It's gotten way too complicated this dating thing...what ever happened to just getting to know the person then take it from there.

You might get hit by a bus before you get a chance to get to know them though!

hold up. I'm not a ****ing LMAO man. I just flirt around with alot of ladies.

why the kids are in the next room?

Online never assume anything you may think you have made a connection and then there gone.

I try not to think. Wouldn't want to smash the pea racking my brain.

Whew! Be still my heart....


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You got that right.....

can't indulge too much on this topic.........i keep total control of me by keeping my mouth closed..........
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there must be something

i was married for 21 years and just recently got divorced as of july and yes it is hard and i have 2 kids but i new he was never going to give me and my kids wat we deserved so at least i am at peace now its not easy but it gets better everyday

drop it like it's hot, you're wasting time with someone toxic when you could be spending that time with the right person or doing things that will lead to the right person. (like going out and doing stuff or whatever etc.)

Made some great friends on this forum and some others, but sometimes while it is nice to have standards and some expectations, I think some are unrealistic.

Some posts I see here posted by the same people whining 'whoa is me', 'why does this keep happening'.... people who are unable to change within themselves to make themselves be the best they can be are doomed to repeat mistakes until they stop that cycle and take some positive steps to move forward onto healthy relationships baggage free.

We can offer advice to help these people, but in some cases some like the drama and frankly a waste of our time.... harsh yes, but it's reality.

Some enter this site and expect matches within days or a week...which sorry is something borderline fantasy and Walt Disney. It takes time to find out what a person is about, talking, getting to know someone... and what a better way but within the forum of this community or on a different forum perhaps of a hobby of yours.

This site and others do have bots and fake people out to scam people, surprise but that is real life too. Use common sense when getting to know someone.

There is something grand when you are able to connect with someone who you have mutual goals and hobbies to find a way to make that journey in life together.... I wish all much success in finding what you are looking for.




Your words give me hope..

That and a wet penis has no conscious!

Women do the same thing but it breaks down to these reasons:

Genetically men are programed to sniff up as many willing backsides as we can find like any dog. Some men can resist the urge but given the right set of circumstances and the right person and any man or woman can cheat.

Now we are taught to believe in older more "traditional" ways but we are very confused by a lot of religious and Victorian ethics. The reality of it is that people are not monogamous for the most part whether they want to believe it or not. It is genetic. It is Mother Nature's way of insuring a healthy gene pool and also to insure survival of the species. That is the most fundamental reason why.

As far as what "drives" men to cheat?
Stressful and fulfilling relationships. Marrying because of a surprise pregnancy is one factor that add to this in a statistical way. The number of marriages that fail where the couple married under the pressure of a impending pregnancy was about 38% on the low end to almost 72% on the statistical scale depending on who's information you choose to believe. I feel it is around a little more than half myself of all failed marriages have this in common with them.
Women let themselves go physically. I have seen a lot of friends get married and their hot GF's suddenly expand to being obese in a few and I mean few short years. Worst is when it is blamed on pregnancy. More and more men are not buying that and it is an excuse to some extent.

There are cultural motivations as well. Successful men are perceived as being "good" with the ladies and there fore maintain a number of involvements. Look at movies and TV. Ladies, If you are looking for a king or a prince well better watch Braveheart. There is a little thing called "Lords First Right of Privilege." It comes up in the movie. Basically put, if you were a virgin and you got married the king actually had the right to take your virginity on your wedding night instead of your husband. Think that sucks? It gets better...
Nobility of a lot of nations save a hand full there is a queen to which the king is married but he has consorts and the number depends on the man's appetites.
On top of that look at the examples Hollywood sets for our kids. They treat marriage as a joke.

Now we get into what a lot of men claim as reasons,
Sex with his partner becomes unsatisfying or worst yet the partner is frigid or just 'dead in bed.'
Men also do not like to get hen pecked a lot. Women who wear on men's self esteem chase their men off eventually.
Also the way women carry themselves among friends has been used as a justification. Being too friendly among men a women knows can trigger jealous behavior and that can lead to revenge behavior.
Also men will wander if a relationship goes cold.

These are just the more core reasons. I could go on a lot more in detail but is it necessary?

Basically a relationship is like a car.

It needs maintenance!

ARE YOU F'ING kidding me????? MUTUAL MATCH???????? I say I'm interested in men from say 35 to 55 and they send mutual matches for friggin men in their early 20's......and more than that....all they can show me is a pic of themselves in their jocky shorts......????????????????? what the f'ing hel* is that all about?????

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