I recently got out of bad relationship. I moved on. But im curious what people thought. I dated a guy 8 months. Broke thing off through facebook message which is low and then block. Just said dealing with tough family situation and he had doubts too. I tried texting wanting explanation he says i dont deserve one and sees no point in it and refuses to give me one. We argue a full week. Then i found he got another girl he taking a date no sooner than 2 weeks later. Can exs actually be friends? Also i am correct or wrong thinking he broke things off for another girl?

Move on and don't look back!

i am friends with most of my x's
wish them the best

not enough info for the rest

I don't know what you mean by "friends."

You mean stay up all night watching classic movies, eating cookie dough ice cream, talking about boys, braiding each others hair, and giggling?
Not unless your ex's last name is Jenner

You mean friendly towards each other without a lot of hate, general acquaintance, without animosity? Maybe with the occasional going out for dinner or whatever when you aren't seeing anyone, to have something to do that's better than being alone or meeting strangers or being around those you work with, and if one of you isn't single then someone's partner is there every time?
Sure.

You mean like a romantic relationship of intimacy and bonding without the sexual motivation, where you talk deeply about your feelings openly and honestly and cry on each other and play basketball?
No.

You mean pretend to be friends but really keep each other as backup?
Definitely, happens all the time with people telling themselves that isn't what's going on.


Does it matter?
Let's say you're correct. Now what? Does it solve anything?
Do you just feel more righteous in judging him an a-hole?
Are you judging him more of an a-hole than you did before?

Let's say you're wrong. Now what? Do you want him back?
Are you going to forget being tossed aside via facebook and ignored, until you dragged a fight out of him?
You think if he came back and you were in a relationship he wouldn't do the same thing in the face of another problem?

If you don't want him back, and you are wrong about "why" he broke up with you, what are you going to do? Sit and think more and more and more using more effort and time to come up with the "real" or "right" reason?


Are you sure you moved on?
The question "i am correct or wrong thinking he..." kinda denotes you aren't.

what the...how old are you?

sounds rather junior high to me but maybe you all are young

he broke up with you on facebook and blocked you?
and went right out and dated someone new..


and you wanna know what?

I am wondering why you are even asking when the answer is obvious.

honestly Tom, I normally skip by your posts (too long, and im lazy lol)
but you hit the nail on the head with this one

That was pretty pathetic

forgive, forget, move on.

Best answer..........

You are too nice looking of a girl to deserve a guy like that....

Move on and show him you can do much better....

Humm sounds like you have not moved on since this is still bothering you..

He cut ties with you in a low life manner...Not man enough to tell you the truth therefore now worthy of you...

Most likely he had already meet that girl prior to breaking it off with you and was not man enough to tell you, that he did not want to be with you anymore...

Those are the kinds you wash your hands of, and move on cause it would have never went anywhere any way...

Sure there is more to the story but in the end it is time to forgive in order to move on...

So you think your suppose to wait how long before finding a new one.

Most the time people find a new one before they tell you.

I've been in similar situations and when someone hurts you like that you can have unresolved anger and other feelings that make it hard to move on.

I did find making friends with an ex that hurt me helpful and I even got an apology out of her. What can also happen though when you basically dig up an old relationship is that the atraction will probably still be there and then you might take them back, or sleep with them again anyway and then you've got somebody that does things like dumping you on Facebook because he's got another girl jerking you around when you're worth more than that.

There isn't really enough info about what happened prior to the dumping though and we don't know what his point of view is and what he thinks about you. Maybe he just bailed out when things weren't fun anymore.