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Topic: more cheese less whine
esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Tue 03/24/15 06:31 PM
But to only address the above... If you strike a dog enough times, no matter how nice anyone is later, that dog will still cringe at a raised hand. Even if that hand is now only going to pet the dog. No one or no pet should ever get that beat down, yet it happens all the time. <---- Living proof of it happening. maybe that would fly with pavlov, but babygirl. women are not dogs. conditioning may work in the marine corps, but no matter what life throws at you, you'll either have enough gas in your tank to get through it yourself, or plenty of family, friends, and even complete strangers to push you over the hill. life is a series of uphill climbs, but you get plenty of places to pull over to rest and some downhill cruises to make it all worth living much love to you babygirl, from the bulldog. and i guarantee i guarantee that i'm not the only mingletard on here that sends love your way (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Tue 03/24/15 06:34 PM
Alcohol, tobacco, and firearms.. Who's bringin' the chips? dagnabit, no chips here

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Tue 03/24/15 08:28 PM
much respect and admiration for all 3 of you gentlemen say babygirl, you wouldn't happen to have three sisters would ya? thats what i was thinking.if so i ge to pick first LOL, i reckon if her sister's were like her, it wouldn't matter to me which one i ended up with. you got first pick if it's ohkay with pancho that is ya if thay had ANAs sweet heart and soul iam in.we need moor understanding woman like ANA! woman take note,, aww. very sweet. you're very kind. hope you find someone who makes your heart happy and deserves a good man like each of you.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21250	Tue 03/24/15 08:45 PM
Alcohol, tobacco, and firearms.. Who's bringin' the chips? dagnabit, no chips here The bottles with red caps are coca cola? Right?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Tue 03/24/15 08:57 PM
I just made some cajun chicken alfredo. I used more cheese and less wine.

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Tue 03/24/15 10:04 PM
Amen Mr Bulldog, dead on Sir.

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Wed 03/25/15 08:10 AM
I just made some cajun chicken alfredo. I used more cheese and less wine. i have no comment for this post, but i would like to say to you personally, save me a plate

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Wed 03/25/15 08:13 AM
Amen Mr Bulldog, dead on Sir. thanks bro. the response to this has surprised me. i was expecting to get flamed. just hope that the end result is that the success story thread gets a few posts added to it

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Wed 03/25/15 09:11 AM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one )

MadDog1974 Joined Mon 01/26/15 Posts: 5942	Wed 03/25/15 09:21 AM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) I think we're both drunk because I understood this nonsense and I agree with it!

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Wed 03/25/15 09:32 AM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) after reading this, i'm not sure what side of the fence i want to be on. i've decided that the best thing for me to do is drink a beer on one side, then jump over and have a beer on the other. i'll keep doing this back and forth until i can't jump the fence anymore

dnewnew Joined Fri 05/30/14 Posts: 243	Wed 03/25/15 11:07 AM
To the OP: I think Bill Withers (Lovely Day, Ain't No Sunshine...) wrote a song about this very thing back in the 70's/80's. I heard it on Youtube, but can't remember the name of it (was a live performance recording). Still, even if the ladies are hanging on to baggage & seem to want the men to jump thru hoops to "prove" they are better than the exes the women had, at least the woman is out there...that takes some strength, especially if her last r/s was really bad. I think some women just don't take enough time between r/s's to heal & process. They think they are ready to date, but they aren't. They are still hurting & what they want emotionally is for their past to "not have happened", but that's impossible. You have to learn from your mistakes & sometimes that means making a list of what just doesn't work for you, based on the previous mistakes (like, my ex was alcoholic so I now I'm looking for someone who doesn't drink at all, etc.) This applies to men too btw. Also, let's face it, if there are kids involved: they are living breathing reminders of the father & that r/s didn't work so...it's doubly hard for them to "let it go" when they are constantly reminded of their past.

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Wed 03/25/15 11:23 AM
To the OP: I think Bill Withers (Lovely Day, Ain't No Sunshine...) wrote a song about this very thing back in the 70's/80's. I heard it on Youtube, but can't remember the name of it (was a live performance recording). Still, even if the ladies are hanging on to baggage & seem to want the men to jump thru hoops to "prove" they are better than the exes the women had, at least the woman is out there...that takes some strength, especially if her last r/s was really bad. I think some women just don't take enough time between r/s's to heal & process. They think they are ready to date, but they aren't. They are still hurting & what they want emotionally is for their past to "not have happened", but that's impossible. You have to learn from your mistakes & sometimes that means making a list of what just doesn't work for you, based on the previous mistakes (like, my ex was alcoholic so I now I'm looking for someone who doesn't drink at all, etc.) This applies to men too btw. Also, let's face it, if there are kids involved: they are living breathing reminders of the father & that r/s didn't work so...it's doubly hard for them to "let it go" when they are constantly reminded of their past. Yeah, but to take out their frustrations of an ex, on the next guy who has did nothing to merit it, is wrong and I've had that in the past. That's why Esebulldog, has hit the nail on the head with his first post on this thread, as us guys can relate to that and some women too!

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Wed 03/25/15 01:54 PM
To the OP: I think Bill Withers (Lovely Day, Ain't No Sunshine...) wrote a song about this very thing back in the 70's/80's. I heard it on Youtube, but can't remember the name of it (was a live performance recording). Still, even if the ladies are hanging on to baggage & seem to want the men to jump thru hoops to "prove" they are better than the exes the women had, at least the woman is out there...that takes some strength, especially if her last r/s was really bad. I think some women just don't take enough time between r/s's to heal & process. They think they are ready to date, but they aren't. They are still hurting & what they want emotionally is for their past to "not have happened", but that's impossible. You have to learn from your mistakes & sometimes that means making a list of what just doesn't work for you, based on the previous mistakes (like, my ex was alcoholic so I now I'm looking for someone who doesn't drink at all, etc.) This applies to men too btw. Also, let's face it, if there are kids involved: they are living breathing reminders of the father & that r/s didn't work so...it's doubly hard for them to "let it go" when they are constantly reminded of their past. i had to read your post several times, because i really didn't want to believe the part i put in bold of your post. how a woman could transfer feelings of ill will she may have for a guy on her own child? i keep thinking of the whole love of a mother thing, but i know that happens in the real world you could be onto something by saying some women don't take time to heal from a bad relationship before they get into another one. i guess, for them to place all kinds of rules and regulations on the next guy, before she even meets a next guy, is what i was trying to say i like music and sometimes lyrics hit feelings right on the nail. as long as my life doesn't end up like a country music song i will be alright. wish you remembered the song title, i'd love to hear it. godspeed, bulldog

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Wed 03/25/15 02:15 PM
To the OP: I think Bill Withers (Lovely Day, Ain't No Sunshine...) wrote a song about this very thing back in the 70's/80's. I heard it on Youtube, but can't remember the name of it (was a live performance recording). let me in your life? http://youtu.be/cqRRVrewZ-s

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Wed 03/25/15 05:24 PM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) after reading this, i'm not sure what side of the fence i want to be on. i've decided that the best thing for me to do is drink a beer on one side, then jump over and have a beer on the other. i'll keep doing this back and forth until i can't jump the fence anymore No worries...... and no jumping required, at our age it is bad on our knee joints!

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Wed 03/25/15 05:37 PM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) after reading this, i'm not sure what side of the fence i want to be on. i've decided that the best thing for me to do is drink a beer on one side, then jump over and have a beer on the other. i'll keep doing this back and forth until i can't jump the fence anymore No worries...... and no jumping required, at our age it is bad on our knee joints! Nah, Ese, would just drive his bike through it?

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Wed 03/25/15 05:42 PM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) after reading this, i'm not sure what side of the fence i want to be on. i've decided that the best thing for me to do is drink a beer on one side, then jump over and have a beer on the other. i'll keep doing this back and forth until i can't jump the fence anymore Seriously, Ese, I agree that women and men too, should not whine and complain and VOCALLY (mentally....can)compare their current partners with their ex-es, and making a list is just too obsessive/extreme. But not all are of the temperament to be able to control their thoughts without voicing it out, thus, the 'irritating whine'. On the other side of the fence, suppose you are in a new relationship, and your partner is not one who is vocal. And if you had stated right from the beginning 'don't you compare me with your ex' and she being one to be able to keep her mouth shut, if you start going the path of her ex-es, what do you think she will do.....? Bear with it, or pack and leave? Leave the communication lines open and be open about the expectations from this relationship to make it work. Things went wrong in our previous relationships and we should remember what it was, learn from it, rectify or improve on it to make it work. Otherwise, we will be going down the path again and again. Just my opinion.....no offense!

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Wed 03/25/15 05:46 PM
Good thread, Ese Yes, we should not bring the baggage from a past relationship to a new one, and make comparisons, but we should learn from the mistakes or the circumstances that caused the previous relationship to go bad, recognize it for what it was, and not let history repeat itself. However, that doesn't mean not going thru' the same path again, cos' it may turn out differently..... or may not! Thus, going thru' the same kind of relationship once, twice and even three times for some.... but for some, striking gold in the 2nd round. I still believe if it was meant to be, it will happen. (Actually I don't know what I am talking about!! I'm actually here for the drinks......grabbing one ) after reading this, i'm not sure what side of the fence i want to be on. i've decided that the best thing for me to do is drink a beer on one side, then jump over and have a beer on the other. i'll keep doing this back and forth until i can't jump the fence anymore No worries...... and no jumping required, at our age it is bad on our knee joints! Nah, Ese, would just drive his bike through it? Nah.... he will just jump over it with his bike!! (Hi Tim )

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 03/25/15 05:53 PM
Totes. What's up Ese? It'd be a nice change to see people putting the past where it belongs. Awesome post! i get the whole don't forget the past or you're bound to repeat it thing, but when you are looking to start a new relationship, there isn't a darn thing you can do to change what has already happened to someone. the future is iffy at best, so look for today. as they say, we live in the present One of my missions in life is to be around people who take full advantage of the present and throw away the past. Being around folks who dwell on what was is noxious.