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What does that mean exactly?
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Excerpt from 1986 Aliens
Hudson: "I don't know man, I only work here...." wink! |
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Edited by
msharmony
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Thu 02/16/17 03:42 PM
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its kind of like dreaming about a wedding but not a marriage
its ,,longing strictly for feelings and appearances and not for another person to where you might sometimes ignore all the signs of incompatibility to over obsess about gifts or fancy words its,, not being able to feel fulfilled by yourself and NEEDING to have a relationship with someone who acts as if you are the world often enough that you can ignore how often they really could care less about you ,,,,not the greatest explanation, but all that came to mind at the moment,,, |
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Basically it means you have an idea of what love is. And everything else does not compair.
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Edited by
Robxbox73
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Thu 02/16/17 04:01 PM
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Well not to tweet my own misgivings, but I've been thru couples therapy more than once.....ahem....
ANYWHOO... A very smart therapist told me and one of my exs that some women love the idea of being in love. The chase,,, the wooooo,,,,,hanging on each other's words,,,,,the flits,,,,the sexiest innuendos....the lavish gifts....the vacation flings... This means Romance!!!! The therapist said..."It is humanly impossible for a man to maintain this level of romance".  Uggg, I said...Me agree with that! And thus a person's Interest in their half of the relationship may wither away in disinterest. And eventually Divorce. So....take it for what it's worth to ya. My 2 cents of free advice |
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What does that mean exactly? exactly what is says: loving the idea of being in love as opposed to really loving. Unlike what has been said, I don't think it is necessary -if at all- to do with the liking the wooing and stuff, but maybe more desperation, insecurity, and/or inability to really truly open up the heart for love. Most likely the latter, as that is a problem most ppl suffer from, stemming from fear and old hurts. Not from partners per say, child hood hurts that made us afraid to love can do the same trick. The illusion of loving is not the same as truly loving and doesn't require the heart to be open, not really. |
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Edited by
Funzy65
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Thu 02/16/17 04:24 PM
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In love with the idea of being in love What does that mean exactly? **************************************************** LOL...DON'T WE ALL ?? ***************************************** My WEIRD version and MEANING of it  One of the things I need to firmly say is, You want to know what it's like to be a baby? It's like being in love for the first time in Paris or Rome after four double espressos, And boy, you are alive and conscious.  And yes, in my younger travelling days of glories & fame, I have dated in Paris, Rome, Vienna, Amsterdam, Budapest, London, Vegas, N.Y, Arkansas & Tennessee, Tel Aviv, Haifa, Eilat, even on the Danube river fishing. HONESTLY ??...I HAVE NO REGRETS, I WOULD DO IT AGAIN A THOUSAND TIMES OVER. Ps:..My last wish before I die would be, TO DATE IN MOSCOW Ya know, Greetings, From Russia with love.  |
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When you are in love with love, you are in the relationship for its benefits, and you cower away from more difficult aspects. By cower, I mean, you don’t address them or you don’t go about dealing with things in a healthy, respectful way. Frankly, you don’t care as much about the person as you do what they can do for you. Your fantasies about being with them revolve around how they make you feel, what they do, what they say, and how wonderful it is for you. It’s showing that person off to the world on dates, it’s getting to update your Facebook relationship status, hoping that you’ll finally get the 6 karat Tiffany you’ve been dreaming of. That’s being in love with love.
When you’re really in love with someone, you want them: the good, the bad, the ugly. You come back at the end of the day. You are as accepting and nonjudgmental as you possibly can be. You don’t want to change them. You aren’t dreaming of the day when they’ll finally come into themselves or saying, oh, they look so much better when they put themselves together. You’re not scrolling to a better Facebook picture to show your friends. You’re not condescending. You don’t think their passions are a waste of time. |
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When you are in love with love, you are in the relationship for its benefits, and you cower away from more difficult aspects. By cower, I mean, you don’t address them or you don’t go about dealing with things in a healthy, respectful way. Frankly, you don’t care as much about the person as you do what they can do for you. Your fantasies about being with them revolve around how they make you feel, what they do, what they say, and how wonderful it is for you. It’s showing that person off to the world on dates, it’s getting to update your Facebook relationship status, hoping that you’ll finally get the 6 karat Tiffany you’ve been dreaming of. That’s being in love with love. When you’re really in love with someone, you want them: the good, the bad, the ugly. You come back at the end of the day. You are as accepting and nonjudgmental as you possibly can be. You don’t want to change them. You aren’t dreaming of the day when they’ll finally come into themselves or saying, oh, they look so much better when they put themselves together. You’re not scrolling to a better Facebook picture to show your friends. You’re not condescending. You don’t think their passions are a waste of time. Gonna have to agree with a fellow Texican!!!! |
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Edited by
Funzy65
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Thu 02/16/17 04:43 PM
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hoping that you’ll finally get the 6 karat Tiffany you’ve been dreaming of. That’s being in love with love. ************************************************ Boy you are a Texan gal, No Doubt Either take me or leave me Straight to/for the Diamond ring heh ??. |
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Remember when you fell for that girl in grade 9 math class? You finally asked her out and she said yes!! You couldn't wait to get up and go to school the next day. She leaned over your desk to ask you a trigonometry question. Your heart skipped a beat, your head was spinning. You could smell her strawberry lip balm...
Ahhh the feeling of love. |
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Remember when you fell for that girl in grade 9 math class? You finally asked her out and she said yes!! You couldn't wait to get up and go to school the next day. She leaned over your desk to ask you a trigonometry question. Your heart skipped a beat, your head was spinning. You could smell her strawberry lip balm... Ahhh the feeling of love. *************************************************** Good comparison. Arg , ....REMINISCING NOW...
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in love with the idea of being in love What does that mean exactly? It usually means expectations that can't be matched by reality, and many times delusions to gloss over the failures. |
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What does that mean exactly? I think they are in love with the idea of being in love and the happily ever after.... but maybe not sure if they really know how to go about making it happen..... But who knows except the person who says that...lol |
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its kind of like dreaming about a wedding but not a marriage its ,,longing strictly for feelings and appearances and not for another person to where you might sometimes ignore all the signs of incompatibility to over obsess about gifts or fancy words its,, not being able to feel fulfilled by yourself and NEEDING to have a relationship with someone who acts as if you are the world often enough that you can ignore how often they really could care less about you ,,,,not the greatest explanation, but all that came to mind at the moment,,, simply it is sex |
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Being in love is exciting. It's that first few weeks/months in a relationship. Everything is new, vivid!
Loving someone includes being in love but it grows beyond that. Loving someone means learning to live with the person and appreciating them even when there is no excitement involved. Finding a person who just fits. Like an old item of clothing, it's not exciting to put it on, but you wouldn't know yourself if you didn't have it when you wanted it. People in love with being in love only see the first part. When things get "boring", they aren't willing to make the transition. So they go from one "start" to another, never letting anything grow beyond that initial blind phase. Different strokes for different folks. |
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Being in love is exciting. It's that first few weeks/months in a relationship. Everything is new, vivid! Loving someone includes being in love but it grows beyond that. Loving someone means learning to live with the person and appreciating them even when there is no excitement involved. Finding a person who just fits. Like an old item of clothing, it's not exciting to put it on, but you wouldn't know yourself if you didn't have it when you wanted it. People in love with being in love only see the first part. When things get "boring", they aren't willing to make the transition. So they go from one "start" to another, never letting anything grow beyond that initial blind phase. Different strokes for different folks. ^^^^^ What he said! |
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" in love with the idea of being in love" What does that mean exactly? This sounds like, and usually is, a phrase that shows up in the middle of an interaction. Context matters with it. What it means exactly, depends on who said it to whom, at what time relative to everything else, and so on. If it's an accusation, it means something different than if it is the expression of a desire, or a purely intellectual discussion. |
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Some need the constant 'rush.'
When you finally find love, and it calms down, you have to learn to live with that, too. Some cannot, and do the trade-in fairly often. Like someone said, it simply cannot be maintained. But some cannot do without that part and move on. Balance, between adoration and peace, is the ticket. |
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hoping that you’ll finally get the 6 karat Tiffany you’ve been dreaming of. That’s being in love with love. ************************************************ Boy you are a Texan gal, No Doubt Either take me or leave me Straight to/for the Diamond ring heh ??. True Texan naw transplant from many years ago~~  But I'm about as Texan as one can get Am I straight forward? You can bet your azz I'm about as point blank as I can be.... Do I go straight for the Diamond Ring???  Now that is funny been divorced going on 26 years... I'm not into a relationship just cause what someone can buy me or do for me.. Many are it is sad.. Myself I work and make my own living~~ I'm looking for one that will enhance my life not my pocket book or material things~~~ I have no time to waste on someone that is only a taker~~ |
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