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Topic: To love or to be loved
SipSik Joined Thu 01/12/17 Posts: 2720	Wed 04/05/17 01:22 PM Edited by SipSik on Wed 04/05/17 01:22 PM
In ideal relationship both partners are equally emotionally committed to each-other, but often life goes the way that one partner is willing to give more than the other. If you would have to choose, to be the one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be?

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 04/05/17 01:24 PM
In ideal relationship, both partners are equally emotionally committed to each other, but often life goes the way that one partner is willing to give more than the other. If you would have to choose, to be one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be? Gosh, there is so much in between the two. I feel like I may grow to love someone who loves me. Someone else may also grow to love me. It so often doesn't happen on the same timeline though. so, I tend to love deeply and a lot, and wouldn't mind being on the receiving end. So I would NEVER choose to be in an unrequited love but if I was REQUIRED, I would like to be the one being loved.

IgorFrankensteen Joined Thu 10/01/09 Posts: 5444	Wed 04/05/17 01:34 PM
Tough choice. I think I would choose to be the one who loves, and is not loved in return. It would make me feel vastly worse to know that I am the reason someone else feels so bad, because they care for me, and I can't reciprocate. I can handle ME feeling bad.

mzrosie Joined Wed 08/14/13 Posts: 33997	Wed 04/05/17 01:43 PM
If you would have to choose, to be the one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be? If I had to choose and knowing myself, I would choose the one who is loved. I cannot make the other person love me... but I can learn to love the other person.

Piscesmoon02 Joined Wed 11/02/16 Posts: 56490	Wed 04/05/17 01:50 PM
In ideal relationship both partners are equally emotionally committed to each-other, but often life goes the way that one partner is willing to give more than the other. If you would have to choose, to be the one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be? My first reaction is to say the one who loves. Ideally it's better to love than to be loved. But, being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you but you love him is very difficult and can be heartbreaking if it's never returned. I know this from experience, after a couple years it was time to walk away. So for me, I'd have to say the one who is loved. I have a huge heart and if someone loves me and we are compatible, it doesn't take long for me to return that love.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 04/05/17 01:54 PM
Tough choice. I think I would choose to be the one who loves, and is not loved in return. It would make me feel vastly worse to know that I am the reason someone else feels so bad, because they care for me, and I can't reciprocate. I can handle ME feeling bad. I swear, you da man Igor,,,lol

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45332	Wed 04/05/17 02:37 PM
Tough choice. I think I would choose to be the one who loves, and is not loved in return. It would make me feel vastly worse to know that I am the reason someone else feels so bad, because they care for me, and I can't reciprocate. I can handle ME feeling bad. Nicely put.

greeneyes148 Joined Fri 12/25/15 Posts: 5830	Wed 04/05/17 02:38 PM
That is a tough question.. to give or receive... I think both are the right answer, but unless you get the same in return or give the same in return. It most likely is not going to work.

Tom4Uhere Joined Sat 12/17/16 Posts: 16240	Wed 04/05/17 03:37 PM
I've seen both sides of that coin and neither is desireable.

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Wed 04/05/17 03:44 PM
In ideal relationship both partners are equally emotionally committed to each-other, but often life goes the way that one partner is willing to give more than the other. If you would have to choose, to be the one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be? That's hard to say. When you have a lot of love to give you can't keep it to yourself. Yet when you don't feel loved it's not always easy to he happy

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Thu 04/06/17 05:51 AM
This is an easy choice for me. I would choose to be loved. I dont need to love someone to care for, nurture and protect them. And I have a soul deep appreciation for people who demonstrate ongoing care for me over time. I will treat them like the gold they are. But if the tables were turned, and I loved a man who didnt love me, I have very lttle confidence that he would offer that level of care for me. It sounds grossly pessemistic even to my own ears, but its what I feel

Unknow Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1852	Thu 04/06/17 06:22 AM
I'd choose to be the giver then I'll always have enough brownie points to prevent her throwing my golf clubs in the trash

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Thu 04/06/17 07:32 AM


no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Thu 04/06/17 07:40 AM
This is an easy choice for me. I would choose to be loved. I dont need to love someone to care for, nurture and protect them. And I have a soul deep appreciation for people who demonstrate ongoing care for me over time. I will treat them like the gold they are. But if the tables were turned, and I loved a man who didnt love me, I have very lttle confidence that he would offer that level of care for me. It sounds grossly pessemistic even to my own ears, but its what I feel ..this ^^^.. and I'm not just saying it because I don't feel like typing something..out... Lol..but well put...my feelings exactly.. I am a giver as well...

jazzinc Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 553	Fri 04/07/17 05:27 AM
Give love and give love if it comes from the heart. Love will be received after by someone else one day.

thisnickisnottaken Joined Fri 04/07/17 Posts: 1	Fri 04/07/17 07:21 AM
I wonder if this is 100% honest answer.

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Fri 04/07/17 09:36 AM Edited by mysticalview21 on Fri 04/07/17 09:37 AM
In ideal relationship both partners are equally emotionally committed to each-other, but often life goes the way that one partner is willing to give more than the other. If you would have to choose, to be the one who loves, or the one who is loved, which one would you prefer to be? I am generally the giver ... but would hope we both... would be able to be the givers ... so it does not come down to the you or the other ... with out love...

Lettemysk8 Joined Fri 04/07/17 Posts: 1	Fri 04/07/17 11:40 AM Edited by Lettemysk8 on Fri 04/07/17 11:40 AM
The best in a relationship is to love and being loved by.. :)

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Fri 04/07/17 11:57 AM
I would be the giver. However, a happy and stable relationship is UNSUSTAINABLE if it is not a two way street. Thus, to me the question is invalid.

Unknow Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1852	Fri 04/07/17 12:04 PM
I would be the giver. However, a happy and stable relationship is UNSUSTAINABLE if it is not a two way street. Thus, to me the question is invalid. I'd agree with this sentiment, whilst also realising that relationships are rarely equal. For this to happen each would need to be constantly watching what the other did for them. That would be petty and hardly a loving relationship.