jsut remember it takes work and trust and humor on both parts lord
knows i have not found a "good" anything since ive been bk statside but
u get what bk what u put in. even if it takes forever and a day

True countryboy and sure you will find it just don't give up have to
keep our dreams alive for when we quit dreaming we quit living!

how true that is txs

Ohhh believe me for I'm a dreamer myself and that is one of my favorite
sayings lol by the way welcome to the site and enjoy the forums.

tyvm it is appreciated

Slow, you used the word "exciting"; could we be going so fast that
unless we are feeling a high level of excitment, we get bored &
disenchanted. As a relationship builds, a type of boredom does seep in.
But if it is the real thing that missing feeling gets replaced by
something else. WHAT do you call it?

Latin….
It shows that you had your share of deceptions in life. Well I’m sorry
about that, you are not alone in this world, but that does not mean that
you will never find someone to love and love you in return.
It will happen, just stop being so cold and sarcastic.

Back to topic…
Finding a good man is very hard….but there are many out there.
The question is, are they going to be able to find us?…I think it is
just a matter of time.

no old, all i was saying is somewhere along the line we become
complacent and forget what it is that attracted us to that person in the
first place.we just don't seem to keep the fire it and that itself is
tragic.while there are many directions we go in a relationship,never
forget it was us before them.always make the WE time,even if it's only 1
hr.it's still special.

Oldage...you are making think here...
Yes, boredom comes and goes in a relationship, but understanding that is
the challenge we all need to know how to handle. Staying trough that
boredom is a bigger test in a relationship. I guess it is all about you
being secure and sure about your feelings and what, in order to be able
to stick through it. But with love, patience and understanding on both
sides, we all know that it is about staying “through think and thin”.

thanks nycgirl, it's nice to see a woman that thinks the same.

Exactly!!! Been married twice, frst. was the "honorable ting to do";
second was for love & soulmates. Even the bad times were better than
the alone times now. I learned the hard way what it takes to REALLY
make a relationship work. We get so busy living, we get complacent, we
EXPECT things, we try to CONTROL things, when all we really need to
control is ourselves & reality is the ONLY control we have is over
ourself. We forget to keep working at the relationship. We had 9-10
months together, knowing the end was getting closer with each day, made
sure we didn't waste a single one. That is how we should live everyday
& when you do your life & those you touch are the best we can live.

Thank you slow, I love to see that we still have people who feel that
life and love is worth living for.

I agree oldage..
we have to live like if today is the last day of our lives, in order to
be able to enjoy every minute of it. It is hard, I know. Life is not
easy and we all have our bad and horrible days, but looking at life in a
positive light, and knowing that one day we will have it no more, can
help us make the best of it. After all, that is what life is all about,
I think, learning from our hardships to make tomorrow a better day.

NYC girl, brains & looks, you are quite a lady for your young yrs. If
you were just a little older, slow & I might be a lot more interested.
hahaha

well if it's worth living for then it is worth fighting for.......i
thought that is why they call it a partnership?

Exactly slow, that is what love is about!

slow+nycgirl....hmmmmmmmmmm could be, maybe......hehehehehe

there old i got to her before you did.....lol

Sorry Ladies Luntics post was as valid as this thread (actually I think
it was far more valid).

All he's saying is that most women are willing to accept some guy that
plays their game before they are willing to workout something with
someone that's real.

Sorry to say it but some women are so unrealistically set in what they
want and hope for they "almost" deserve some of the games that get
played on them. Lunatic is right, most women I've met are so caught up
in their illusion of a good guy they let several go waiting for the
spinless loser to jump in and conform her views (until he realizes what
he signed on for and heads for the hills)

I'm a bit tired or I can go into better detail but we'll see if this
gets any play...

sluggo are you talking to yourself again....lol

hay guys