This thread calls for popcorn.

BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT SHE COULD ''FIX HIM''-- LADIES ''WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU

GET''

Let me fix it for you.



There you go.


FWB is just another way to rationalize using someone for your own gratification without having to feel bad, offering to pay for sex with a shallow emotional bond rather than money, thereby deluding yourself that it's something "real" and means more than just two people getting themselves off.

FWB is a means or attempt to protect yourself from your own insecurities and try to one sidedly control and define a relationship.


All relationships have expectations.
Do you even know what the word expectation means?
Your sentence right there says you have an expectation of the relationship providing you with freedom and care.

Relationships don't define you or the people in them.
If you (or they) are a person with any insecurities, you are going to have an insecure relationship no matter what you choose to call it or what boundaries you try to force the other person to adhere to.

Other than that, all relationships are heavily dependent upon communication.
Your compatibility, or willingness to learn compatible communication, will determine fights, expectations or boundaries, and complications.

So you simply saying "FWB provides freedom and care!" doesn't really help a prospective FWB know what you mean by "freedom and care!"
Does that mean she can bring over 30 other guys on a random night for a group bi orgy and make you her sissy fest? Does she have that freedom?
How about if she really just needs a week of cuddling and nothing else, all night long, do you provide that care?


So at best with your "FWB is a healthy relationship!" you are saying "I want to define the relationship and boundaries that you have to live up to and by, but you can have absolutely no reciprocal input at all! And I have rationalized how it's good and beneficial to all!"

Or IOW "I want what I want when I want it and how I want it, and you have to give it to me and be happy about it."

Good luck finding that relationship with someone that isn't extremely messed up mentally and/or emotionally leading to exactly what you are trying to avoid.

<=== needs another cold beer.