trying to understand people and you are to be pitied for your lack of trying to comprehend people who dare to post their thoughts! You are too above us all!!! If you are that perfect yourself why would you be here!!!!! No one person has all the answers! Wake up and acquire some humility and understanding of people's concerns and willingness to understand! You people will never understand compassion for others!!! Damn; you took the words out of my mouth. Well said and I agree 100%. People forget that there is a real person behind the computer. 
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Edited by
Dodo_David
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Mon 10/27/14 01:45 PM
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I realize that, and I hope she will be back! But the insensitivity of "the superior intellectual people" as they consider themselves, irritates me, and it takes a lot to irritate me, but it does! missy, I am glad that you said "people" instead of "men" because there are women who exhibit a superiority complex, too. |
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the issue of trust appears to falter when each person shares their perspective and others cannot accept it for what it is an opinion...
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Awww.. you guys broke another one!!!... dang at this rate... we won't have anybody left to date, except for the Nigerians.. the scammers..lol..
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The problem is there are people that won't accept that you aren't an open book and they feel you are hiding something. That is when the problems begin. Most people don't think logically or are reasonable when they are in love; so they simply can't grasp this concept. I think its one thing when something from the past is affecting your relationship but if its not; then I say let sleeping dogs lie. This has been one of the main reasons that I simply don't date anymore as I can't be 100% open to anyone but realistically; the average person doesn't have the logic to reason this out. I know that a beautiful, intelligent woman like you should be open for the right guy if and when he comes along. |
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Edited by
Amelinng
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Mon 10/27/14 07:47 PM
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I realize that, and I hope she will be back! But the insensitivity of "the superior intellectual people" as they consider themselves, irritates me, and it takes a lot to irritate me, but it does! Missy & NoMindsGamePlease: I hope you will both be back soon..... I might join you both soon or maybe not! All this attack on a person without knowing the background of a person is hurtful. Calling someone a B***h and a W***e when she has been faithful is demeaning. Being alone is sometimes not by choice...it happened and the reasons behind it is not something that can be shared in public! So, guys & gals...I hope everyone will have some self control and rein in the sarcasm and 'name calling'! |
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The problem is there are people that won't accept that you aren't an open book and they feel you are hiding something. That is when the problems begin. Most people don't think logically or are reasonable when they are in love; so they simply can't grasp this concept. I think its one thing when something from the past is affecting your relationship but if its not; then I say let sleeping dogs lie. This has been one of the main reasons that I simply don't date anymore as I can't be 100% open to anyone but realistically; the average person doesn't have the logic to reason this out. I know that a beautiful, intelligent woman like you should be open for the right guy if and when he comes along. Nice of you to say but I came to the realization years ago; there will never be a right guy for me. This book is permanently closed. |
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So, it all comes to trust, given and expected. Do I trust myself that I can be fair and do I trust someone who may let my trust down, or even worse?...How to open the doors of my world to let someone in, but up to extent which doesn't make me too vulnerable, and not HURT this person? I think you are talking more about acceptance and giving up control. Basically accepting that other people can take care of themselves, make decisions for themselves, and will see/judge you differently than you see/judge yourself. People are going to be frustrated and annoyed if you try to manipulate their perceptions via controlling the information they receive from you, especially if you rationalize that you are doing it to "protect" them. It takes time to earn the trust. Saying trust is "earned" is making someone else responsible for a process that is totally within you that ultimately only has an effect on you and your behavior towards others. Trust is not earned. It's simply your choice based on your intelligence and facilities familiarizing with their behavior. Saying "trust is earned" is like saying someone has to earn you leaving the bathroom door open when you pee. That isn't something someone earns. That's just something you choose to do based on your own personality. Has little to do with them even though you might like to shoe horn some sort of "meaning" to it to make yourself feel important. I have the right to wait for answers from others. I can do my part, but they have to do theirs. And (unless they are weak willed) they will always try to determine their own part and whether or not they are doing it. You do not have any right to predefine the relationship and what part they have to play in order for them to live up to doing "their" part as you dictate. I think I am fair if I choose not to open up and keep the door of my world just unlocked, but not quite opened yet. Not until the trust is earned. And if someone wanted to consider that "unfair" and dump you, then they have a right to do so. Being honourable means being upfront and clear about intentions. What if you are being dishonest with yourself without realizing it, or you simply aren't smart enough to realize what you are actually doing? One question answered. I wonder what question you think you truly answered. To me all you did here was say "I have a right to my self image, and to impose/demand adherence to that self image upon others." trust is earned. you take your car to a repair shop, get ripped off, will you go back there again for repairs? will you recommend them to another? to think trust isn't earned is rather irresponsible. yes, in the dating world we do have expectations and we do make others responsible for their actions and one should accept that they are responsible for their actions as well. and if either person doesn't like it, they can choose to walk away. and yes, once i feel comfortable enough with a person, and i trust they won't snap a pic on their phone, i might leave the bathroom door open when i pee, unless is really bothers them, and i would be considerate enough to close it. Well said, bastet! And very true! But he won't respond, he's only here to lecture people, not interact with them. |
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Hi all...
Mind games...it's cruel. I've been the victim once, promised my-self never again...! I could choose to close up but I chose to rise from the ashes of a failed relationship due to deception. I'm no one's fool. If I think that by giving up trust as a whole would make me stronger, I would be lying to my-self. The act of trust is what makes us stronger. The will to not give up in spite of the hurt, to rise up, dust yourself off and try again, only wiser and stronger than before is an act of valor in a day of such weak minded people. Those who choose to deceive and hurt those who are truly seeking to find love, in the end they will get their own. I believe in Karma...I've seen enough to know it all comes back to bite you in the end. Mind games are for fools...for weak minded people who don't know a thing about trust. It takes strength and courage to trust. Especially in today's age. |
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If you're wondering if you can trust them
You already don't! 
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i'm new in town and opening a car repair shop....but i have not a single customer yet...because no one here will trust me to do a good job for them.. so i guess i'll have to close up and move to a more friendly town far away from here and start over again.....
Trust must be freely GIVEN before i can EARN the honor of being deemed trustworthy or not.... it would be a sad world if nobody was willing to place their trust in anyone in the first place....jmo |
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