A lady friend of mine did something very dumb a few months back. She just came off
of a relationship with a man that she had been with for almost a year. She loved him.
But in a fit of stupidity and anger, kicked him out. Turned around three weeks later
and married another man that she had been friends with for seven years.
Now, She wants back with the man that she kicked out about five months ago. Now, as
they say, "Hind site is 20/20." She can't seem to let go of the guy she kicked out.
She says she is so sorry for doing what she did to him. But the guy she married will
not let her go. He won't because of his religious beliefs. She has told him to his
face that she doesn't love him like she does the other. She wants to be with the other.
She told him she wouldn't have sex with him. She doesn't let him touch her. She doesn't
even let him kiss her.

But here is the real kicker. She sees the other guy as much as she can. For any reason
she can find. She has got caught making out with the other guy. And even told the guy
she was married to how close she came to having sex with the other guy. She wanted to
really bad. The guy she married, She does anything she can think of to try to run him off.
She's mean to him in all forms and fashions.
She has told him to his face that she thinks he is weak. And he still will not leave.
He knows that she doesn't really love him the right way. He knows her heart really belongs
to the other guy. So far, with the other guy, she hasn't had sex with him. But with the
guy she married not willing to let her go, It's only a matter of time till she cheats all
the way.
Why would a man take this crap?".

To tell the truth, I've known her for a good while. She has always been very sensible and level-headed. As a matter of fact, a very smart woman. This just came out of the blue. She has never done anything like this before.

From the best I can understand, She lost sight of her feelings for the other guy. I don't know, Just went nuts all at once. And the guy she married, He seems sorta stupid to me. Most men know, (At least I hope they do) to leave a woman alone for a little while after she breaks up with a man that she loves. I've never wanted to be "Mr Rebound" myself. So I always knew better. But, Within a couple of weeks he was all over her like a fly to poop.

When she asked me what I thought, I told her to wait. This is crazy. She wouldn't listen. Now she is miserable. She gets nothing from this guy. The other guy was really good her. Paid attention to her. Tried to give her what she needed from a man. He was always there. He had his short comings. So does everybody. But he was good to her. She said that every night for the year they were together he would cuddle up with her and talk to her. He gave her understanding.

The guy she is with now, Every night, He just rolls over and goes to sleep. Doesn't talk to her or come close to spending the kind of time with her the other guy did. Now she wants the other one back. But can't get free. She can't afford it. "Lots of bills to pay" Now she is backed into a corner that he will not let her out of. And he has the money from what I'm told.

I don't understand it myself. If a woman told me that she loved another man better than me, that she missed the other man and wanted him back, Who am I to stand in the way? I would tell her to go for it. I wouldn't hang in that.

As far as religious beliefs go, I don't think God will hold against a man for getting out of a mistake of a marriage.

Don't look for rationale, where there is none. You will only hurt yourself.
It's their drama/ craziness/ dysfunction.. not yours..

Aw......come on! I'm sure Charles cares very much for this lady friend of his, and needs to keep an eye on her in case something more unpleasant happens. I would like to think I have a friend like him in times of my need.... when I am being stupid!

Moreover I suspect he is in the picture somewhere #1 or #2 or #3