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Sun 11/04/12 07:06 AM


Chris rock helped me understand where I stand as a white male.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzYZvue2Bjo


I dont know how to make it a link. If someone wants to repost it as a like, that would be great. :-)


This message may not represent my . . . . . .. oh heck, its just humor folks.


Fixed it for youhappy ...To learn how, hit the quote button and look and each end of the link....:wink:

Very funnylaugh


I tried that. But I see I was missing a bracket ].

Thanks

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Sun 11/04/12 06:19 AM
Edited by Hikerjohn on Sun 11/04/12 06:28 AM
Chris rock helped me understand where I stand as a white male.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzYZvue2Bjo




I dont know how to make it a link. If someone wants to repost it as a like, that would be great. :-)


















This message may not represent my . . . . . .. oh heck, its just humor folks.

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Sun 11/04/12 05:25 AM

no


Does quitting coffee give u massive headaches?


Depends on how much you drink and how much your body became accustomed to it. I had headaches the first time but not the next few times because I never drank more than a cup or two in a day an I didn't drink it every day anymore. The sad part is coffee doesn't give you energy. it robs it. Email me if you want more info on it.




Have you ever forte over money that was even yours ?



No.

Have you ever lost a large sum of money that was yours?

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Sun 11/04/12 03:37 AM
Oh yes.

Have you ever tried to completely stop drinking?

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Sat 11/03/12 09:51 PM



Why is it that women after 50 are more interested in long walks and holding hands than they are in sex?

Ask your wife.


I did and I didn't like the answer. So I'm shopping for a better one


Well I hope you don't find a better one. She will deserve better.

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Sat 11/03/12 08:18 PM
So true. What matters is that you are attracted to the person your with and they are attracted to you.drinker

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Sat 11/03/12 07:59 PM


What did they have in common? They were good guys. Things didn't work out, but they were good people.

I think some people definitely have preferences and biases. It's a shame, because sometimes they miss out on really good people that way. I've seen many men on these sites who are chubby looking for slim women.

I just don't care, just more interested in the person, I guess.
Ha. Damn right you are :) Maybe this explains why the guy I'm now dating, always thought he was "out of my league". I'm slim, he's chubby. My friends constantly were telling me how he had a huge crush on me, but would never ask me, for fear that I'd reject him for his weight, but here's the clinch, he is a sweet man. And I don't say that lightly or about just anyone. A sweet, caring guy, will always outweigh the "beautiful" men. So no worries. Sweet men will always have more of a chance.


Nice. Not all ladies share your view or understanding. But it is very good for men to understand that there are wonderful ladies like you who value character qualities.

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Sat 11/03/12 07:53 PM

people suck melons...


really!:heart:


Hmm. I think I got a different vision than you were intending.

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Sat 11/03/12 06:40 PM

I am reading through this thread and I have to cringe from some of the things I see.

My definition of feminism is so not beat ANYONE over the head or under the bus.

IMHO a real feminist is the woman her Mother & Father would be proud of. Because she is and Adult Woman with equal gifts she brings to the relationship and is neither a victim or a bully but actually Respects her chosen mate as a REAL person as hopefully they have imparted on her all men are.

Men are not the enemy of true feminists. They are our PEERS and want us to have choices, parity, loyalty, equality, support when we need it and someone for them to lean on when they do. True feminism is about BALANCE and melding together not competeing or pushing anyone any direction. It is about trusting a mate to be a real partner. A partner that actually enjoys her sexuality rather than denies or uses it like a prostitutes prize.

It is not about dominance or submission, needs or demands, dictateing or begging. And it sure is not dishing out assignments of how life is GOING to be. A feminist gets you deal with REALITY not some scripted plan or trying to crush anyone into a molded stereotype.

What really makes me soooooh crazy is thinking that being a feminist gender specific. It absolutely is NOT some Amazon type female or castrated male. Those definitions are hype and retoric to mask the real issue that feminism is for everyone.


I was being a little funny there. But I do like what you say about your view of feminism and I can come along side you on most of those issues.



Yet what you are referring to, in my opinion, is what feminism means to you. Like pretty much all things in life there are good things and bad things about the feminism movement in history that go beyond the parts you believe in.

And 100 years from now, men and women will still be different, still not be equal and they will still be compatible. We are different, we are not equal and, with effort in ourselves, are compatible.

You ladies are already irreplaceable, valuable beyond comprehension and wonderfully different. I am glad for our differences and envious of some things you get to experience and the inner strengths given to you. It saddens me when that isn't cherished and championed.

If through science or evolution, women becomes like man, well Ill just say I am glad I wont be alive to see it.

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Sat 11/03/12 02:16 PM
Is that a cat?

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Sat 11/03/12 02:11 PM
Edited by Hikerjohn on Sat 11/03/12 02:14 PM
well I am on top of Kaleijoscope. Just wanted to point that out. happy

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Sat 11/03/12 02:09 PM
How do I get work to stop interfering with my mingling?

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Sat 11/03/12 02:08 PM
They make good massage therapists. happy Ive been told. :angel:

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Sat 11/03/12 02:05 PM

Oh Green Eyes ..how right you are....out of all the men I have met face to face in the past 8 months..nothing has gone beyond a second date.... ...Yes I do agree...with all you've said...I found most of these men talk about leaving all baggage, drama and old issues behind...but they are the ones who have it all...they put words in your mouth...I just sit dumbfounded sometimes....LOL....at the stupidity in what other hear being so different from what you've said......but I think I've learned alot here...I appreciate all of you who have the maturity and compassion to be able to read a profile and see it all clearly and not look for hidden messages..because I don't have any..I don't have an agenda with men either.....thanks all..


What are you really trying to say? waving

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Sat 11/03/12 02:04 PM


Audrey,

it is your posts. Do you want a real mans opinion?

Your an amazing young lady. Yes you are great on the eyes, but I am talking about the clear talents you have, the desires you allow us to see and the heart that comes through in your posts. You are genuine to your friends. I can tell. And most certainly a draw to be around.

Are you worth the chase? Absolutely.

Are you catchable? Not sure.

How would the right man know? The bad boy knows how to draw your attention and try and trap you, thats different. And I am pretty certain you have experience this.

I am talking about Mr right seeing you in starbucks and saying, "I want to get to know this gal". Are you catchable? Are you available for a permanent relationship? Do you know what you are willing to offer to that relationship? He is going to make great sacrifices. Are you willing to give the sacrifices that come with being in a committed relationship? Can he see that he can trust you and that you are going to stay when things get tough? Cause they are going to get tough.

A real man is going to be looking for those signs. not your words or the flip of your hair but he is the one looking deep in your eyes to see the real you. Real men are attracted to you physically but are not going to chase you to have a piece of it. Thats what bad boys do. They will chase you for your character. And appreciate you physically too. Even years later when that fades away.

When we find that girl who wants that kind of relationship, A real man is there to stay. thats the real chase. Very few seem to be into the real chase anymore. But there are still plenty. But you have to be offering the real bait for a real man.


There's a lot of me I don't show on here. But it is nice when people say those things based on what I post here. Because it really is all me.

Well thanks. I enjoy being worth it because that's what I believe I deserve.

Am I catchable? That depends on who cares to get to know me.

The bad boy is what most people will get in life. I refuse to accept it. I have some experience in this because they think they are so good at hiding it. I think there's some value in learning who people really are. An azzhole vs. the real deal. It helps.

That's funny because some of the most unemotional men troll a Starbucks and sit amoungst me. Such an attractive quality too. Are they thinking these things? I don't know. Sometimes all I hear in the air are big hot-shot movie scripts and stock options invested with life savings. But I feel most are probably scared I will reject them for a multitude of reasons they make up in their head. Anybody who knows me, really knows they won't even have to question my standing in a relationship. I am truly the most honest, to the point person there is when it comes to hard work in a relationship. The real question is, who is brave enough to actually work with me?

Men in today's world will chase a piece because its just easier. Everybody knows physical beauty fades and inner beauty is the only thing that survives. Its like a myth to some people but its there. And its worth it to be around. Not everyone has this and most men will take advantage of it. There's me, a steadfast woman who knows what she wants, which can send some men off like the road runner in the other direction.

I don't know what the real bait is. I have become secure in myself as well as what works for me. All I can offer to a man for right now is a foundational friendship. I can't pray for true love when I know the very thought of falling in love or even liking someone will scare a man into submission or rather their own personal oblivion. Point me a real man who does the "real chase" and I will locate a unicorn for all to see. For now, there's a Big Bang Theory rerun on with my name all over it. bigsmile


Knock Knock Audrey
Knock Knock Audrey
Knock Knock Audrey


Ah but you do show more about yourself than your words. For those who are looking. It shows in your eyes and your smile and what is behind your words. And you are right. Most men are not what your looking for but not all are bad boys. Some have just given up.

And offering the real bate? You already said it and you already do. Real beauty is inside not out. Real men see the inside. I feel for ladies who work so hard on the outside and neglect the inside. (Or are insecure because they don't like there outsides). There is no way they will ever get anything but the guy looking for a piece of the outside. And those guys know those ladies will give it up because the gals think thats the bate. But a woman working on making the inside beautiful is magnetic to a real guy. He wants the whole package. The real guy wont fear your view of deep love and commitment. The ones running when they hear this are the ones looking just a piece and deciding the price it too high. MAKE THEM RUN.

I am fully confident in telling you that you are attractive to me. Because of the character traits that you show behind your words, the eyes and the smile. So keep building the character traits and values you want for your life and let it be known your a person who wants a long term committed relationship. If you want to fish in the pond with the guys were are left who want that. You will attract them not make them run. After they order their starbucks.

'Bazinga!' Ha

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Sat 11/03/12 11:18 AM
Many inactive have been inactive for years. I found some that were inactive for over 4 years. I think they don't want to purge these because it would show how very few people are really still on and active.

I think if this is true, its ill thought out. Many come, get discouraged and leave because of all the traffic they have to wade through to find active people. I think more would stay if it was easier than those who would leave because of low volume.

Thats the business evaluation part of my brain going off. But its worth a thought mods as you read this.


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Sat 11/03/12 11:11 AM
Hmmmm.

Thank you for sharing this experience with us. I guess one doesn't know what they would do until they face it.

I have thought about it and believe I wouldn't do anything. But to be truthful, I don't know. Now seeing you fight this I can say that I probably wont know until I do face it if its in my path. But at some point, we all will face our mortality in some way.

Life is valuable. Look how many people you are touching in this challenge. Some have been virtual friends for years and some, like me barely have met you.

I have a feeling the good Lord is going to bless many more people alone the way.

Gar, Don't be afraid or too proud to lean on friends. Let us know of any needs you have. You maybe surprised how those needs get met and what blessings come through asking.

God bless you.


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Sat 11/03/12 05:32 AM
Edited by Hikerjohn on Sat 11/03/12 05:33 AM

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Sat 11/03/12 05:25 AM

Energy this morning to work outfrustrated


Me too. I am just going to stand up right now and get in the car. Errr

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Fri 11/02/12 09:21 PM
It already has. flowerforyou

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