I dont know that i would trust love at first sight.

I call it infatuation. Lust. Fantasy.

Many years ago i met Someone and he told me he loved me. I asked why?
He said what do you mean why? Because i loved you since i laid eyes on you.
I told him he's in love with a fantasy.
I told him hold on to those words until you know me. My life. My hopes. My fears. My dreams. The side of me that can sometimes be an A hole.
When you learn who i am, if you still love me, then it will mean something.
Many months later he said the words again and knew the difference and it was more than the empty words from the beginning

I don't think so, I know so

Some people like me are just shy

If it were you and you were faced with this, how would you handle it?


This is the scenario. A person that you know and have come to love has a friend of the opposite sex that lives with them. Nothing goes on between then sexually at all. It's totally platonic between them. This person is in their 60's and they have no real family to speak of. Nowhere to go at all.

The person you've come to love, you want to marry her/him. But, it's a package deal. You get his/her friend too. What do you do? Do you tell him/her that the friend that's getting old and already has health problems that if they want to get married that the friend has to go? Even though you know that you are kicking out a person that has nowhere to go?

OR, do you play it cool? Marry the man/woman and accept his/her friend and make a place for the friend to live? Like, maybe, outside you and your spouse home. But on the same property?

Remember now, if you kick this person out, their health isn't bad. But not great either. (This person has severe pain almost every day. They take several meds daily just to be able to function.) And the person will be living alone with no one to watch her/him. What do you do?

I was 8 years older than my x.
My acceptance range is 10 years younger and 10 years older.
My preference is 5 years younger and 5 years older.
My ultimate match, age-wise is my exact age.

While age difference does have some significance in match qualifications it is the personality match that I seek.

If I was just looking for sex, any lady over 18 would be 'game'.
Since I am not looking to reproduce my genetic line, sex is not my driving factor in a match. Sex is important to the relationship but not the reason for it.

Dating a woman under 45 would be like dating one of my kids friends. To me, that is just not right. Not only do we have different morals and values, our maturity and wisdom levels are different. There must be commonality so we click together.

What works for me may not be what works for everyone. Understand that we are all different. I suggest you set a range and stick to it. After-all, I would be more interested in a woman that has set values in life than one that goes headlong into things without understanding herself.

appleparfait, it doesn't matter if it is just you as long as you are doing what is best for you.

Are you asking for approval?
Nirmal is often substituted for standard procedure.
Do what you think is best for you.

Why people rely on dating site to find something that they can't find in social life??