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Topic: Why me, why?
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Tue 03/18/08 09:24 PM
Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?

itsmetina's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:26 PM
because life is painful for some

barefootbaby78's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:26 PM
welcome...in time some man will come and sweep you off your feet and accept that you are a family....hold out...i know you have lonely times...we all do but your happy days are on the way....flowerforyou

IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:27 PM
Could it be that you're looking for the wrong type of man??? Some men don't want ready made families, but others do... Maybe you should ask that question first then go from there...

VirginVirgo's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:27 PM

Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?








because... probly most men dont want to play father to kids that arent theres.. there selfih .. u will find love...

redhead44613's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:28 PM
well wanting sumone to be a "dad" to ur kids is sumthing u might not want to say at 1st lol. but hey he will come some day. I was only on here about 3months an got sumone already, it takes time. yes I am young but still... its hard to find a good guy these days, he will come I promise you this! hope u feel better hun :heart: flowerforyou

LadyOfMagic's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:28 PM

Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?

((((((((((momofboystwo))))))))I have days like that..actually most of my life is like that..I have other issues that guys refuse to accept..but don't worry..you will find the RIGHT one at the RIGHT time.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:28 PM
flowerforyou Goodluck flowerforyou

texastnsplayer's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:28 PM
youll find someone just make sure first and foremost that he is a good father to your kids

Queene123's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:28 PM
some guys dont want to get in a already made family,, every guy i dated didnt seem to mind. when i got together with my son dad,(ex hubby) he was all for it, as he was talking about adopting my daughter, but that was all talk,,

Jess642's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:29 PM

Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?


Instead of focussing on what you don't have right now in your life, try focussing on what you do have...two amazing kids.... they have you.....

We can feel they are missing out, I did for the longest time, and I once spoke to a girlfriend, about the same things you are feeling, she turned to my kids and asked, 'Do you feel you are missing out, on a dad?'
They replied, 'Hell No! Mum, is all the dad, we need!"

flowerforyou

itsmetina's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:29 PM
if someone wants you bad enough they will love you no matter what

LadyOfMagic's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:33 PM


Today for me is a very sad day. Today is once of those days that I wish I had someone to talk to cry on there shoulder.

I dont get it, why cant I find someone whom doesnt care that I have 2 kids. They are a part of me, why cant I find someone that will except them and want to be a dad to them. They are very cute boys and very active. WHY. Its sad, its lonely, what am I suppose to do. Im feel hopeless somedays,

Please responded, I have no more answers?


Instead of focussing on what you don't have right now in your life, try focussing on what you do have...two amazing kids.... they have you.....

We can feel they are missing out, I did for the longest time, and I once spoke to a girlfriend, about the same things you are feeling, she turned to my kids and asked, 'Do you feel you are missing out, on a dad?'
They replied, 'Hell No! Mum, is all the dad, we need!"

flowerforyou

That's how it's always been for me..my mama has always been mama and daddy to me and my brother and actually I like it that way..I don't want to be apart of someone's life that doesn't want to be apart of MINE!

livelife68's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:33 PM
don't give up hope. Best wishes. flowerforyou

writer_gurl's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:34 PM
Don't give up...From your post you sound heart achingly sad ,but one day and maybe someday soon,there would be a man for you that will adore you're 2 boys and love you...I say be patientand let things take it's courseflowerforyou

hottpinkilicious's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:34 PM
Focus on the two MEN whose lives youa re shaping! Don't feel like you don't ahve a man who loves you...you have 2!!! When they grow up some, and you can get out and do more things with them(like sports, activities, etc) you won't feel so lonely. We all get lonely sometimes. You don't need a man to make you happy. If the men you meet sense that you expect them to fill that big of a void, YOU are scaring them off, not the boys!
Not trying to hurt your feeling, but you need to keep busy and meet more people and make friends. Youa re putting all the blame for your lonliness on someone you haven't met yet when YOU have the power to NOT be lonely.

mssilverfox's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:39 PM
Just focus on the boys and it will come.. I was lucky to find a man that accepted mine and I had 4, he had 3. We had a wonderful marriage for 26 yrs before I lost him... There is a good man out there for you, try to be patient...flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

leviosa's photo
Tue 03/18/08 09:44 PM
I find that having a son doesn't bother most men, but I can tell you that the men it does bother shouldn't and in the end won't be the ones you want around. I know this is difficult, but you need to focus on being a strong mother and not letting this drive you. You wouldn't want your boys to let it fuel them or make them feel like they are less valuable because these blind schmucks don't want to take any more responsibility than is minimally necessary to survive. So set the example by doing... easier said than done, but your boys are worth it.

Nealinho10's photo
Wed 03/19/08 09:01 AM
Its often best to come out with it from the get go. Guys don't like that sort of surprise later on in the relationship. I don't know why, could be because kids tend to interrupt the intimacy between him and you. Just a theory.

franshade's photo
Wed 03/19/08 09:04 AM
There are days in which we feel we have done everything and are still unable to find happiness, that's human. But what I think you should do is focus on the positive, you have 2 beautiful and healthy kids. You're luckier than most, you have 2 faithful, dependable, beautiful and sincere men in your life flowerforyou

Good luck

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