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Topic: dating above your paygrade
no1phD's photo
Sun 03/05/17 05:53 PM
Edited by no1phD on Sun 03/05/17 05:55 PM
Ok. I use that term pigraid loosely
It could apply for somebody better-looking than yourself.
Or somebody that dresses better
Or that person that just seems to have their life and crap together..

Do you ever come across this type of person offline or online.. you read there profile online..
And think to yourself..hmmm... I don't know !..they might be too good for me..
And that keeps you from reaching out and asking them out...I
Ask a lot of women out..we'll.ok!.. let's keep it real! Lol.. they asked me out..lol..
But then I look at their profile and think holy crap a lackin..
I don't know if I can compete with this person... they really seem to have their crap together..
Now of course they're reaching out to me ...and I have my crap together so it makes sense.. but sometimes I have to remind myself of that fact...

But I still on occasions go.. I don't know she's a little out of my league..
You ever feel this way?

NotPay4Play's photo
Sun 03/05/17 06:53 PM
Yup. That's main reason I am more of a lurker.. rofl rofl

But then again most are farther away than I am looking to drive these days.oops

Goofball73's photo
Sun 03/05/17 06:57 PM
Oh this has plagued me my whole life. I always think I am not good enough for women. A while back I emailed a girl who is just so darn cute and attractive.....and yet I couldn't see why she would want someone like me. Yeah...I am my own worst enemy. grumble laugh

RustyKitty's photo
Sun 03/05/17 07:20 PM
Is this a question for the males?

Well, I would not date a homeless person...
Yes, I would look for someone with similar values/morals/income ... just a better 'match' overall I think... ya know, someone who has a useable credit card..property..similar paygrade..

mikeyspace4691's photo
Sun 03/05/17 07:28 PM

Is this a question for the males?

Well, I would not date a homeless person...
Yes, I would look for someone with similar values/morals/income ... just a better 'match' overall I think... ya know, someone who has a useable credit card..property..similar paygrade..



They wouldn't be homeless if you let em shack up with you..laugh

no photo
Sun 03/05/17 07:37 PM
All are out of my "paygrade" but the way I look at it is look at all the money I have never had to spend on the holidays. One less avenue for the limited funds I do have to leave my taxed checking account.

no photo
Mon 03/06/17 02:22 AM

Ok. I use that term pigraid loosely
It could apply for somebody better-looking than yourself.
Or somebody that dresses better
Or that person that just seems to have their life and crap together..

Do you ever come across this type of person offline or online.. you read there profile online..
And think to yourself..hmmm... I don't know !..they might be too good for me..
And that keeps you from reaching out and asking them out...I
Ask a lot of women out..we'll.ok!.. let's keep it real! Lol.. they asked me out..lol..
But then I look at their profile and think holy crap a lackin..
I don't know if I can compete with this person... they really seem to have their crap together..
Now of course they're reaching out to me ...and I have my crap together so it makes sense.. but sometimes I have to remind myself of that fact...

But I still on occasions go.. I don't know she's a little out of my league..
You ever feel this way?



Definitely have felt that way...Especially when I first joined the dating site.

But like NotPay4Play said, pretty much all of them live too far away anyways. whoa

motowndowntown's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:04 AM
Above my pay grade? I never sell myself short.

Outta my league? I don't play those games.

I've dated rich women.

I've dated women who didn't have chit.

I've dated fashion models.

I've dated women who, although they wouldn't break a camera, don't turn heads either.

Deep down inside they are all the same, just people. They all have the same issues and insecurities as any other.

msharmony's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:19 AM
Edited by msharmony on Mon 03/06/17 09:22 AM
it happens to me all the time no1

I do not like to be outdoors, or the gym, or the beach


and it never fails that while weeding down the options by viewing the photos,, when I find an appealing photo,, and read the profile, they are always

"love the outdoors, sports, hiking, fishing'...yada, yada, yada


At this age , its unlikely I will 'learn' to enjoy these things and I would prefer to match with someone who already shares my interests(indoor interests)

I know I would bore the outdoorsy, sportsy, beachy type to death,, so I just move on



I don't so much worry about their career; though I try to steer clear of cops, doctors, Floridians, Texans and republicans,,,,,laugh

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:20 AM

Above my pay grade? I never sell myself short.

Outta my league? I don't play those games.

I've dated rich women.

I've dated women who didn't have chit.

I've dated fashion models.

I've dated women who, although they wouldn't break a camera, don't turn heads either.

Deep down inside they are all the same, just people. They all have the same issues and insecurities as any other.

AGREED

Wealth, health and appearances change. I date the personality not the checkbook. I have many things that money can't buy to offer to someone. So do you.

Materialism is shallow.

peggy122's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:47 AM
Oh hell yeah!

I do think some men are to good for me, but I wouldnt let that stop me from taking the time to get to know them .

The deciding factor for me is how much of a connection I feel with the person after the first couple of convos.

If the connection is mutual, then what would it hurt to get to know them better ? They might be more " mortal " and down to earth than we suspect

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:51 AM

Oh hell yeah!

I do think some men are to good for me, but I wouldnt let that stop me from taking the time to get to know them .

The deciding factor for me is how much of a connection I feel with the person after the first couple of convos.

If the connection is mutual, then what would it hurt to get to know them better ? They might be more " mortal " and down to earth than we suspect



Agree

Preconceptions and stereotypes are what I consider 'Shooting yourself in the Foot". More times than not your own fears and trepidation keep you from finding a match. Rejection can't hurt unless you allow it to.

SitkaRains's photo
Mon 03/06/17 09:55 AM

Above my pay grade? I never sell myself short.

Outta my league? I don't play those games.

I've dated rich men.

I've dated women who didn't have chit.

I've dated dropdead gorgeous eyecandy..

I've dated men who, although they wouldn't break a camera, don't turn heads either.

Deep down inside they are all the same, just people. They all have the same issues and insecurities as any other.

Took the liberty to changes the sex here but dang you nailed it for.

I HAVE NEVER played into this ideology and I am way to old to start now

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 03/06/17 10:12 AM
They all have the same issues and insecurities as any other.


Not necessarily.
There ARE people that have their chit together.
Granted, they are few and far between but they certainly exist.

People are all different.
Issues and insecurities are also different and have differing degrees.

When dealing with the masses it is easy to feel that all people are the same but they're not. Its beliefs like that which make it hard to find the individual person. Statements like that reinforce the delusion. Preconceptions based on inaccurate beliefs.

See the person as an individual and allow them to be themselves and make your judgements based on the reality of who they are not what you expect.

motowndowntown's photo
Mon 03/06/17 05:01 PM
Nobody, but nobody, has their chit completely together.

All individuals yes.

But dig down deep enough and you'll find the chink in the armor, or the loose thread on the couture dress.

no photo
Mon 03/06/17 05:12 PM
To tell you the truth.. I could care less how much the woman I am interested in is making. it has no bearing on anything.

And I would never ask them that question.. because it is none of my business.

soufiehere's photo
Mon 03/06/17 05:38 PM

But I still on occasions go.. I don't know she's a little out of my league..
You ever feel this way?

No.
The concept escapes me.
Anyone is a potential mate.
Assuming they are in the same species.

Funzy65's photo
Mon 03/06/17 07:40 PM
Edited by Funzy65 on Mon 03/06/17 07:49 PM
My FIRST & BEST resource I use is the LAW OF ATTRACTION and the 3 basics.

- 1 Personal & Physical attraction.
( Personality, Character, Attractiveness such as eyes, hair,
legs or body shape, feet shape or length of hands etc etc :tongue: ).

- 2 Chemistry.( Body odour, Energy/Energising, Skin complexion, etc etc whoa )

- 3 Compatibility.( Happiness, Smiles, Easy going, Simplicity, GRATITUDE etc etc whoa ).

It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality.

Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.
It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe – one of which being the Law of Attraction.

WORKS 4 ME ( If and When :tongue: ), and I BELIEVE in it .:thumbsup:

Jo6045's photo
Mon 03/06/17 10:51 PM

Ok. I use that term pigraid loosely
It could apply for somebody better-looking than yourself.
Or somebody that dresses better
Or that person that just seems to have their life and crap together..

Do you ever come across this type of person offline or online.. you read there profile online..
And think to yourself..hmmm... I don't know !..they might be too good for me..
And that keeps you from reaching out and asking them out...I
Ask a lot of women out..we'll.ok!.. let's keep it real! Lol.. they asked me out..lol..
But then I look at their profile and think holy crap a lackin..
I don't know if I can compete with this person... they really seem to have their crap together..
Now of course they're reaching out to me ...and I have my crap together so it makes sense.. but sometimes I have to remind myself of that fact...

But I still on occasions go.. I don't know she's a little out of my league..
You ever feel this way?





No I don't. Because I know my worth, I have class, morals, and self respect. I have no tolerance for ppl who think their poop doesn't stink.

barbadogirl's photo
Mon 03/06/17 11:10 PM
No I am or was confident until reading this. I've dated from all walks of life. Sometimes my independent nature gets in the way like a foot in the mouth. Some men find it intimidating. I by no means have it all together. But I don't feel I am better or anyone is better than me we all put our pants on the same way one leg at a time!!
But it did make me thinkspock

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