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(Not a healer but I do work with small children haha)

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Somehow I knew you did something having to do with children.

And at one time I was tech support for friends and coworkers lol

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Much of what you are referring to is based on how we see ourselves and other people. It has a lot to do with self-esteem and degree of delusion.

I know people that will go to great, often self-destructive lengths so they do not have to be alone. For them, anyone is always better than noone.

I also know people that prefer being alone. They shy away from all people for a multitude of reasons.

There is reason to consider the source. This is an online dating site. Most of the people here have been in a relationship with someone at sometime. They seek to have that feeling again. They measure their happiness by their ability to obtain that feeling. A lot of the time, these people think they must feel happy all the time or their life is terrible. They feel they need to find someone else to feel that happiness.

There are a lot of people that don't understand themselves, let alone, understand others. They will substitute need for want so they don't look desperate to others. You can tell the deception by the great lengths they go to while searching for their desired fulfillment.

There are people that have a sense of reality and possess self-esteem and self-realization. These people are not driven to compensate excessively. They accept themselves and others yet still have realistic desires. Online dating sites are merely another opportunity to locate people interesting to them. They know it takes face to face, personal contact, over time to determine if a relationship is possible.

I liken the condition to the empty nest syndrome. You live with your family for years and years and eventually your children leave and it impacts your sense of normalcy. You either embrace the change or you substitute it with someone (something) else.

I have seen people in these forums that are alone but not lonely.
I have also seen people that say they are alone and not lonely but their actions and words prove otherwise.
Being alone and not lonely is not a ploy. While everyone has periods of loneliness the difference is how you deal with it.

I have seen people that claim they are alone and lonely but they have others in their lives. There are a few that are truly alone.
There are many that are just horny. We say there has been a sexual revolution and that society now embraces sexuality but that is not entirely true. Being openly sexual is still taboo. Because of that, needs and wants get fluffed up to have implied meanings.

Well you may or may not be an "odd one," but you are not alone in this. I think that a lot of us very much do want a deep romantic relationship, but especially the older of us have learned that those are rare and difficult to find, and we are patient about finding them.

Also, never ignore casual, more or less sloppy speaking and writing habits. Saying "I need x" is so idiomatic these days, if taken literally, most people would die within the space of a short plane ride, due to not getting all their "needs" met.

From the time I was very young, I noticed that when it comes to socially uncomfortable things like love and sex, that a LOT of people talk about those as "needs," mainly because if they pretend that they ARE really "needs," that will excuse their repeated stumbling or their repulsive greed. It's one of the worst "thought plagues" that humanity continually suffers from.

The term "need" has become a very fluid concept.

According to the strict definition, computers, the internet, and cell phones aren't needs, but try to imagine modern living without them!

There are people who sense that they won't feel complete without a relationship, and there is nothing wrong with that, but I think whats important is finding a way to be at peace with yourself and your life whether the right relationship comes along or not .

That's a difficult process for most people I think

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