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Tue 10/06/09 08:11 PM
yep...I know exactly how you feel!!! My last "let me build you up" ran me a cool $250,000.00.... Yep I learnig to take care of meeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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Mon 10/05/09 03:03 PM

so I know a guy who thinks he knows everything when it comes to conspiracies and such..

and he doesn't.. sadly he's lacking a lot of info so every time I talk to him... I rile him up like crazy until he's practically screaming at me.. :p

I swear its too funny and yet I have no idea why he keeps callin me :p

people... if you're going to spout off about anything.. know your subject first :p because I sure do enjoy watching people turn red. :p

dont go getting me started...LMAO

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Mon 10/05/09 02:02 PM

Smooth moves------udderly fabulous!laugh laugh

laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Mon 10/05/09 05:47 AM

waving Hi everyone!!! I have just finished reading the best book!! It is called "The 5 Languages of Love"By Gary Chapman...Basicly if you know what you need to feel really loved, and your partner knows what they need to feel really loved...You share that information with each other..and you do the things your partner needs because we want to ...we do it for love's sake...its a choice to love them and do it for them....

The Five Love Languagessmitten

Words of Affirmation:

Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time:

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.



Receiving Gifts:

Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.



Acts of Service:

Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.



Physical Touch:

Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.


Thats all the stuff Ive been saying for years. Problem is, cant seem to find a woman who is willing to share all of that with me. They gladly accept I listen to them and respond for their needs, but they dont recipicate back. All I want is ONE.Just One!

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Sun 10/04/09 04:09 PM
read your email

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Sun 10/04/09 09:18 AM
Edited by anthsm22 on Sun 10/04/09 09:19 AM

A 'strong' woman has the experience and sense to let a man be who he is, without trying to change him. She can also retain who she is at the same time....jmo

Does the word "let" mean accept, or does it mean that it is a privaledge that one isnt trying to change the other????????? I like to choose my words carefully as to best define what the point I am trying to make is, and at the same time avoid conflict...JMO

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Sun 10/04/09 09:14 AM
Up... and reporting for duty.

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Sun 10/04/09 09:12 AM

Yes, somewhere out there is a man wishing he had fetched that fish and who can use it on his wall for his own fish tale. laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

dang...... not much credit towards men huh?

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Sun 10/04/09 09:10 AM
Some PEOPLE think that they are strong, but it is only a mask for their lack of self esteem and or selfishness. PLEASE...dont confuse the two..

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Sat 10/03/09 10:35 AM
welcome from florida

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Sat 10/03/09 04:24 AM


I dont think the thing of concern here is that he said he looked good in a suit, I think the red flag was that after she paid him a compliment, he didnt say at least thank you. Selfishness perhapse may be what needs to be watched for. JMO


Why would he have to say thank you? She didn't really compliment him, she kinda just half-asked if he did.

well I would have taken it as a compliment and said thank you

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Fri 10/02/09 08:52 PM



I think it happens way after you have completely given up & couldn't be bothered anymore .... then suddenly it happenslaugh

Thats what happend to me the last time... I had given up, but the "then it happend suddenly's" just kept happening with her....
:thumbsup:

No..No...Mirror...not a good thing!!!!

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Fri 10/02/09 08:51 PM
never ceases to happen does it! anyway, welcome

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Fri 10/02/09 08:46 PM



Now lady, you know thats only a rumor.....its never been proven...laugh laugh laugh

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Fri 10/02/09 08:44 PM

I think it happens way after you have completely given up & couldn't be bothered anymore .... then suddenly it happenslaugh

Thats what happend to me the last time... I had given up, but the "then it happend suddenly's" just kept happening with her....

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Fri 10/02/09 08:17 PM

Be up front and honest.

yep, the only way to go in style!!!!!

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Fri 10/02/09 08:15 PM

whoa slaphead

LMFAO!!!!!!!!

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Fri 10/02/09 07:17 PM

Can there be a self-implied prison? It doesn't necessary have to be bars around you , you can make yourself to be in a prison that it's you being the prisoner and the prison guard at the same time.

yes, and at that point, its usually a time of reflection that sets the pace for your thoughts to become structured in your endevours and goals....a time of settling with yourself...JMO

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Fri 10/02/09 07:10 PM
prison can do that to a personlaugh laugh laugh

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Fri 10/02/09 06:11 PM

I think a lot of people are looking at it the wrong way otherwise the military families would never work

Its one thing to already have a family and then distance be put between them, and really quit another to try and start something with distance as the rule and not the exception

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