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Topic: am i needy, clingy, normal?
stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Sun 03/30/08 01:46 PM
I told my girlfriend the other day that i wanted to see her but i knew she was busy...She said "I never hid the fact that I am busy." We only see each other maybe 5 hours each Wednesday. I didn't think it was a big deal that I told her I wanted to see her, but she seems to think she is the only busy person in the world. I thought women liked it when men told them they are missed, but apparently not. She made me feel like I am some needy loser, I'm not needy, I like to spend a little time with my girl.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Sun 03/30/08 01:47 PM
well doesnt sound like yall are working out to me

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sun 03/30/08 01:48 PM
Your bothering yourself with pointless questions. Questions about anyone regardless of sex gets nowhere, we don't know.

livelife68 Joined Sun 12/30/07 Posts: 3696	Sun 03/30/08 01:50 PM
sounds like she might be to busy for a relationship.

david1972 Joined Sun 02/24/08 Posts: 323	Sun 03/30/08 01:51 PM
that should throw up a red flag

DrX Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 1539	Sun 03/30/08 01:51 PM
Your bothering yourself with pointless questions. Questions about anyone regardless of sex gets nowhere, we don't know. he's right, but I also want to add, if you only see her 5 hours a week, is it really a relationship? Sounds more like a booty call to me.

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Sun 03/30/08 01:52 PM
can't be a booty call, we haven't had sex

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sun 03/30/08 01:52 PM
Everyone has different personal space requirements...if you don't know hers, you might be invading it. Maybe you could ask her? I've had guys ask me if I mind how often they call...and sometimes was really glad they had.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Sun 03/30/08 01:53 PM
sounds reasonable to want more than 4 hours every wednesday...find someone with more free time

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Sun 03/30/08 01:53 PM
Read the thread about how you know the other is cheating.

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Sun 03/30/08 01:54 PM
she said that's the way she is, she doesn't like to spend a lot of time with her boyfriends, it is a turn off to her. She said she doesn't want to be like her best friend who spends a lot of time with her boyfriend. Well, that's fine, but I am trying to be in a real relationship where we spend some time together to get to know each other

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Sun 03/30/08 01:54 PM
Read the thread about how you know the other is cheating.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sun 03/30/08 01:54 PM
Read the thread about how you know the other is cheating. I like that thread.

daddysxgirlx35 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 588	Sun 03/30/08 01:55 PM
HAY SWEETY ITS TIME TO LOOK FOR SOMEONE NEW SHE IS JUST NOT THE WON FOR YOU IF I HAD A MAN I WOULD LOVE ALL THE NICE THINGS MEN DO AND SAY THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG THERE SORRY BUDDY I HOPE IT WORKS OUT

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Sun 03/30/08 01:57 PM
Everyone has different personal space requirements...if you don't know hers, you might be invading it. Maybe you could ask her? I've had guys ask me if I mind how often they call...and sometimes was really glad they had. I did ask her last night, i wanted to understand, I told her that she never explained to me how much space she requires. I told her that we need to communicate things in order for this to work out, and I let her know that I will give her as much space as she needs for this relationship.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 03/30/08 02:01 PM
If a girl is so callous and uncaring of how you feel then you should end the relationship. I would.

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sun 03/30/08 02:01 PM
she said that's the way she is, she doesn't like to spend a lot of time with her boyfriends, it is a turn off to her. She said she doesn't want to be like her best friend who spends a lot of time with her boyfriend. Well, that's fine, but I am trying to be in a real relationship where we spend some time together to get to know each other I wasn't seeing the whole picture before. Honey, if your looking for a lasting relationship and she doesn't want to be your best friend...maybe you're not on the same page. If she doesn't want to be too close, how will you build a relationship? Unless that's just me?

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Sun 03/30/08 02:03 PM
Well, get on over here, then!!! I'd love to be missed!!

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sun 03/30/08 02:05 PM
Everyone has different personal space requirements...if you don't know hers, you might be invading it. Maybe you could ask her? I've had guys ask me if I mind how often they call...and sometimes was really glad they had. I did ask her last night, i wanted to understand, I told her that she never explained to me how much space she requires. I told her that we need to communicate things in order for this to work out, and I let her know that I will give her as much space as she needs for this relationship. Just ask yourself if you're really ok with the amount of space she needs and you're not accommodating her just to pacify the situation. It's not ok for someone to make all the demands and not care about your needs too.

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Sun 03/30/08 02:06 PM
I told my girlfriend the other day that i wanted to see her but i knew she was busy...She said "I never hid the fact that I am busy." We only see each other maybe 5 hours each Wednesday. I didn't think it was a big deal that I told her I wanted to see her, but she seems to think she is the only busy person in the world. I thought women liked it when men told them they are missed, but apparently not. She made me feel like I am some needy loser, I'm not needy, I like to spend a little time with my girl. Wait..you only see her once a week and she thinks thats too much?..I like to hear from or see my man everyday..it doesn't have to be ALL day but everyday,yeah.If that means I'm needy then I guess I'm needy.