So after a picnic today where i met a bunch of my father's friends i got asked to do something that i'm excited to do. but i'm not sure how to go about it at first.

one of his friends has a 17year old daughter that dropped out of school and is having some problems(emotionally really) and i know what she's been through cuz i've went through it too. and her parents gave me her number, and i gave them mine too. they want me to try and talk to her and see about helping her out a little to get her life slightly back on track...and i dont know if i should call her first or wait and see if she reaches out to me. i wanna be there for her. but idk what to do...

Uhm, are you a therapist?

call her first...just let her know your there...maybe tell her your background

I'm a Therapist

no but i can relate to what shes going through better than a therapist.

If her parents asked you to help her, go ahead and give her a call! It wouldn't hurt. If she asks why you are calling, be honest, and tell her!

Would it help if her parents had you over for dinner and introduced you without making it feel like an intervention?

No....but I played one....


on TV..........

and I did stay at a Holiday Inn express last night.


Call her and offer her your friendship.
Friendship first.....get to know her and just share your story.
do NOT ty to Theripize..........

What I've always done in a case like that, is to call and let her know I'm available anytime she needs to talk. The first call usually works best as a sort of brief introductory thing, no pressure, just "I'm here for you." Let her get used to the idea, maybe think about what she wants to say and when she wants to talk more.

If you wait for her to reach out first, you could be waiting a long time -- not everybody is willing to take that initiative. By taking the first step, you show that you're sincere in wanting to help, and this will reassure her that this isn't something you're doing reluctantly or half-heartedly.

If she calls you before you get around to calling her, that's fine -- but I wouldn't wait too long to call, if you don't hear from her first. It's important for her to know that is something you're definitely willing to do.

Sometimes all a teen needs is to know that someone else has been in the same place they are in right now......someone not related to them. When my daughter was coming out, I asked a friend of mine that I work with who is a lesbian, to please contact my daughter on her MySpace or her email, and let her know what it was like for her.

My daughter came to terms with many different situations thanks to my friend. You never know, you may be just the person she needs to talk to......someone concerned, but not judgemental. Good luck!

thanks guys..i've always know i can count on u guys...I wanna let her know i'm here to talk or whatever she needs, cuz i can relate to her and what she's going through(at least from what i hear from her parents)...and her parents asked me today to reach out to her and try and help, so i think i might just call her tomorrow and say hi..