O.K. THIS IS THE REAL DEAL,,,,,

GENERALLY WOMEN PREFER TO TALK THROUGH THERE

EMOTIONS SO THEY CAN LET GO....

MEN PREFER TO JUST TRY TO LET GO...FIND CALM SPOT

TO RELAX....

NOW THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS....WHAT EVER WORKS FOR

YOU.....BIGGEST EXCEPTION MAY BE WHEN YOUR IN A

RELATIONSHIP.....

LETS PUT IT THIS WAY , YOU QUIT LISTENING YOU MAY

NOT GET THE COOKIE WHEN YOU WANT IT.......

then you must be happy....

SOMETIMES, PAIN CAN BE A GOOD TEACHER....THEN AGAIN

IF IT FITS YOUR STORY ''SCRIPT'' THEN IT'S

REINFORCED.....

ONE MORE THING,,,,WHEN WE HAVE A THOUGHT THAT FITS

OUR STORY AND IT BECOMES A BELIEF TWO THINGS HAPPEN

FIRST WE START FEEL AS IF IT'S TRUE THEN WE ACT

LIKE ITS TRUE,THEN WE PROJECT OUR BELIEF TO THE

WORLD ....THE WORLD IS A MIRROR.....WE LIVE

UP TO THE SCRIPT THEY WHERE GIVEN.....

A HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM AND HEALTHY ESTEEM FOR

OTHERS IS VERY RARE....EVERY MOVIE, EVERY NOVEL

HAS 3 ELEMENTS....PERSECUTOR, VICTIM, AND

RESCUER.....ITS CALLED THE KARPMAN TRIANGLE OR

DRAMA TRIANGLE.... IT SERVICES TWO PURPOSES, TO

FEEL OUR FAVORITE FEELINGS AND VALIDATE OUR

BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES AND OTHERS.....THE REALLY

BAD THING ABOUT IT IS EVERYONE ENDS UP IN THE ONE

DOWN POSITION OF VICTIM.....NO ONE IS A

WINNER....WASTE OF TIME AND LIVES.....SELF

AWARENESS IS THE ANSWER, ITS NOT EASY GIVING UP

UNHEALTHY PARTS OF OURSELVES, BECAUSE WE HAVE PUT

BACK HEALTHY BELIEFS THAT DO NOT FIT OUR STORY OR

WHAT IS SOME TIMES CALLED OUR LIFE SCRIPT.....YOU

WANT TO LEARN THE MOST ABOUT SOMEONE WATCH THEM

WITH THERE FAMILY. THEN TRY TO WATCH YOURSELF WHEN

YOU ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY....WHAT FEELINGS DO YOU

HAVE?? WHAT BELIEFS COME UP AND ARE THEY REALLY

VALID ???....

THE VERY BEST DATING COACH IS DAVID DeANGELO YOU

WILL FIND INFO ON LINE....LOOK FOR HIS VIDEO'S THAT

WAY IT'S EASY TO GO OVER STUFF YOU HAVING TROUBLE

UNDERSTANDING....YOU WILL LEARN A LOT ABOUT

YOURSELF AND AS YOU DO YOU WILL WANT TO KNOW

MORE.....GOOD LUCK....P.S. THE LADIES HAVE A LOT

MORE TO LOSE THAN WE DO, THEY ARE JUST AS NERVOUS

AND HAVE PROBLEMS WITH UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES AS WE

DO....SO CHECK OUT DAVID.........

WATCH GUYS WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN....LEARN

AS MUCH AS YOU CAN ABOUT WOMEN....READ MEN ARE

FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS BY JOHN GRAY.THERE

ARE A LOT OF GOOD DATING COACH'S.....WOMEN DO NOT

TAKE IN INFO THE SAME WAY AS MEN THEN THEY DO NOT

PROCESS IT THE SAME WAY.....YOU WILL NEVER REGRET

LEARNING FROM BEST SOURCES INSTEAD OF ON THE

STREET, OR YOUR MALE FRIENDS.....GOOD LUCK, TAKE

YOUR TIME AND LEARN THE MOST YOU CAN FROM THE BEST

SOURCES POSSIBLE......AS YOU LEARN, ONE DAY WILL

JUST BE THERE.....

JUST THE 50 SHADES OF GRAY....

IT'S GIRL THING, WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO ''GET IT''

WHEN WE HAVE A THOUGHT THAT FITS '' OUR STORY'' WE

1- WE FEEL ITS TRUE 2- WE ACT LIKE ITS TRUE AND IT

BECOMES TRUE.....AND OUR WORLD BECOMES A '' MIRROR

TO PROJECT OUR STORY....THAT HOW WE LIVE UP TO THE

SCRIPT WE ARE GIVEN.....HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH

SMARTZ.....

dat is pow zoom right past the heart to the emo

zone.

EVEN ''THE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE '' HAVE SELF ESTEEM

ISSUES....

GALS WHO HAVE OBSESSION WITH OLDER MEN....''THE

WORLD IS OUR MIRROR'' '' PROJECTION''

''THE WORLD IS OUR MIRROR''.....

how about the way we listen.......lets say you have

a point of view and you tell it to someone and

person is seeing the sense it makes to them. or

thinking of a rebuttal......the point i am making

is you are sharing your point of view and how it

makes sense to you.....when we really listen we see

sense the other person is making to themselves..in

this case the sense it makes to you.....the way to

fix it is to repeat back what you heard, and ask if

you got it correct....

ANOTHER THING TO BE AWARE OF IS, AROUND 7 % OF

COMMUNICATION IS JUST WORDS, 93% IS BODY LANGUAGE.

THE FEDS AND LOCAL LAW ENFORCEMENT STUDY BODY

LANGUAGE NOW SAVES VALUABLE TIME GETTING TO THE

TRUTH.....THERE ARE COURSES FOR DATING THAT ARE

EXCELLENT AND ENTERTAINING.......