GEESH! What would you do. I ended up letting him spend the rest of his night in his room he could only read book, he did get to eat dinner , and take a bath.

I went to the store and baught my boys new bat, 2 balls, track ball set, and a kewl other game.

My oldest one was the batter my youngest one was the pitcher. My oldest one got 2 strikes, my youngest one decided he was going to throw a fit. A friend of theres showed up. I told the friend he could pitch, the oldest one had strike 3. I told him strike 3 your out its your brother turn. He ran at me with the bat, he was about to hit me, i turn and ran, and he dropped the bat and spit on me. I took the bat and I said its time to leave. They both started crying. I told the oldest he was spending the rest of his night in his room. On the walk back home, the oldest was just being a brat. I told him that I was very sick of his behavior, and that I wasnt going to deal with it anymore. Than he mentioned that his dad didnt love him. I told him that he does, then he said well he never sees us. I told him that I could not control that, but he loves you.

Its very true, I would let there dad have every other weekend with them, not a problem. I have everyother weekend off, I told the father he could take them on the weekend I had to work, but he only wants to see the boys when he doesnt have a girlfriend. He seen the boys Dec 21, he didnt spend much time with them, the boys spent the night at his parentshouse, Than February 16, the boys went to his wrestling show, he talked with them for about 30 minutes, the boys had a wrestling tournment the same day in the same place and he wont come and see them. Than the day before Easter he say them at the walmart and baught them some bike stuff, so about 30 minutes and refused to dye easter eggs with them at the grandparents house.

I can see the frustration, i have full custody of the boys the father gets to see them, WHEN he wants, or when I say its OK.

I SOOOOOOOOOOOO dont know what to do.

You simply can tap a cheek, if and when you become a SINGLE MOTHER, let me know. I have two boys, the one has anxiety and P.T. There are amply amounty of people around that believe that spanking a child is ok, there is however a differance in spanking and beating, I DO NOT spank with anything other than my hand. I do not do BARE BUTT spanking, if I spank and my hand hurts thats to hard.

My oldest on has it in his mind if I spank in than I will go to jail. SO, yesterday, it was in your book OK for him to want to hit me with his baseball bat and than spit on me. I did not react and he spent the rest of his night in his room reading books, Nothing more, he had dinner and a bath and back to his room he went.

Wow! Interesting, I hope that your children are perfect. Like other people say, if you can raise them better than raise them.

A life of a single mom. Yet one of those days again.

My boys are 6 (kindergarden) and 7 (2nd grade). I picked them up from school, we were in a hurry. We had a wrestling meet to go to. We get to the elementary school, have to get to the bathroom, my boys need to be watched continually. My youngest one was throwing his fit, doing everything that he shouldnt of been doing, I spanked his but,just once, than he being the drama king. Screaming to the top of his lungs. I tapped his cheeck, and wouldnt you know it, he screamed more. Than some kind of lawenforcement person decided to come and intervene. Asking if everything was ok. I said yes,than my oldest son saids she slapped him across his face. OMG. Im already pissed. Than walking out I told him I did spank his butt and than he told me that,that was half the truth. What. OMG.

Than he felt the need to watch me. I felt like telling him if you can do a better job, than do it. I was so mad.

I also went to law enforcement school. In the statute it states you can use reasonable force on a child. One spanking just once is reasonable. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrr.

These are the times it sucks being a single mom. Idid call the boys dads, dad (grandpa) he is a retired deputy. He told me, that it was ok and not to worry about it.

What 2 do..

Thanks! Jamie..........

I guess I didnt tell everything. I was married also when I was 18. I graduated in 95 married Sept 9 1995, everything went good until my 2nd miscarriage he told me it was all my fault. The relationship started turning violate. In the end I was court ordered to leave the hometown cause the judge thought he was going to kill me, this is after he put a gun to my head. I left with a friend of mine, his father was a cop and his mom was a nurse, they told me I could live with them. I divorced in 1999. The same month of my divorce I found out I was pg. I was shocked. Well than April 11, we decided to get married I was 6 months pg. A week before I decided to marry this mom he cheated on me. I didnt think anything of it. But than it continued, he cheated on me with my coworker his coworker. Than June 29 2002, he left me and his 2 kids for a person he met on POGO. Come to find out that she was married and her husband left her for another man. On March 3 2003 we were divorced. He never showed up cause he was in California with her. Than I met the abusive guy, at daycare. Than in Dec 2004 I baught a house, 2 weeks after buying my house I got beat for 4.5 hours because I went to the wrong skating rink in a town that has only 2 stop lights so I didnt know there was more than just the big one. At that time I didnt know that the boys father moved back to minnesota. Well he moved out of her house and moved into an apartment. I was shocked I looked him up, I put pictures of his boys in his mail box. After 2 years of not seeing the boys, I braught them to see him. Than shortly after that I gave him another chance. He wasnt even in my house for 3 weeks and he left me again for his boss. Than his boss figured something out about him and decided not to be with him. Now he is with someone else. When he has a gf he seems not to care about the boys. I never talk bad about there dad, when they get older they can figure it out. The oldest is starting to have anger problems, sometimes, i wish I would just pack up his cloths and send him to his father, but if I did that he wouldnt have a place to sleep. Somedays I wish I just had a guy friend that would talk to my oldest. Since Im a "girl" and he is a young man he would understand a male more. He doesnt listen. I dont get it. The dad decided to show up to a wrestling met this last Saturday. My oldest finally beat a kid in wrestling after wrestling this kid for 3 years. The dad felt the need to take all the credit. This is the 1st time since December that he has even seen them. WHAT! I didnt say anything. The youngest one got 2nd place and he still felt the need to take the credit. They have been wrestling since January and its March.............
Times like this I just want to throw my hands up. Just like tonite, it was horrible, my brother whom is mental challenged he is my half brother, he helps my boys wrestling, but since the oldest one tonite lost all his matches, he belittled him in front of everyone. I took my oldest aside and told him that he did a good job and he tried. HE hurt his own nephews feelings. Mind you my brother is very abusive he is 2 years older than me, and about 1 year ago he knocked me out cold, I passed out in my bathroom and when I came to he was standing on my knuckles saying "You need my help now". Very abusive even when I was little and he was taken out of the house. Other than him and my mom whom thinks Im the worst mom every cause I put my boys in time out or write sentences because of behaviors. I feel that Im in a no win situation.
Other than the brother and my mom, the people that I have is my boys. I LOVE them so much, but I need the help taking care of them so I can work and I work fulltime nights and there is NO ONE around here that will watch them since they are very very very active boys, but when it comes to 8pm at nite they go to bed and sleep all night...........ok I think Im done sorry if I bored anyone.

Ive been divorced since 2003, I met a guy a little after that was with him for along time, but he was very physically abuses when he was drunk. Than it ended. I know there are guys are there that dont want a already made family. I guess I dont really go out and "look" for a guy. Thought maybe talking to someone online would be ok. Ive talked to a few SOME just want sex or a skinny person. Well, I just dont want sex and I will never be skinny, Im adv. Im a very caring person, It wouldnt matter to me if they had kids. Some guys think that kids come 2nd.........my boys are my world......ive been asked to leave them home and go out....hell no they are only 6 and 7. Im so sick of the bar scene, I dont get it. I just dont get it. I just want to be happy and grow old with someone. I work hard and everything I have I baught it, no one has ever gave me a break, the only break that Ive got was a broken heart..........

Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?