Topic: Handfasting
TawtStrat's photo
Wed 10/07/15 08:31 AM
How do you feel about it? Are you a bit squeemish or have other reservations? Do you have a problem with it because you would only be a consort?

It's supposed to be a Celtic tradition that predates Christianity. I find it quite interesting. Well, I am Scottish. It's when you marry a witch. It's not legal though. A fun thing to do maybe. Jim Morrison did it.

Unlike with a Christian marriage the vow is to promise that death cannot part you and only lack of love can. You are eternally bound in some way. It seems like more of a commitment than a Christian style marriage where you can just get divorced and marry someone else while you're still alive.

soufiehere's photo
Wed 10/07/15 09:26 AM
I live around a lot of Indians.
To get married, they just say so..that is it.
If they..unmarry, they walk away but the bond is still there.

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Wed 10/07/15 09:45 AM
Handfasting
Whew! Thought, at first, this was some type of "no masturbation" vow laugh

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 10/07/15 10:32 AM
Edited by Dodo_David on Wed 10/07/15 10:33 AM
How do you feel about it?


I wouldn't want a repeat of the Battle of Coire na Creiche. :tongue:

Anyway, historical handfasting was simply a betrothal having nothing to do with witchcraft.
See http://medievalscotland.org/history/handfasting.shtml

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 10/07/15 06:24 PM

How do you feel about it?


I wouldn't want a repeat of the Battle of Coire na Creiche. :tongue:

Anyway, historical handfasting was simply a betrothal having nothing to do with witchcraft.
See http://medievalscotland.org/history/handfasting.shtml


Exactly I am I actually believe in it. I think it is a great idea. If it is done the old way.

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Wed 10/07/15 06:26 PM
All I read was the title..surprised
I thought it said Fistingshocked laugh
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Backs out slowly....waving

kc0003's photo
Wed 10/07/15 06:31 PM

All I read was the title..surprised
I thought it said Fistingshocked laugh
...
Backs out slowly....waving

ha!...perv laugh

honestly though, i wasn't too sure myself!

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Wed 10/07/15 06:33 PM


All I read was the title..surprised
I thought it said Fistingshocked laugh
...
Backs out slowly....waving

ha!...perv laugh

honestly though, i wasn't too sure myself!


Bahahahahaha..glad I wasn't the only one:angel: :laughing:

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 10/07/15 06:44 PM

All I read was the title..surprised
I thought it said Fistingshocked laugh
...
Backs out slowly....waving


now im curious on your views if that was indeed the title......hmmmm:tongue:

Rock's photo
Wed 10/07/15 06:50 PM
Better dead, than wed.

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Wed 10/07/15 06:51 PM
laugh

Valeris's photo
Wed 10/07/15 06:54 PM
Edited by Valeris on Wed 10/07/15 06:54 PM

How do you feel about it? Are you a bit squeemish or have other reservations? Do you have a problem with it because you would only be a consort?

It's supposed to be a Celtic tradition that predates Christianity. I find it quite interesting. Well, I am Scottish. It's when you marry a witch. It's not legal though. A fun thing to do maybe. Jim Morrison did it.

Unlike with a Christian marriage the vow is to promise that death cannot part you and only lack of love can. You are eternally bound in some way. It seems like more of a commitment than a Christian style marriage where you can just get divorced and marry someone else while you're still alive.


Life experience has taught me to keep my Spiritual beliefs "under the radar" but I am & have been a practicing Pagan for many years. My last marriage was celebrated in the Neopagan tradition with an enactment of The Handfasting Ritual. Without writing a book on the topic, I'll post, a couple of asides that might be of some general interest. In the Handfasting Ritual/Ceremony-the bride is not & can never be "Given Away" by any mortal representative[i.e.Father, Brother, mother, ect]. The first question that is usually asked to the bride by The High Priestess[the usual officiator of this Ritual], "Do you [name] come here today to join with[name]of your own free will?" The vows that are exchanged & bind the couple in a Handfasting Ceremony, traditionally only apply to a time frame of one calendar year. After such time has elapsed; the couple, then has the option either to renew their sacred vows to stay together or separate without recrimination.
I have read that the "time element of a year" evolved in historical context to the time when a wife was considered to be "The personal property[chattel]" of her husband. In such times, horrific, frequent, & deadly instances of domestic abuse flourished without any social political & legal remedies available to the victim for her own self- protection. "The Goddess" is a Major Deity of Primary Importance in many of the different Sects that are defined as "Pagan". Paganism & Christianity regard The Feminine & Women in too many contrary ways to even include in an informal post. The "Time Frame of A Year" evolved as protection for a woman who found herself with an abusive partner that legitimized her escape from the union.
*If anyone is a fan of The Vikings TV Series; in Season 2 Episode 7, the writers have done a wonderful job of contrasting the Pagan Handfasting Ceremony with the traditional Christian Wedding Ceremony.
+note[The Viking/Season 2 Episode 7] ; the High Priestess's use of a sword to "Pass The Protection Of The Father Over To The Husband" is not correct. While the use of the sword is a common practice in The Handfasting Ritual; the spoken dialog & reasons implied by the content of that dialog are not accurate.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 10/09/15 02:24 AM
I would like a handfasting, but I wouldn't make vows to make it last beyond death. Like in Outlander, they make the handfasting a blood vow. In BDSM collaring ceremonies -which are oddly similar to handfasting ceremonies- a similar thing is done (with blood). I'd never do that, because I know how such vows can affect you. Many ppl suffer greatly this life from such vows made in previous ones. If you've vowed to be someone's partner beyond death, you may have great difficulty finding a partner this life, because you aren't free. You're already (still) someone's partner.

But handfasting, yes, would love that!

And indeed jumping the groom is the best part! Nice play with words, hihi
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