this topic is so old n done to death.we all know this we get em every day

I have more men friends than I do women that is just a fact of life.
when I hang out with my guy friends there has never ever been an issue of something sexual come up.. IF the thought has crossed their minds they were wise enough to keep it themselves.Some of the best insight in myself and them has been long discussions on their outlook of life compared to mine.


I have been in hunting camps with men and anything sexual is the farthest thing from any of our minds...

I can't speak for any other woman on here but usually when a woman puts you a guy in the friends zone that is where you stay.. You are my buddy the one that I hang around with go fishing with, play football, all the things most of my GF's aren't into.. One you are put there with me then you stay there.. If that said person ever tried to come out of there it strains the friendship...

No, the sexual attraction will rear its ugly head sooner or later & for those who say "oh I've been friends w/this guy/girl for X years & we've never gone through that":

The other person is NOT telling you the whole truth about their feelings b/c they know you aren't attracted to them & they would get rejected, so they would rather keep their "attachment" to you in the lesser form if they can't get what they really want.

It's just a case of I can't have X so I'll settle for Y. You may be genuinely happy for them if they get into a R/S with someone but you can be sure they are pining away for you whenever you are in one.

As for the married folks: there is a reason "couples" mix with other couples - the inference is that neither set of "friends" would interfere with the pair bond of the other set (doesn't always work). Ask any married woman if she is okay with her pretty single friend coming over to her house when she is away & husband is home: NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! She may love this woman like a sister but that's where she draws the line.

Human nature can be repressed & hidden, but never eliminated.

Comedian Martin Lawrence was found dead inside of a Los Angeles hotel this morning. Lawrence was scheduled to checkout this morning after 10 AM. At approximately 10:15 AM, a maid named Verna Del Sosa went to Lawrence's room to clean and thats when Lawrence's body was discovered on the floor. "I was shocked, I've never seen a dead body before", says Del Sosa. Del Sosa immediately called for an ambulance but it was too late. According to the paramedics, it appears that Lawrence's body laid lifeless on the hotel floor for several days.

An autopsy is scheduled to take place Thursday which will hopefully uncover the mystery of Martin Lawrence's death. So far, foul play is not suspected but has not been ruled out. Martin Lawrence was anticipating shooting the third installment in the "Bad Boys" trilogy alongside long-time friend, Will Smith. Filming was supposed to begin next month in Miami, Florida.

Born April 16, 1965 in Germany to US military parents, Martin Lawrence began his career doing stand-up comedy which landed him his own HBO sitcom, Martin staring Tichina Arnold. Following the success of Martin, Lawrence took to the big screen and starred in many films such as Life, Bad Boys 1 & 2, Blue Streak, Big Momma's House and many more.

Comedian Martin Lawrence was found dead inside of a Los Angeles hotel this morning. Lawrence was scheduled to checkout this morning after 10 AM. At approximately 10:15 AM, a maid named Verna Del Sosa went to Lawrence's room to clean and thats when Lawrence's body was discovered on the floor. "I was shocked, I've never seen a dead body before", says Del Sosa. Del Sosa immediately called for an ambulance but it was too late. According to the paramedics, it appears that Lawrence's body laid lifeless on the hotel floor for several days.

An autopsy is scheduled to take place Thursday which will hopefully uncover the mystery of Martin Lawrence's death. So far, foul play is not suspected but has not been ruled out. Martin Lawrence was anticipating shooting the third installment in the "Bad Boys" trilogy alongside long-time friend, Will Smith. Filming was supposed to begin next month in Miami, Florida.

Born April 16, 1965 in Germany to US military parents, Martin Lawrence began his career doing stand-up comedy which landed him his own HBO sitcom, Martin staring Tichina Arnold. Following the success of Martin, Lawrence took to the big screen and starred in many films such as Life, Bad Boys 1 & 2, Blue Streak, Big Momma's House and many more.

My very best friend is a guy...we do everything together...we have been friends for over 10 years..and he knows all my secrets as I know his..a lot of people don't understand why we don't just be a couple...over the years we have both at one time or another teased the thought...but we both value the friendship...sex would destroy the innocence of our relationship and we get along so well...I also think because I have children (all grown)...and he doesn't...if we became a "relationship".. His lack of understanding that my children come above everything would eventually destroy any chance of staying together...and honestly as long as we have been friends..I would feel like I was having sex with my brother..yuck..friends to the end..

I don't even understand how this is a legit question. Of course you can have a platonic friendship, I have many of them. What kind of a horn dog can't just be friends with someone without wanting to get naked with them? Are you completely ruled by your crotch?

Between hetero same gender people?
Sure. No problem. That's just forming a social group between people with similar communication abilities.

Between hetero opposite gender people?
Sure. You can be friends without having sex. Your behavior is ultimately your choice and responsibility. Although it is going to be more difficult since communication is largely gender based, different, and geared towards mating rather than the social construct of "friends."
You can choose to not have sex with someone.

You cannot be friends without having sexual feelings developing at some point and influencing your behavior, at least indirectly.

That's just not how the human body works.
Gender exists for a reason.
Attraction and sex chemicals are on autopilot and tend to be gender specific, reacting to the opposite gender.
Your hormones are opportunistic and not under your direct conscious control. They never will be.

Not only that add in the "traditional" model of raising men towards suppressing their emotions, that emotions make them weak, to deny their emotions.

That tends to translate to "emotional knowledge retardation."

You have complex emotions. Humans do.
As a guy, you aren't supposed to really be mindful of them, only not show them. To "grow a pair," and, "man up," and just "do" something as opposed to wallow in them, define them, constantly express them and thereby learn the minute differences between them through thoughtful experience.

If you were raised as a male with any influence from traditional roles or models then you are going to deny a wide range of emotions.

People like to label and box things. Like "I'm angry. I'm hungry. I'm sad. I'm horny. I'm lonely."

Each has it's own, ingrained and trained appropriate response that are usually compatible to the emotion.

If you haven't been trained to have an appropriate response, you will simply fall back on the ingrained.
Which in this case is "woman, nice/accepting/sticking around = interested in me = mating opportunity."

Even if you were trained for a different response it is simply going to come into conflict, causing stress, with what is ingrained.
e.g. sublimating emotions with food. "I'm angry/sad = I'm hungry = I eat, rather than =I punch something and yell and whine and complain and find someone to commiserate with."


So you can be friends with a woman.
You will never be friends with a woman and be able to absolutely remove any sexual influence or motivation to your behavior.

It's the biological differences in the makeup of the brain which allow women to delude themselves they aren't affected by the same, inherent sexual impetus as men.

I would just like to say that my friend and I have never had any bellies rubbing or kissing of any sort. We have decided a long time ago to be mates and yes it is possible. Yes this topic came up last week and we both said that we don't think like that about each other.
We are like brother and sister nothing else. It is possible for two people of the opposite sex can be close friends without sex.

Since the business closed, we have scattered around the area. We don't hang around nearly as much as we did, but when we all see each other, it's just like old times. Hugs, silliness, old jokes... catching up on what is real in our lives.

My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends.

it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other.

That makes one of us.

Actually though, the last two women I have dated have gone on to meet their husbands (right after breaking up with me). It's just life.

Cant say that Ive ever wanted to rail one of my male pals. Female friends? Sure, the thought has crossed my mind....and a few have admitted its crossed theirs. But boundaries get set....and they are honored....until tequila night Lol no not really....friends are, well, friends. Its gets too complicated for me if that line is crossed.

I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it.
We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way.
Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family.