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Planning the date
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That is all kinds of silly talk. You're pissed because he's asking you for suggestions? It's like you're reading into something that's not even there. Ever think the dude just wants to make you happy? Perhaps it works out better for everybody involved when you play the "I'm gonna drop a bunch of hints and you have to figure chit out" rather than being upfront Just sayin!  Personally, I'd dip on a broad like that. I'm too old for the games and time is running out And Merry.... bowling is fun! But I'd never take you there if you explicitly said you hate bowling. If you didn't tell me, and I was taking charge and that's where I planned - since you're siding with carebear, the date doesn't work out because you are in a place you don't wanna be. Dudes can't win  That's ok...the boys will just go for beers and leave you hens doing whatever it is you like to do without us Bob, it's nuanced and if you're spending time having a hours of conversation then it shouldn't be so hard when it's actually time to go out. It's the same as gifting, if you pay attention it's not hard to gift someone, it's not about the gift - it's about listening actively and learning. It does work for some people to be completely direct and say, so what do you want for your birthday/ what do you want to do? (blah blah blah...) But, if you've invested time already then, one should be paying attention and it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Lol...! Also, I'm not saying that both people can't throw out options and have conversation about first date. I think that it's always good for both people to come to the table.  And, that's why I understand what Carebear is saying. And, if you feel that fellas "can't win", you won't with that attitude.  Last note: I have been taken bowling even after saying explicitly (prior) that it's not a thing I enjoy. All I'm going to say is: balls and holes 🤢🤢🤢 But, someone did not listen... 🫠  Everything in life is nuanced. Dudes don't wanna play a game where that they can't win....so it's ok to have that attitude! And if there's expectations before the first date even takes place - that will go nowhere in a hurry because, it can only get more complicated from there. Look at it from a dude's point of view - we are expected to take you out, be charming, entertain you, and pay for the date - and don't say you don't expect him to pay, because a dude that don't pay is not going to float your boat enough for a second date What is a girl bringing, and what expectations should the guy expect? I can dig the fact that a guy could have expectations as well - Usually they want some nookie for what they've invested...but I think that, that's wrong too. Balls and holes....thats pool or billiards. Bowling is knocking down pins. Both are great dates for guys, because you get to check out her azz without her noticing you staring, and pool is great when she leans in for a shot.  This response Bob... Listen, it's not easy for the ladies as well because my experience has been that the fellas take such offence when I open my wallet to pay. It is the complexities of the dating experience. But, I don't think it's a game. Therefore, it's not about winning. But, some folk are into that. To come back to Carebear's original post and her responses I get it and would feel similar if I were in her position. Her idea of of UFC and wings is spot on, but the fella is pedestrian. But, I understand your POV Bob and I'm glad you understand the nuances. P.S. I hate pool too... I would rather die. 🤢 |
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Rate my profile please.
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Your profile is sweet!
  I would perhaps check the crop ratio of your second pic. It seems rather long in height on my phone. Perhaps add a little more to the bio section in terms of a write-up. Good luck! |
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Risky
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Games
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Planning the date
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That is all kinds of silly talk. You're pissed because he's asking you for suggestions? It's like you're reading into something that's not even there. Ever think the dude just wants to make you happy? Perhaps it works out better for everybody involved when you play the "I'm gonna drop a bunch of hints and you have to figure chit out" rather than being upfront Just sayin! Personally, I'd dip on a broad like that. I'm too old for the games and time is running out And Merry.... bowling is fun! But I'd never take you there if you explicitly said you hate bowling. If you didn't tell me, and I was taking charge and that's where I planned - since you're siding with carebear, the date doesn't work out because you are in a place you don't wanna be. Dudes can't win That's ok...the boys will just go for beers and leave you hens doing whatever it is you like to do without us Bob, it's nuanced and if you're spending time having a hours of conversation then it shouldn't be so hard when it's actually time to go out. It's the same as gifting, if you pay attention it's not hard to gift someone, it's not about the gift - it's about listening actively and learning. It does work for some people to be completely direct and say, so what do you want for your birthday/ what do you want to do? (blah blah blah...) But, if you've invested time already then, one should be paying attention and it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Lol...! Also, I'm not saying that both people can't throw out options and have conversation about first date. I think that it's always good for both people to come to the table. And, that's why I understand what Carebear is saying. And, if you feel that fellas "can't win", you won't with that attitude. Last note: I have been taken bowling even after saying explicitly (prior) that it's not a thing I enjoy. All I'm going to say is: balls and holes 🤢🤢🤢 But, someone did not listen... 🫠 |
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Cooper
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Me, Myself & I ~ Beyoncé
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Ground
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Less Talk More Action ~ Tim Deluxe
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Sospetti e Tenerezze ~ Ennio Morricone
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Sugar
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Planning the date
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I'm with you on that note, Carebear...!
Although, I've never experienced it, what is the point of having those initial conversations if it's going to be, "So... What do you want to do?"  I like when those conversations lead to an exciting first meet. And when in doubt don't pick bowling (ever!!!) That's just my preference |
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Naughty- naughty
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Got 'Til It's Gone ~ Janet Jackson
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I Hate You, But I Love You ~ Céline Dion & Pavarotti
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Layers and layers (and layers)
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You'll Never Know ~ Michael Bublé
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Outstanding
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