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Topic: How can you know you are in love?
Jimmy_roy's photo
Tue 07/05/16 09:19 AM
Strange thing to ask but really I want to know how can you say that you love someone? I hear that when you fell in love you hear bells when see her/him, you feel butterflies in your stomach, you always feel happy near her/him, etc etc...
What do you think??

babykris6c's photo
Tue 07/05/16 11:01 AM
When you don't want to lose that person and want a future with him/her. When s/he becomes your first priority.

Jaan Doh 's photo
Tue 07/05/16 11:25 AM

When you don't want to lose that person and want a future with him/her. When s/he becomes your first priority.



As babykris6c said...
And also your heartbeat gets faster when the person is around you.

BreakingGood's photo
Tue 07/05/16 03:41 PM
When you are broke, working on honey-do-lists, your free time is gone, you can't see your friends, football is out of the question, your beer is replaced with wine, your motorcycles are gone, your guns are dusty, and..........

your okay with all of that.

:heart:

Np42's photo
Wed 07/06/16 09:39 AM
Hi

no photo
Wed 07/06/16 10:34 AM
Edited by dolphin0925 on Wed 07/06/16 10:53 AM
When your heart says lub... dub... lub... dub....ooh thank God I'm alive and in love:heart: :banana:

Kidding aside, you will know you're in love when everyday you look forward talking to him/her, when your heart beats so fast everytime you hear his/her voice, when you give up something for him/her to let him/her know that he/she is important, when you put your feelings in words it just comes out easily, when you take time to look for a love quotation that exactly and perfectly expresses your thoughts and feelings, when you are always online waiting for him/her to message or call you and gets hurt or disappointed to see him/her online yet he never messaged you but saw that he messaged someone on FB , still you were just there waiting and telling yourself oh it's OK, he/she'll message me later, OK I'll waitlaugh slaphead :banana: , you feel stupid for being lied to and fooled yet you still love him/herlaugh laugh laugh , when you keep your eyes or ears closed and believe his/her lies, when you forgive his/her sins/faults, when you stand and fight for him/her against your family and friends, when you are ready to give up anything/everything for him, when you do foolish things that some people don't quite understand why you did it for him/her and they call you stupid......ooh, I did it all for love rofl rofl rofl :laughing: slaphead :banana:

no1phD's photo
Wed 07/06/16 10:53 AM
Edited by no1phD on Wed 07/06/16 10:55 AM
Ummm.... from what I have observed from women that tell me they love me..
.. you have to freak out if I don't return your messages within 3 minutes... and then you have to start calling me every minute on the minute repeatedly....lol... when you don't feel I'm giving you enough attention send me death threats.... and then a minute later when you calm down.. you send me naughty pics..


..
...

then. Some days you find yourself out in public..Cursing the day I was ever born loudly
to yourself .
.will jumping up and down on the pavement.... you do the same thing too ,when I say I don't have time to meet you... but instead of jumping up and down you throw your phone to the pavement smashing it into a thousand pieces.
. And then you run to the store and immediately buy a new phone..
Call me up and apologize...lol....
Yep true love .. ain't it something special..lmao

TMommy's photo
Wed 07/06/16 11:19 AM
if you gotta ask? you ain't there yet

no photo
Wed 07/06/16 11:42 AM
How can you know you are in love?

In hindsight.

What do you think??

I think for a lot of people the more they look for something to explain how things are the more they come to believe how things should be, and when things aren't they can't see anything outside of it.

Little different than trying to read the end of a mystery novel, then going back through the story, holding misdirects and teasers and what turn out to be superfluous characters/suspects to no account, even though they are relevant to the enjoyment of the story.

Jimmy_roy's photo
Wed 07/06/16 01:43 PM

if you gotta ask? you ain't there yet


Well as you already know how we started it takes time for things to happen. It was not a love on first sight story but I have done lot of stupid things for her inspite of getting multiple warning from you guys and my friends like getting involved with her parents issues, etc etc...but you are right I am still not clear so I asked..flowerforyou frustrated

tank132's photo
Wed 07/06/16 02:17 PM
When you stop cheating,cause you don't want to loose her:100:

RustyKitty's photo
Wed 07/06/16 03:17 PM
Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy ...
Do you mean to ask "How do I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this person"??
Take into consideration what the OP have to say..
Is this the same girl of whom surprised you with the
news of her having the ex boyfriend stay at her place? I am
sure you have a great passion for her, but think with your head (the
big one on your shoulders) Make a list ..be analytical ...Imagine a future together by examining past behaviour,,,does she stay mad and hold a grudge? Is there a drama queen there anywhere? What about goals and getting there? Money, Jimmy, money is
what breaks down most marriages (that is , a lack of it). Is she a worker that will help achieve these goals?
Then what about sexual compatibility?
You are not living with her yet, are you??
Nothing like living with someone to get to know them...
Keep dating and having experiences and see how compatible you are in aspects of life..
That's my .02c dollop of wisdom
winking




Candiapples's photo
Wed 07/06/16 03:18 PM
All of the above :smile:

Annierooroo's photo
Wed 07/06/16 03:55 PM

if you gotta ask? you ain't there yet


Amen
I was thinking the same thing

Goofball73's photo
Wed 07/06/16 04:14 PM
If she takes you to do something that she doesn't enjoy but knows that you do.....yeah.....she's the one. :wink:

Jimmy_roy's photo
Thu 07/07/16 07:24 PM

Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy ...
Do you mean to ask "How do I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this person"??
Take into consideration what the OP have to say..
Is this the same girl of whom surprised you with the
news of her having the ex boyfriend stay at her place? I am
sure you have a great passion for her, but think with your head (the
big one on your shoulders) Make a list ..be analytical ...Imagine a future together by examining past behaviour,,,does she stay mad and hold a grudge? Is there a drama queen there anywhere? What about goals and getting there? Money, Jimmy, money is
what breaks down most marriages (that is , a lack of it). Is she a worker that will help achieve these goals?
Then what about sexual compatibility?
You are not living with her yet, are you??
Nothing like living with someone to get to know them...
Keep dating and having experiences and see how compatible you are in aspects of life..
That's my .02c dollop of wisdom
winking





Kitty Kitty Kitty hahaha
The topic is in general to everyone. And
You are right about Jenny, there is a long list to be made bigsmile
But love doesn't happen after making long list or ticking all the boxes, it just happens and you can't help yourself. I feel all the points which you mentioned are related to living together but not for loving someone, what do you think?? :banana:

no photo
Thu 07/07/16 08:46 PM
Edited by dolphin0925 on Thu 07/07/16 08:54 PM


Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy ...
Do you mean to ask "How do I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this person"??
Take into consideration what the OP have to say..
Is this the same girl of whom surprised you with the
news of her having the ex boyfriend stay at her place? I am
sure you have a great passion for her, but think with your head (the
big one on your shoulders) Make a list ..be analytical ...Imagine a future together by examining past behaviour,,,does she stay mad and hold a grudge? Is there a drama queen there anywhere? What about goals and getting there? Money, Jimmy, money is
what breaks down most marriages (that is , a lack of it). Is she a worker that will help achieve these goals?
Then what about sexual compatibility?
You are not living with her yet, are you??
Nothing like living with someone to get to know them...
Keep dating and having experiences and see how compatible you are in aspects of life..
That's my .02c dollop of wisdom
winking





Kitty Kitty Kitty hahaha
The topic is in general to everyone. And
You are right about Jenny, there is a long list to be made bigsmile
But love doesn't happen after making long list or ticking all the boxes, it just happens and you can't help yourself. I feel all the points which you mentioned are related to living together but not for loving someone, what do you think?? :banana:


I agree with you that love doesn't happen after making long list or ticking all the boxes, love does happen and you can't control it. But sometimes we love for all the wrong reasons, we thought what we feel is love but the truth is it's not real love. When we take time to deeply examine ourselves for the reasons why we are with that particular person in our lives, maybe then we will realize what we truly feel. It could be that we are with someone for a momentary feeling of love because he or she happened to fill that vacancy, emptiness, loneliness in our lives yet haven't reach the deeper core of our being to find real love in our hearts. Other times we commit to someone too fast without making sure of our true feelings yet, if it's really love or not only to get confused later asking ourselves " do I really love her or him?". If you are not sure of your feelings , be brave to let go of that person and find yourself. Take time to realize her worth in your life, is your love enough to hold her in your heart forever or not, will you be ready to weather the storm that would come by in your relationship? If you are not sure, take a break, honestly tell the girl, let her go and if you finally realized your true feelings then go back to her, if she still loves you, she will take you back again. Don't hold someone if you're not sure of your feelings, that would be unfair and you could hurt her for she will feel it in anyway that you don't really love her. Don't keep someone just to fill that needs or vacancy in your life and don't want to be alone and lonely. Women are not entertainers. Keep your woman and love her with all her imperfections and with all your heart. Don't find answers anywhere, only you can answer that question , find the answer in YOUR HEART. Love is everywhere and we all love in different ways. True love lies within your heart, you will recognize it at the right time with the right person:tongue: happy :heart:

Jimmy_roy's photo
Fri 07/08/16 09:56 AM

I agree with you that love doesn't happen after making long list or ticking all the boxes, love does happen and you can't control it. But sometimes we love for all the wrong reasons, we thought what we feel is love but the truth is it's not real love. When we take time to deeply examine ourselves for the reasons why we are with that particular person in our lives, maybe then we will realize what we truly feel. It could be that we are with someone for a momentary feeling of love because he or she happened to fill that vacancy, emptiness, loneliness in our lives yet haven't reach the deeper core of our being to find real love in our hearts. Other times we commit to someone too fast without making sure of our true feelings yet, if it's really love or not only to get confused later asking ourselves " do I really love her or him?". If you are not sure of your feelings , be brave to let go of that person and find yourself. Take time to realize her worth in your life, is your love enough to hold her in your heart forever or not, will you be ready to weather the storm that would come by in your relationship? If you are not sure, take a break, honestly tell the girl, let her go and if you finally realized your true feelings then go back to her, if she still loves you, she will take you back again. Don't hold someone if you're not sure of your feelings, that would be unfair and you could hurt her for she will feel it in anyway that you don't really love her. Don't keep someone just to fill that needs or vacancy in your life and don't want to be alone and lonely. Women are not entertainers. Keep your woman and love her with all her imperfections and with all your heart. Don't find answers anywhere, only you can answer that question , find the answer in YOUR HEART. Love is everywhere and we all love in different ways. True love lies within your heart, you will recognize it at the right time with the right person:tongue: happy :heart:

wow that is deep and you are right too..
But still we hear love at first sight or opposite attract or various other theories about love which I find to be true too. So ultimately it is difficult to say whether you are in love or it is just an attraction. May be that what makes it so complex and complicated, anyway can you differentiate love with attraction?

Seakolony's photo
Fri 07/08/16 10:16 AM
When you enjoy being around and with a person beyond the passion. Passion burns bright and hot and fizzles. Love stands the test of time and is a driving force to work together and move beyond the passion to a gentle loving companionship. Sex is a physical release love is in the soul.

RustyKitty's photo
Fri 07/08/16 12:38 PM
Don't confuse lust with love

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