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If you are not dating the only person you have to blame is YOU.
Some gal gives you a sob story that she just doesn't trust men she is snowing you or trying to bore you to tears so you will quit whining in her ear after you wise up when a few nice guy efforts get you no where. You want to be dateable you have to upgrade your game. Get some social skills (learn how to converse with women, write a profile, get a professional photo, create a dating budget, learn a few dance moves, get a couple of date outfits, and market yourself like something besides a sad sack. When you actually ask and get a date be fun to be with. Have a plan but be adaptable. Send a nice card after or call her up with a Thank you the day after. You don't have to throw a lot of money around but if you treat every woman you meet like it is a pain to care about her then she sure is not going to care about you and the competition will not look back and feel bad that you did not make the effort that they did. If you have barriers to dating that lower your odds of being selected you may have to prioritize what you want more: the smokes, the facial hair, the things that are blowing up your BMI, or a date/partner. The things I mention will narrow your pool and others can be more PC and say it doesn't matter but it does. Especially for and older dater; "health" is and issue. Nobody is going to jump into your arms if you don't pay your dues. You have to spend a little time each week on the site putting your best foot forward in the forums, sending little notes, and answering mail promptly. Do the things that get you views by adding photos and greeting new members or remembering the regulars. You don't have to know someone personally to say happy holiday or birthday. And you don't have to know someone personally or be a Don Jaun to give them a business card with your Mingle address. Just smile and say "I think you are nice." Then skim the online news, develop a few topics for conversation, and be just a little bit more of a gentleman than the next shmo and you have a shot for success. |
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to answer your question. honesty has long term benefits dishonesty has short term benefits. most people are in a hurry to get what they want.
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Why cant people be honest? Let me see if I can get the gist of what you're asking... People are always trying to be someone they are not...Men are really bad at this and all it does is make it harder for men like myself...Stop doing that...why can't people be honest? So basically "if all other men just would start behaving a certain way, then more women would give me what I want." You really believe that? I don't know if that's more insulting to men or women. |
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People are always trying to be someone they are not when dating or trying to date someone. Men are really bad at this and all it does is make it harder for men like myself that are truly looking for a life long partner. I hear you. Hopefully we are all adults here and judge the person by there merits and not someone else's misdeeds. |
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If you are not dating the only person you have to blame is YOU. Some gal gives you a sob story that she just doesn't trust men she is snowing you or trying to bore you to tears so you will quit whining in her ear after you wise up when a few nice guy efforts get you no where. You want to be dateable you have to upgrade your game. Get some social skills (learn how to converse with women, write a profile, get a professional photo, create a dating budget, learn a few dance moves, get a couple of date outfits, and market yourself like something besides a sad sack. When you actually ask and get a date be fun to be with. Have a plan but be adaptable. Send a nice card after or call her up with a Thank you the day after. You don't have to throw a lot of money around but if you treat every woman you meet like it is a pain to care about her then she sure is not going to care about you and the competition will not look back and feel bad that you did not make the effort that they did. If you have barriers to dating that lower your odds of being selected you may have to prioritize what you want more: the smokes, the facial hair, the things that are blowing up your BMI, or a date/partner. The things I mention will narrow your pool and others can be more PC and say it doesn't matter but it does. Especially for and older dater; "health" is and issue. Nobody is going to jump into your arms if you don't pay your dues. You have to spend a little time each week on the site putting your best foot forward in the forums, sending little notes, and answering mail promptly. Do the things that get you views by adding photos and greeting new members or remembering the regulars. You don't have to know someone personally to say happy holiday or birthday. And you don't have to know someone personally or be a Don Jaun to give them a business card with your Mingle address. Just smile and say "I think you are nice." Then skim the online news, develop a few topics for conversation, and be just a little bit more of a gentleman than the next shmo and you have a shot for success. there are people, both men and women who do have trust issues or other things that make dating difficult but not impossible. that doesn't make them less of a person. sometimes it's a matter of taking the time to be comfortable with each other. what we've been through shapes who we are now. if it will matter in the shaping of a relationship, sharing those details is a matter of accepting all that we are |
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Well OP you certainly sound like every woman's dream.
I'm surprised you haven't been snapped up yet which leaves me wondering why. |
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Edited by
jimmy01212
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Mon 08/31/15 02:36 AM
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Well Iv'e met a few women on here and every one of them say they either live near me or within 100 miles or thats what they put on their profile but after I start talking with them. I find out they dont even live in the USA and never have. and then here we go,,,,, i need your help, can you send money, I need i need i need, or can you give me or send me, and so on people lie on here a lot and claim to be someone they or not.
like i met this women on here and she had put down that she lived in Maryland and so on . and we began to talk and i notice the way she was chatting and how she wrote down her words. so one day I asked her about it and she told me she was in why . Shes never live in the usa and she lives in Ghana. and then here it started, give give give. then just the other day or so i met the woman who was in northern VA. so she had on her profile she sent me a message of where she was and she was stranded in another country and needed help. Well i havent responded back I guess you know why right. You would think that this site would do better on checking out people before they allow them to make a profile. Its just a thought. So people watch out. Im closing my account here |
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hiii sexy baby
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Well Iv'e met a few women on here and every one of them say they either live near me or within 100 miles or thats what they put on their profile but after I start talking with them. I find out they dont even live in the USA and never have. and then here we go,,,,, i need your help, can you send money, I need i need i need, or can you give me or send me, and so on people lie on here a lot and claim to be someone they or not.
like i met this women on here and she had put down that she lived in Maryland and so on . and we began to talk and i notice the way she was chatting and how she wrote down her words. so one day I asked her about it and she told me she was in why . Shes never live in the usa and she lives in Ghana. and then here it started, give give give. then just the other day or so i met the woman who was in northern VA. so she had on her profile she sent me a message of where she was and she was stranded in another country and needed help. Well i havent responded back I guess you know why right. You would think that this site would do better on checking out people before they allow them to make a profile. Its just a thought. So people watch out. Im closing my account here |
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online life is the same as real life
some people are very sincere,honest and genuine, some people aren't no point crying over it, you just have to weed the dishonest ones out and get on with it. |
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