It's been my understanding that the man falls IN love first, the women fall OUT of love first.

Men have far "lower" standards for romance and attraction, once a man gets past the shallows, men are romantically driven, women are opportunistically driven.

Thus the proven axiom that - all things being equal; women don't date down their social ladder and they all want - and feel they deserve - the top-rung man.

The 80/20 rule at work.

Just as an other poster said; be honest with all your men. I know I wouldn't - and doubt many other men would either - want to be your foody call while Joe gets the sleepovers.

To be blunt: if I just kissed you goodnight at your door and you then go inside and call Joe to come on over and re-arrange your uterus; that's the last you would ever see of me.

And don't put in your profile that you "don't want any serial daters": If its OK for YOU to live your lost college years, then you agree that it's OK for the guys you date to behave this way too.