I'm doubting the relationship, yet I still want to be with her

a question i have is, should i tell her that i realize that i messed up by telling her my feelings?

I just feel neglected, ignored, she avoids my phone calls...I had a conversation with her the other night because she always texts me, I told her I want to talk on the phone, have a real conversation...she called me and we talked...I told her I don't call her because she says she is so busy with school, so I don't want to bother her. She told me that I can call her...well, i've called her 4 times since then, and she doesn't answer and doesn't call me back...she again texts me a day and a half later.

I honestly have lost interest in her the past couple of weeks, but seeing that really hurt...if she isn't into me, why doesn't she just break it off instead of leading me on? Is she hoping that I do the job?

I agree with that, I know she is not the one, I just feel like I've wasted so much time caring about how she feels

thanks

I totally messed things up, I started dating a girl the beginning of january, I told her last month that I fell in love with her. That was a couple days before her birthday, and she said I love you too. Well, we haven't seen each other for 3 weeks, and i couldn't figure out why. Her facebook page under relationship status says "it's complicated". On one of her mini feed stories it says, "Michelle is thinking why do they have to complicate it by saying I love you? Just leave it at the door folks....leave it at the door." I should have kept it to myself.

I know it was probably a rhetorical question, but my thoughts and advice would be that if you really like him or her then give it a chance, people are busy, it's still the beginning of the relationship and you are still young. If things work out, it may be different in the future and may have a good time together and it will be some quality time together.

She is going to grad school, so she does have homework to do, but she also has enough free time where she would be able to spend a couple more hours with me. I talked to her about seeing her more, and she acts like it's impossible, she is the only busy person in the world...I even mentioned reading a book while she is doing homework, she said that would work, but that was over a month ago, and that doesn't happen. This past week we got to see each other for a half hour and this week we may not even see each other at all, so basically it'll be 3 weeks without her. Not sure if I would call this a relationship. I want to be her boyfriend, be able to do things with her and do things for her, help her out when she needs it, be there for her and her be there for me.

We live a half hour away, not far at all. I just want to see her, I miss her...not to sound like a *****, but this sucks

I just need to vent, thought I would come in here to do it...My girlfriend and I get along pretty well together, but how can you not when you only see each other for 5 hours a week. This week I got to see her for half an hour, awesome. I like her, but I may keep looking for someone else, she doesn't seem to be my ideal mate.

i fell in love as well, been with this girl for 3 months, told her i'm in love with her...she said she loves me too, I didn't really feel anything in that, I don't think she has the same feelings as i do for her.

that's a good question, i always wonder the same thing

thank you

I agree

but is being "needy" like this, just wanting a slight bit more time with a girl bad? I mean is it bad with all girls or just the ones that I happen to date?

I am excepting it lilith, it's just the way she was talking, it seemed like she thinks i'm needy...that is not what i am, i just wanted to see if there was a way we could spend more time together, which i have mentioned to her, and she said it was fine in the past, even doing homework with her.

Well the reason i asked her is because she sets up all the days we spend together. I think she wants to spend time with me because she will ask me what i'm doing on sunday, or wednesday or whatever. She will then call me when that time comes and cancel, saying she is sick or something.

5 hours a week is about an average of 1 full day a month, thats about 12 full days a year...there are 365 days in a year, someone is that busy to not have time for someone they "care" about?

I understand what your saying Jillybean...as much as I do like her, I also don't think I really want to be in a relationship as confusing as this one is...again. Honestly, I don't think I really want to be in any relationship, they are just to hurtful, especially in the beginning, when you think you have fallen for her and not really sure how she feels...she told me the other day she loves me after I told her I am in love with her for the first time, but I think she means she loves me, not that she is in love with me.