My gf is a very attractive gal and I get excited just by her touch, I guess you guys can understand right. Because of so much excitement we normally have marathons on bed and lucky for me she loves sex too. After sometime it becomes exhausting so I switch on porn to continue the session with which she was fine but nowadays she complains that I am more interested in porn than her and I require porn to have sex with her. It is not like I need porn to have sex with her, it is just that I need time to recover which shortens if I see porn. Is something wrong in seeing porn?? (it is just gal on gal or normal sex porn)

My opinion is I would rather have less sex that was a real connection between me and my man than lots of sex fuelled by porn in the background. Use the recovery times to try a little tenderness. Not everything is about sex.

Humm so you have sex with your gf then immediately flip on the tv to porn??

Yea I would say that would be a big problem for most women..

Why not just cuddle and relax that way.. make her feel like you want to be with her and not the porn stars instead??

But honestly I would have said something the very first time..if someone flipped on the tv to watch porn after making love..

Hell if it was his place I would get up put on my clothes and tell him to enjoy his porn and walk out.. JMO~~~

That is my mistake too, starting we use to have just enough sex but after I introduced her to multiple orgasms and some other stuff it has been marathon nights only. After 2-3 hours, sometimes I just go oral on her and other times I take support of porn. Until I don't increase my stamina, I require help.

No No No, I understand that and ofcourse I don't switch on porn after sex. Its like after 2-3 hours when I need time, I switch on porn and cuddle her or give her an oral. Its not like I stop having sex and watch porn but consider it as a medium to get me excited again.

What is wrong is you trying to please her too much to your own detriment! She's so demanding on you that you feel you need to get hard after sex as quickly as possible and I'm sure she's not helping.
Does she even care about at all or is getting everything from you right here right now her main driving force?
Can't she take you as a human being or does she see you as a sex robot?
sure, you're going to say it's YOU that wantit to be that way but can you discount her influence?
Sex should not be work, even though most women expect a sex slave in bed and an emotional tampon slave outside of it, you do not need to be anything but what YOU are willing to be.
Have sex as many times as you like but do give yourself ample resting time, even if you fall asleep for 30mins or the entire rest of the night. You owe no one anything but what YOU and the Law decide you owe.

Hahahaha..I love her and love to have sex with her...and ofcourse I want her to be always excited around me as she is now. Once I get my stamina back then I won't require porn or other stuff but right now I need a temporary solution to help me.

porn isn't a temporary solution. A blow job is.

I feel exhausted just reading about your sex life

Sounds like a never ending marathon...I see no problems here...just stay hydrated.

Agreed

WHEN YOUR FOCUS IS NOT ON YOUR MATE WHILE HAVING SEX IT TAKES AWAY FROM

HER....SHE CAN FEELS LESS THAN SHE IS AND RIGHTLY SO.....ANYTHING YOU DO THAT

SHE IS NOT COMFORTABLE WITH WILL CAUSE HER NOT TO ENJOY SEX AND COULD TURN HER

OFF TO SEX....IT'S NORMAL FOR A WOMENS SEXUAL APPETITE TO VERY FROM ONE EXTREME

TO ANOTHER AND CHANGE WITH AGE....

I just wonder what positive can come from posting this scenario and question?

I mean if everyone on the forums says "no! It's no problem!" are you going to go to your girlfriend and say "hey! Those people on the internet said it's not a problem...which means there's something wrong with you if you can't accept it or see it as wrong. So that problem you have with it? Just stop. Internet strangers said so."

If everyone on the forums says "yes! It's wrong!" are you going to go to your girlfriend and say "well, gee, honey, I'm going to magically recover without porn now, or keep watching porn and feel bad about myself. Because everyone on the internet said it was wrong I owe you an apology for doing something wrong. I couldn't just listen to you and respect you had a problem with it, I had to go seek out internet strangers to give me an idea if I could come back and attack you with their perspective, or if I had to really care how you feel. They say I have to take your opinion seriously, so now I will, maybe."



Ultimately the issue is not the porn.
It's her problem with you seeing porn. Her emotions, her opinion, her ideas, her insecurities, her wants.
And you're asking us to validate or judge your choice to watch porn.
Which is actually ignoring her problem.

It's like you're asking "my wife has a problem with me slapping her. But MMA really gets me in the mood. Is watching ESPN wrong?"

I get the suspicion that this thread was started so that the OP could brag about his sexual activity.

This is very common, especially among younger and less experienced people.

You have confused quantity of sex, with quality of the relationship. You fear that if the quantity of sex wanes, that the relationship will falter. And as many people do in reaction to that, you turn to artificial stimulation.

Most of the time, using porn to some degree is not a problem. But in this kind of situation, using porn at all, means the sex you are having, is no longer based on caring for each other, and is instead a mechanical function, no different than regularly performing maintenance on a car.

If the other person is after having you as much as possible, and after pleasing each other, then they will adjust as needed to make the lower amount of sex work. Don't use tricks like porn or drugs, or you wont be giving them the real thing, and everything will fail.

If the other person BOTH demands that the quantity of sex never fall off, AND refuses to allow you to compensate in any way, it means that the relationship is just about sex for them, and is doomed anyway, because they don't give a crap about YOU, just the sex. They WILL find another sex tool to replace you soon.

Therefore, faking as you are doing is a lose-lose choice. Staying with what's possible but real, isn't necessarily win-win, but it is win-reality.

Do what she says she wants, be real, and if she leaves, it will be the right thing for both of you. If she stays and adjusts, it will also be the best thing for both of you.

Do the math.

That sounds like a solution...I can try that thanks

I know

Thanks..

Thanks..I guess lot of guys are against seeing porn and having sex...any other solution can help me

Thanks tom but I am not looking for yes or no, my idea of posting was to get a solution what can be used to replace porn here.