It is just my opinion but I think maybe you are making sweeping generalizations that are not neccesarily true.

At your age your experiences are still quite limited. While you may have awaken to a slightly more realistic view of people you have a ways to go.

Attraction is really more about how a person is percieved. I take just about any magazine of the so called "beautiful" people and most of them have some "issue" that in the strictest sense or definition they aren't.

I believe a lot of it is the vibe you give off. Is it closed, tense, distant, defensive? Or open, relaxed, engageing, and huggable. I read your text and I get a completely different vibe of who you are than what your picture projects. I don't know for sure how a younger woman would relate to your picture but to me it doesn't do anything for you. It's like you don't even want to introduce yourself to the camera much less a woman. No smile, hostile folded arms, kind of grungy looking clothes in a dark depressing background. Your hair and facial hair seem like an after thought. If that is typical I would give you the benifit of the doubt that it is just trying to be yourself and not draw attention to yourself but that doesn't work real well in trying to be noticed for a date. Even great looking guys have to spiff it up a little and be engageing or they come off as snobs.

Girls generally want a guy with a career not a couple of low paying part-time jobs. It isn't selfish not to want to live hand to mouth and see your children do without while you and your mate struggle to keep from going under. If you don't mention you are working for beter as a young man you look like a slacker.

There was a lot of talk about preference but some guys just don't get it is some times about looks. Some gals want blonde some want brunette and others want a red head. Maybe they like long hair others short. There are a hundred reason someone will accept or pass on your looks and it isn't right or wrong.

a big difference i've noticed between men and women with regards to internet dating, and maybe just dating in general is that the man (most times) is expecting instant and immediate attraction whereas the woman (in many instances) finds that attraction is something that is built up over many dates and/or emails.

when the man doesn't get the instant reaction that he wants, he stops calling the woman. if he'd persisted, he may have found that her level of interest increased as they got to know each other.

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