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Topic: When to start dateing again
insearch2's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:18 PM
I still feel a lot of pain

Robm248's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:19 PM
When you feel ready. Don't rush it, it takes time to get over that. Once YOU are ready to move on and give your attention to someone... and actually have a relationship on that level with another person, then go ahead.

Ising's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:19 PM
Edited by Ising on Mon 04/28/08 02:22 PM

Ising's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:21 PM

Of course you do.... Believe me, I was married for over 14yrs and he left me for a 23yr old. It does get better. Promise!!! It just takes time.... Don't rush it. Go with the emotions.... It will be over before you know it!!! You'll be better for it...

insearch2's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:25 PM
it has been two months and parts of me want to go out and parts don't

Citizen_Joe's photo
Mon 04/28/08 09:55 PM

How soon after a divorce or seperation happens do you get back in the singles game


One second after your conscience is clear and the anger and resentments about wife #X turn to apathy. Optional, take current resentments from wife #X to future ex-wife #X+1 and see how far it gets you. <g>

viraloneontheout's photo
Mon 04/28/08 10:18 PM
as soon as you can honestly say you arent bitter or resentful any more Just got to that point a few weeks ago She is now my friend and i know its over time to get back on that high road and get a brand new girlfriend

itsmetina's photo
Mon 04/28/08 10:18 PM

after you wipe yourself clean
i'll take care of it

lily38's photo
Mon 04/28/08 10:51 PM
I agree with Rob and Ising. Don't push it. Take it a day at a time. I felt like I had a knife in my gut for a full year. I dated, but had only because I thought it'd help me move on faster or fill the void. It didn't. Friends and family, faith, perserverence.....that's how you get through it. Learn to be comfortable in your own new self, then look for someone to fall in love with.

Torylynn's photo
Wed 04/30/08 02:11 PM
Divorced since 2007 but separated since 2006...he cheated and it took me 6 months before I decided to move on...and see what was there...and was in 1 year relationship and that broke...and it's been 5 months but I am back to the field..

Torylynn's photo
Wed 04/30/08 02:13 PM
You also have to ready to get rid of the pain and anguish in order to move on...And be careful not to judge everyone on the ex...You have to be ready and secure in yourself to do this

no photo
Fri 05/02/08 03:18 PM
I got back in a little late if we are talking "single's game". That is only because my priority was elsewhere for the first 2 - 2 1/2 years after my separation. If it hadn't been, I might have started a year or two earlier. However, as I said in another thread, if you are looking for a committed relationship, if you are seeking your next (and hopefully last) life-partner, I wouldn't start seeking them out in dating situations till I was 1 or 2 years post-divorce. For most people, any sooner just doesn't work out in the long-run. For the few that are able to do it - more power to them.

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