off--being obviously graded on my suitability. Yes, we're both doing that, but subtlety is a li'l sexy. When a date turns into a forensic examination, I start lookin' for the exit.

off--wearing stuff in which she's uncomfortable. If the poor girl is tugging her hemline down, stumbling and grumbling in her heels, checking and re-checking her makeup and hair, it's painful. I appreciate the effort she took to look attractive, but if she isn't comfy, I won't be, either. And it feels a bit sneaky, too - I find myself wondering how big a part of things deception is going to be and lose focus on her. It isn't fair to her or yours truly.

on--She doesn't need me, or anyone else, to convince her she's beautiful. If she's calm, confident and graceful she'll have me eating out of her hand.

on--she's a bit of an exhibitionist. Mom always said, "If you've got it, flaunt it." She needn't be brazen, but I don't know any guys that don't like it when they leave with the woman every male eye in the joint has been drawn to.

tiebreaker--she plays pool really well, or darts, or poker, or trivia games or something. I don't even mind if she wins (as long as she doesn't announce my disastrous defeat over the PA system ).

(and it really wouldn't hurt my feelings if she had long legs and pretty feet)

someone who monopolizes the conversation
or interrupts me when I am speaking
major turn off



someone who can look me in eye
carry on a conversation
is intelligent with sense of humor
major turn on

well if you would move your eyes down a bit lower tmommy

THis, as long as smelling good doesn't mean he bathed himself in half a bottle of aftershave! Some ppl go completely over the top with smellies, I can't stand it, literally. My senses are very sensitive, literally makes me feel sick.

Biggest No1 turn on to me is that someone's got light in his eyes, a spark. Depressed, self absorbed, arrogant ppl etc. don't have that. It's only happy ppl that got a spark in their eyes. And that's what I'm looking for in a partner..

whew gotta figure out how to work this website I got it now ..maybe



that is not part of dinner conversation mister



at least not on the first date

hey at least i'm talking to them er you, and not interrupting you

turn "off" for me if the guy is bad breath, with dentures, lousy dresser, rude and arrogant.
my turn "on" has 8 qualities: Brave, Intelligent, Gentle, Polite, Energetic, Neat, Industious, Sweet..
in acronym.. ( B.I.G.*.E.N.I.S)..

Seriously they should have a registry of domestic abusers so us women can better evaluate if the turn-ons are genuine. More power to the women that way. Certain men think they are so slick only because of how the system is. How are women to know any better before it's too late?

Uh, try googling the person's name.

Google doesn't take the place of having a local registry of domestic violence offenders.

Turn off - If she is on her phone, rude, a liberal, etc.

Turn on - A beautiful set of eyes, beautiful "girly" hands, dresses/skirts, clean (no tattoos or excessive piercings), more conservative than liberal, considerate, attention on me, etc.

Turn on sense of humor. Turn off too much make up.

I've become weary of men who say they like more conservative than liberal women. I want to be a free woman not a slave.

I know plenty of conservative woman, and none of them are slaves.

I agree they should have a registry of domestic abusers both men and women.

Men who want conservative women are that way so they have an excuse later on to become the controlling boyfriend in the name of 'conservatism'. I am neither conservative nor am I liberal, I don't put labels on myself and men who do have issues.

Meanwhile, back in this universe ...

Off: when dat lay-dee with the 17 piercings and greasy hai told me either i take her or she would join the army out of frustration for her ruined life.


On:
when that spanish lay-dee suddenly put her hand on mine while we were eating with a bunch of friends.
That kind of pushed a button right there.

off--arrogance, talking about xxxx when he doesn't even know my name yet WTF?
on---clean ,a deep soft and gentle masculine voice, sense of humor is a big plus, i'm a happy woman and laugh alot.