Good Evening My Mingle2 family, i want to take a break off my Controversial Hot Tea & get stupid silly for a minute. I set the seen, you out with friends, its a Saturday night and this here will be told on a male perspective but still follow me. Okay, you at a nice hot spot club in your city, you have your drink in one hand and you 2-stepping to your favorite song. You take a break at the bar, and this beautiful woman buys you a drink. Suddenly she comes over to you and introduces herself, lets call her " Alexis". So you began to talk you find out you and her have a few things in common. You ask her for a dance and the DJ through on a hot tune you both like. As the night goes by you decided to call it a night and you want to see " Alexis" again. exchange numbers and you happy. A week goes by you give her a call to bring her to your home for some cuddle time. she agrees. She comes by in a freak em' dress you never forget, nice open toe stilettos, and her hair is nice and long. Baby girl looking real sexy. so you invite her in and you take her coat and proceed to the couch. You through a nice romantic comedy on followed by a horror movie. Dinner, white wine, cuddles, playful kisses you look into her eye and you really enjoying her company. Moving Forward, after about a week of dating she calls you on the phone and tells you she really likes you and before it can move to something serous she has a confession, but not over the phone. So you agree to meet her at her place. You get to her place and she asks you about how you feel about her. You head over Nikes Over her then she slowly in her way tells you she's not what you think. OMG! okay you married, No , Okay, You Did Time in Prison? No She tells you she was born a man. but as you can see she legally a woman know. Now fellas And even some of your ladies could you look past her past or once a man always a man? Or Could you say well if she's a lady and lives her life as a lady, can i have a real relationship with her? so America tell me what would you do?

EyeAmYourHost39,

Well America if this was me the guy on the other end of " Alexis" attraction, i got to be honest, some transgender females with enough time on there appearance you wouldn't know not first off the bat. Even if she lives her life as a full woman now i would see a man. Someday i may want more children and i would know you couldn't do that for the sake of a family. i love everything about all races of women. Something about a born woman has that a transitioning woman can't do for a man like me. Its not my cup of tea but i don't judge them and i don't make things hard for them by bashing them either. They people too and sometimes as humans we forget that anybody's different we tend to dismiss or judge but its not for us to do that.

Well, that would explain her large adam's apple.

Dodo_David,

Hey welcome back to my cyber home, okay knowing that would you still date "Alexis" even if she now legally a woman, and lives many years as a woman and even looks like the woman of your desires?

Hummm... I have heard of this happening..good way to get hurt if they do it to a guy that it flips them out...

Myself hell no I would not date them.. For myself I could not get past the issue they were a woman/man that is now a man/woman..

But to be honest I would not date the one you came across at all, due to they hid it from the beginning... When they take the time to get to know you ect but not the Respect to tell you prior of maybe getting attached then what else would they keep from you till they thought it was safe..

To each their own, I have nothing against those that change who they are just myself would not date them... I'm old school or just plain old I guess...

I have went to drag shows with gay friends of mine back in the late 70's and the truth is many of those guys looked way better then most females I have known.... you can't tell unless they tell you.. All I know is even back then those that felt they were female instead and dressed it at least they were honest from the beginning....

So no due to they were dishonest with you in the beginning... The other person should at least have the option to let it go any farther then being lied too.. or hiding the truth till they feel it is right.. that is so wrong~~~

Does 'she' leave the toilet seat up or down?

TxsGal3333,

Well think about it , you really learned to like maybe even developed feelings for this person but they totally did a Caitlyn Jenner, so they are a woman now.

SoulfieHere,

Well that's a strange thought....lol

If you see a pickle jar in her fridge...be very very careful.

no, I like em how God made em or not at all.

I choose to not be with those that God made the same as me(female).

I'd stop seeing her.

Mostly because of this:

That's a huge game and indicator of giant problems in our interaction so far.



Other than that, the scenario is unrealistic for me, and indicate even more serious problems.
Meet a girl at a club and don't have sex with her that night if everything is going great? I don't go to clubs unless I want to get laid. If I don't get laid, I move on.
Don't call her for a week, and then invite her over for "cuddle time" for our first date and not have sex with her? I don't do "booty calls" or "netflix and chill," especially for a first date, unless I want to get laid. If I don't get laid, I move on.

If she's the one putting me off when I'm trying to get laid, rejecting me when I try and take her home from the club, or try to go further than "cuddle time," during our booty call first date, then her transgender issues are on her mind.
If they are on her mind, and she's not sharing them, or open about them when they're relevant and obviously distracting from the natural and organic interaction, then I'm interacting with a facade, not really her, and she's choosing to be dishonest about the personality she's presenting to me.

I wouldn't continue dating someone like that.
That means for every serious problem in the future she's going to internalize them, hide them, cogitate upon them privately, until she makes a decision or judgment, and then attack me with them, possibly expecting me to process it right then rather than the days/weeks/months she's been stewing and thinking about it.

IMO relationships (or at least relationships I want to continue) only really work when there's transparency regarding thoughts and emotions.
Lack of transparency leads to miscommunication, misunderstandings, misreading, and exacerbates problems.


If we were at the dance club, she told me she used to have a penis, I kept the raging hard on, and I kept trying to take her home, she let me, and it all worked out great, then I might try to date her.

But based on the scenario from the OP, I would drop her, nothing positive would come from continuing any relationship.

Even as I was reading the story I knew it was going to end up kinky...lol..
Dude she's a dude.. she's just a dude in disguise... sure the dude feels like a woman on the inside.. and the dude made the outside match the inside..
But she's still a dude.. I don't want to date somebody that can bowl better than I can.. our can pitch a tent better than me... okay maybe she can't pitch a tent anymore... but she can probably tie up the waterproofing sell pretty good...lol.

Ms Harmony,

Hey welcome back, I certainly have to agree, I have a male friend that's currently in a engagement with a transgender woman now even though he was born a male. I always know Crispen as Crispen. But now he's now as " Crissey". I got to admit " Crissey" transformation makes her look like a red head Britney Spears. but I know its Crispen in my mind.

MasterX,


RRRrrrrriiiighhhtt....

NO1Phd,

very well put even if hes hot like Caitlyn Jenner ....no. well I would feel the same way if a man looks like the lovely Cher I still probably couldn't. I see your view too.

Ciretom,

Welcome back buddy I read your comment I can be the first to say I think you have a brilliant mind. a lot of folks don't understand its not easy to fall in the gender fluid movement. I'm a good old fashion guy that grew up taught you only get romantically involved with the opposite sex. I mean I have guy & transgender friends, I'm no sex bigot. But when it comes to love I like to think my heavenly father would approve with the woman according to his Commandments. I'm a guy that when it comes to certain people I care about, there opinion kind of matters to me. I will admit I'm one third of a mama's boy. It would probably break my mothers heart if I was to date a man or transgender lady. I don't think I could live with the disapproval of my mom.

That is what would piss me off. Tricking someone into liking you then they find out you was the the opposite sex.. And well this is after you have done some heavy kissing ect.. To me that is betraying the one you are with.. Just not right..

It would be different if they told you up front and you had decided that you could deal with it...At least then you had the option of choice~~

TxsGal3333,

I created a scenario like this is because forget Jerry Springer Tranny episodes there's people living this situation, with LGBT communities that still have a dark cloud over dating when it comes to dating us straights. what I'm saying is that I guess some people just don't feel they need to reveal that kind of information until they feel comfortable enough to want to tell. I don't know if I totally agree with that thinking but I do understand.

Wouldn't be my cup of tea but I'd ask her if I could have a quick look

See I just don't understand that way of thinking.. Those that I have known in my lifetime that were gay had no issues letting others know right off the bat they were..

Why deceive someone in that way?

It is a good way to really piss some guy off.. Which has happened more then once...