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Topic: GHOSTING
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Sat 06/27/15 05:47 PM
GHOSTING

The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication skills. Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
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GHOSTING:

1.) The act of disappering on your friends without notice.
2.) Cancelling plans with little or no notice.
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EXAMPLE:
Guy #1: Hey, have you heard from Frank?
Guy #2: No, I think he is ghosting on us!

EXAMPLE :
Carmen: How was your second date with Kyle?
Beth: I thought it went well, but I've texted him a couple of times since then and he's been ghosting me.
Carmen: What? I thought he was more mature than that.
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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ghosting&defid=7363849/
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New York Times -

Ex's Explain Ghosting

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/06/26/fashion/exes-explain-ghosting-the-ultimate-silent-treatment.html/

Datwasntme's photo
Sat 06/27/15 05:50 PM
ghosting can all so be used for
when you are on the net invisable

or blending in well to the area you are at , i have a bad habbit for that , i walk up to people and they dont see me or hear me

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Sat 06/27/15 05:50 PM
Edited by RebelArcher on Sat 06/27/15 05:52 PM

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Sat 06/27/15 05:53 PM
Edited by Dodo_David on Sat 06/27/15 05:54 PM
Moaning Myrtle has her own definition of ghosting.


soufiehere's photo
Sat 06/27/15 06:34 PM
Well, gee.
I always thought they just died.

FunconVenntional's photo
Sat 06/27/15 06:41 PM
There probably isn't any good way to break up, but yeah, this one really sucks. Just make a clean cut so I can move on with my life.

Heck, send a bouquet of blue silk roses:
Some Roses are Red,
These Roses are Blue-
I'm sending you fake ones
To tell you we're through.

I'm sorry to hurt you,
We did have some fun.
But now I'm just grateful
You don't own a gun.

I'm sure as you read this
You wish I was toast.
At least I was honest,
And didn't give you the ghost. indifferent

Howzat Sassy?!?!? Right off the top of my head!! rofl

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Sat 06/27/15 06:49 PM
a couple of experiences like that I make them give me their Driver's Licenses before I'll date again


I ghosted someone once but I really don't think he cared so maybe that doesn't count

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Sat 06/27/15 07:42 PM
They are busy working

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Sat 06/27/15 07:51 PM

They are busy working


uh - huh

spock

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Sat 06/27/15 08:04 PM
Luckily, this hasn't happened to me in terms of dates but I did lose touch with friends over the years, which happens.

I would never be so discourteous as to ghost on someone. I always let them know if I am not interested. I understand how devastating it can be to just disappear from someone's life without a word. I would have the decency to give an explanation if I know this person cared about me.


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Sat 06/27/15 08:34 PM
Hmm. I'm old. So I learned that "ghosting" is when someone stands in for someone else in some way, not when they go silent. A ghostwriter is someone who writes something, and then allows someone else to take credit for the writing.

I know that the world changes, and that new generations unfamiliar with old word meanings, will sometimes take an already used word, and repurpose it, often without knowing that the word already exists with another meaning.

I suppose that's what this is. So I'll have to add to my mental dictionary that in the specific context of online interactions, at least involving New York, that "ghosting" might mean that someone stopped communicating in order to end a relationship through silence.

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Sat 06/27/15 08:37 PM
I've had a fair number of people cease communications with me. Several of them reappeared, some explaining their silence, some simply taking up where they left off, as though they were caught in a time warp or something.

I'm the relaxed cautious type, so if someone does go silent, I don't bother to do anything drastic, like assuming they are trying to give me a rude hint, mainly BECAUSE I've had more cases where they reappeared later than not.

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Mon 06/29/15 04:01 PM

GHOSTING
...... Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
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This is exactly how I've felt the couple of times it happened to me.frustrated In my opinion, this is very RUDE and IMMATURE behavior, so good riddance to em!!
I would NEVER do that to someone!

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Mon 06/29/15 04:05 PM
Meaning what?you go on a date and they don't call again?
or its a no show?

Ɔʎɹɐx's photo
Mon 06/29/15 04:06 PM
sometimes "ghosting" is necessary , even ghosting yourself .

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Mon 06/29/15 04:15 PM





Demi Moore looked really cute there bigsmile

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Mon 06/29/15 04:19 PM

Meaning what?you go on a date and they don't call again?
or its a no show?

I am also confused...


Is this where they just drop off the radar to just you or to everyone??

Yes I read the article and still didn't make sense to me

justme659's photo
Mon 06/29/15 04:36 PM
Edited by justme659 on Mon 06/29/15 04:37 PM

Well, gee.
I always thought they just died.


I think that is a tad more realistic than what I thought.
I usually think they got sucked up in a polar vortex. slaphead

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Thu 08/06/15 06:52 PM
Had to do this recently because after one "date" he started hmu even more than before meeting. I told him was only interested as Freinds even prior to meeting because he had some major character flaws,but met him anyway. So I just stopped answering calls and block everywhere . I hate doing that sort of thing because it's cowardly to an extent. However there are too many people that get nasty when u reject them. you got to do what's good for you .

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