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Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts!
Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered: Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached? What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences? Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs? Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back, God bless! |
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jacktrades
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Sun 02/08/15 12:13 AM
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I think it is important to have those talks in the beginning of course but sometimes people progress or go through changes as time goes on. I don't think it is a waste of time just a learning lesson to be applied to when I find my true soul mate. Best wishes to you.
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I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often.
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I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often. Ah, the man-bashing happens again.  
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I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often. Ah, the man-bashing happens again. Oh no it looks like you better watch out and don't get bashed.. |
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I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often. 
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I don't really think about that sort of thing. It would feel too much like a set schedule if I did. So I tend to let things happen and go with the flow. As disagreements come up is when you find out if you can "work" together to sort it out or not. No matter what happened its always been worth it. From the memories of good times to lessons learned about the bad times. Knowledge is power after all.
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I think so...If you don't try to spend time searching and hoping for the best, you never going to find out if they were worthed or not.
I don't think we will find a perfect relationship because is always up and downs...but the good parts sometimes is the making up 
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Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts! Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered: Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached? What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences? Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs? Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back, God bless! It may sound like a cliche... But as they always say Love is a risk as well as being in a relationship... There is no right or wrong... What we make out of this relationship and how you nurture it all depends on individuals involved.... Relationship is not like preparing for an Exam, for which the outcome depends on how much you have learned and how much you have prepared for it...In my opinion,No relationship is perfect and we cannot predict an outcome of any relationship... We just have to give our best in every relationship we choose to be in... Love is a gift........ 
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I agree 100% with lionsbrew, also I try not to repeat the same mistakes I did in my previous relationship to make it last longer...An I'm still here looking for the "special men"
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I think it is important to have those talks in the beginning of course but sometimes people progress or go through changes as time goes on. I don't think it is a waste of time just a learning lesson to be applied to when I find my true soul mate. Best wishes to you. I agree with Jack. And if there are some known important things that could cause problems, they should b� said in the beginning. Not saying in the first message or date, but in the beginning. I value and respect honesty more than almost anything. If he�s able to tell me sincerely problems or some his less good qualities, than I feel I can trust him in positive things also. |
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You know, it's a funny thing.
At the end of a relationship, I cry and cry. Not for the guy. For all the emotional investment, the time, the love and the hope. That are gone. Was it worth it? Sure, one keeps doing it :-) I think it is because you can bash hope to a pulp but when you least expect it, there it is again taunting you. And over the edge you go..again. Yes. YES. It is worth it. |
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I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often. Men DO love, Estelle. Trick is to find a guy who will love you. They are different - but it doesn�t mean they are bad, just different. You talk just as only women are hurted. Men get hurted also - by WOMEN. It�s bothside story. And nobody deserves it - not women nor men. I can understand you suffered a lot, and I was, maybe more than you. Not only but also by a man who made the same generalizaton as you do - because he was hurted in the past, so he just decided that all women are the same. It didn�t bring him happiness - nor to those he met. Wake up and stop attacking those who made you no harm. I put it today in another thread but again - for all of you, wonderful guys, who make us women to belive in love again and again: Celine Dion - Because you loved me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_r8pDziQKE |
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You know, it's a funny thing. At the end of a relationship, I cry and cry. Not for the guy. For all the emotional investment, the time, the love and the hope. That are gone. Was it worth it? Sure, one keeps doing it :-) I think it is because you can bash hope to a pulp but when you least expect it, there it is again taunting you. And over the edge you go..again. Yes. YES. It is worth it. And I agree with Soufie. Soufie, you just answered on my thread from before - is it that we more yearn for the guy or for all we invested in the relationship. |
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One will go through it blindly and never knew that the other one is actually deaf.
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You know, it's a funny thing. At the end of a relationship, I cry and cry. Not for the guy. For all the emotional investment, the time, the love and the hope. That are gone. Was it worth it? Sure, one keeps doing it :-) I think it is because you can bash hope to a pulp but when you least expect it, there it is again taunting you. And over the edge you go..again. Yes. YES. It is worth it. And I agree with Soufie. Soufie, you just answered on my thread from before - is it that we more yearn for the guy or for all we invested in the relationship. Years later one forgets even who the guy was. But the memory of the pain is with you a long time. So I go with the loss of all you put into it is far worse than the loss of the relationship itself. |
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If it was a slam, bam thank you ma'am type of relationship.....then it was totally worth it...
     Those who know me, know I keed!  
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They are if you take the time to get to know someone, I made the dumb mistake of getting involved with someone to soon, just to find out that they had to depend on there grown kids for just about everything form there finances to everything, the whole ordeal was a tragic mistake,you would think people would be more honest about there independence in there profiles, but nooooooooooooo they are not.not to mention she didn't need me when her kids were around she just treated me like crap tried to degrade me in front of them thank God I got out of that one, it is no wonder why people do not want to get involved with people with kids and I am not judging no one.
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Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts! Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered: Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached? What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences? Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs? Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back, God bless! 
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Agree! Xx
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