Ok she or he have been going on
ok let me start over.. .. your new love interest has been going on about their incredible cooking abilities let's just say they keep telling you that they can make an awesome soup..
so now the day has arrived you go to their place candles are lit soft music in the background a nice bottle of wine breathing on the table they present you with this much talked about soup.. you take a spoonful.. and to your surprise your first reaction is not ....oh my god! this is the best soup I've ever tasted.... but more of one of This Is It ?this is the soup you've been bragging about.!!. needless to say the soup is barely palatable..
so now what do you do ?when they ask you!... sweetheart how is the soup..
you all can take it from there ... I guess the question is how honest are you really in these moments

I might SAY it was delicious..but my face would be contorted and
there would be no doubt of the truth.

that depends....how often you want to eat that soup

Yes the face always gives it away..Lol..
but then this raises the question of their taste.. or at least a question of their taste buds and sense of smell ... .. like does this person not know their soup tastes bad.... oh my god how can you not know this taste bad I almost threw up in my own mouth lol.. so then do you start eyeballing everything about them..
Like if they think this soup is... oh well that would explain why they're wearing that weird outfit.. and now that I'm thinking about it.. she did say she like that movie we saw last week.. which was a complete piece of garbage..And she liked it ..

Well since I am a nortorious practical joker you have probably just been had. So I would hope you would say something funny or figure out a way to one up the joke.

Or be wondering what someone had told me because maybe you are getting a little old southern "rough justice" if it is really bad.

Either way it is time to man up and have and opinion.

I went to a friend's for dinner.
While I was in the kitchen, her huge cat came in, jumped up on the
counter and started pushing stuff off.

The macaroni salad fell upside down, of course.

As I stood there, horrified, the friend turned around, scooped all
that salad off a filthy floor back into the bowl then gave me the shush sign..as she served it.

I have not been able to eat there since.

Everybody has their own standards.
Hers may be low, as soups go.

You can be honest in a nice way but never insult someone who made an effort to cook for you and please you.
Say the truth about how it taste but with a suggestion of how to improve the taste .....you can say....the taste is ok but I think there's something lacking, hmmmnnnn a little salt or something would have made it more tastier and then you suddenly vomit ooooh you liar!

I would eat what I could if it was bad I would leave it be.. And just tell them I'm not really a soup person...

I would myself, tell the truth, politely and accurately. "Not to my own tastes" would be something along the lines of what I would probably say.

Let me see if i have this situation correct.. You have been dating this sweet lady. She has been telling you about this wonderful soup she makes, you encourage her to make it and she does. It is a huge flop, the first questions comes to mind. Did she eat it or did she play with it?

If she ate it and loved it, you are faced with a choice either tell her the truth or lie and be faced with getting that soup.

Me I would politely tell them.. It was really good but I am not sure there was something that didn't agree with me. Or you can say..I appreciate al the hard work you poured into this but honestly I can't do this and don't want to hurt your feelings.

Me I am copping with the first one.If I want to continue the relationship..

I remember years ago I made this special dessert I had been bragging about, well I forgot to add the sugar.. Yeppers it was horrible and I was so embarrassed. Thankfully we could laugh about it.

I would accidently dump it on my lap.
Good excuse for the pants to come off.
And she can butter my burns.
WIN

Treat it with some reverence.
I don't cook a lot. I just waste a lot of food that way.
I eat out a lot. I give them money, they give me food.

When someone makes me food, I treat it with some reverence.
I get strange weirded out looks from people I date sometimes because of that.

They made it with their own two hands, and not for any kind of return, but solely because they think I'd like it.

Little different than if I had a 4 year old kid and they handed me a crayon drawing and asked me what I thought of the picture they drew for me.

The more they care what I think and feel the more other things, than what it looks like or tastes like, matters and is part of my answer.

The less they care about what I think and feel, the more prosaic the intended gesture, the less other things matter, the more focus is placed on direct, secular, reactions.


Depends on the limiting conditions involved, what is motivating the moment, and what their indirect communication is telling me.

If she only cared about the taste of the soup, my reaction would be based solely upon the taste of the soup.

If she mostly cared about the gesture and meaning of the soup, my answer would be more relevant to the gesture and meaning of the soup.

I would figure out what she was asking based on my ability to actually communicate with her, the ability to figure out what she's asking beyond what's coming out of her lips.

If you are asking "do you answer in a way that attempts to punish her in a sense in order to manipulate her future behavior into making soup the way you like it, or to stop making soup that way, or to keep her from insulting your personality by offering something that isn't pleasant to your taste buds," then no, I try not to do that to people I date.


As a kid I worked in a bakery. One lady came in to get a cake.
She was in a hurry because her husband had dropped the main cake onto the floor.
The problem wasn't the cake fell onto the floor, but that he just handed kids forks and the kids just attacked the cake and she was worried all the kids wouldn't get some, and she knew the other parents didn't want floor cake.
I wish she had brought me pictures.

I would act like it was good and just appreciate someone cooking and spending time with me. If bad soup is my biggest worry then I would be ahead of the game.

I would start by saying how great everything is how romantic its fantastic BUT hey maybe something went wrong with the soup. could it have burnt while you made everything else so wonderful.

If I were the girl, I wouldn't try so much in impressing the guy of my cooking skills, instead of bragging about her best soup , why not ask for the food that he likes and cook that for him but you have to ask his help in the kitchen if he is willing he gets free meal but he needs to help it would be a fun time sharing that moment of closeness and you can both share your cooking skills so at the end when everything is a flop , there's no one to blame playing safe