And that is why women adore you

I have confronted it.
My style, being a badass. Why should he get to do stuff when no one else can?
Why should my household be compromised because he can not have self control?
I call it selfish and disrespectful.

I really am attracted to emotionally mature men who have no desire to be powerful, unless their power is humility.

What are you doing up my sweet lol.

Ok, imagine this scenario.
You are in lockdown, but your flatmate is still seeing his sexual partner. Sneaking off at weird times, disappearing for very long times. Do you ignore it or confront it?

Lol, sure is...Roll on 2020.

Talk to me. Why is this helpful?

You are so sweet. Ghost me...🦇

I hope so, just trying to help.

"What about you?"
Why are you even on this site?
Dial your local whore agency, you obviously do not want love, just sex.
You had best put her in your Will, otherwise she will not be there when you need old age care, that requires love and commitment.

My kitten is only four months old and he caught his first bird and took off under the house with it. How do I stop him from killing?

Nonsense. The forums would not be the same without you. Level headed, sweet, forthright and beautiful.
I felt like that for a time too. It will pass Cat. You are loved and respected here

Pardon? What are you saying MsHarmony?

Thank you Darkowl. We all know you are one of the few gentlemen left. And we respect you for that. Keep being you friend

Exactly Cat. I am not going to message them and say "I am ceasing this conversation because..."

They do not deserve anything but being haunted by my ghost...

I answer 1% of my posts and each time it is disappointing. Hence why I stick to the forums. People are far more respectful

Ok. Do you not get ugly, sexual, harrassing messages before you block them? I am not going to reply to a message which says,"Let's get naked on WhatsApp"". Which is his first or second message....
I owe no one an explanation when they are rude and disrespectful to me.
I am gone like a ghost...boo.

I believe China does not have the vaccine. It takes a very long time to create one because of the tests they have to do.
I do know China is asking their citizens to give the government their passports. Why do you think that is?

Hey Cat, I did not write the article, but I thought it might help people who are asking why people have stopped messaging them etc. Or why we do it to them....
And the rest is interesting

Dr. Ruth, America’s favorite psychosexual therapist, talks about the new forms of rejection—ghosting, benching, orbiting, and breadcrumbing.
As app dating has evolved, so have those who abuse this new method of finding a partner. Not only do you need to know how to deal with rejection, but you have to know how to deal with it on social media.


That’s not to say that everyone you’d meet using the old methods had perfect manners, but I do find that some of these new ways of making people feel miserable are almost worse as they can be such time wasters.


On Ghosting

So, what is ghosting someone? You probably know, but in case you don’t, ghosting means someone just stops communicating without giving any reason why. Suddenly your texts and any other forms of communication might just as well have not been sent.
Would you ghost someone? If you would, or if you have, then you shouldn’t feel too badly if someone does it to you. If it’s behavior that you condemn, then chalk up being ghosted as part of the process of discovery and realize that you just learned something about this person that would have made him or her unacceptable to you in the long run.


Benching is when someone is stringing you along. It can be more harmful than ghosting because it leaves you hope and might cause you to wait for this person, which is just a waste of time. According to my philosophy, wasting time is the worst thing you can do since we all have so precious little of it. So, if you sense that you might be on the bench, forget about this person as quickly as possible and move on.

Orbiting occurs when you think you’ve been ghosted but discover that the person is still checking up on you on various social media sites. Is he/she still interested? Is this a form of flirting or just being curious? It’s hard to tell, which makes this habit very annoying.

Breadcrumbing occurs when someone is leaving a trail of social “breadcrumbs” so that you assume there’s some interest, but you don’t know for sure because there’s no direct contact, and you want to scream, “&^%* or get off the pot!”
Be careful of all of these new ways of being rude because they’re distractions. You’re in pursuit of love, and devoting psychic energy and time to these people who are hanging around on the periphery of your life is only going to delay you arriving at the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

How to deal with rejection
Dating is a two-way proposition, and so you’re bound to be rejected occasionally, or maybe over and over. Dealing with rejection is hard but becomes less so when it occurs regularly.

The danger with frequent rejection is that you put up a wall in order to protect yourself from being disappointed, and that in turn causes you to hide your true personality — thus making it even more likely that you’ll be rejected.

Is it worthwhile to be rejected again and again, each rejection delivering a blow to your ego? If in the end you’re going to discover true love, then the answer would be yes. But to hasten the pace of getting that one special person you’re seeking, I’d suggest learning from those rejections and seeing whether there’s something you might be doing that is putting others off.

Don’t let rejection defeat you — put yourself out there
I accept that these days a lot more relationships are formed via computers and phones than using the older methods. You almost have no choice but to follow the herd. Notice I said “almost.” The older methods of finding a partner may not be used as much, but they still can work.


My advice to anyone looking for someone to date is to tell everyone you know — friends, family members, neighbors — that you’re available. You might think that your great aunt doesn’t know any single people your age, but the women she plays cards with might have relatives who would be perfect.

The other piece of advice I have for singles is not to sit home by the phone. I understand that this expression is a little dated since in today’s world your phone goes with you wherever you go, but there are plenty of people who will binge-watch some show, maybe even on their phone, instead of going out. If you’re outside, there’s always the chance of meeting someone. If you glue yourself inside your own four walls, chance meetings are out of the question.

Some people say they don’t like the bar scene, and whenever they go to the corner launderette, there isn’t a single person in sight.

So, what do you do? You do something that you enjoy. You take a class in a subject that’s always interested you. You go to a ball game. You take your phone to the nearest Starbucks. You can’t win the lottery if you never buy a ticket, and sitting at home is just like being ticketless.

I’m not saying that you will meet someone by joining the local book club or going to a religious service, I’m only saying that the odds of you meeting someone increase if you’re out and about. And if you’re doing something enjoyable, at least you won’t have wasted your time.

Both. How about you?