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Topic: Like & Not Like
mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:46 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me?

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Thu 05/15/08 02:47 PM
I like you.....but you probably don't like me

Bornnaked Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 2359	Thu 05/15/08 02:47 PM
Welcome to JSH.

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Thu 05/15/08 02:47 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Thu 05/15/08 02:48 PM
set your standards lower...lower expectations will help you...and mutual match

jonny63 Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 5229	Thu 05/15/08 02:48 PM
Welcome to the jungle, It gets worse here every day.

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:49 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL

Sexyklp4U Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 3377	Thu 05/15/08 02:50 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me? yeh..been there, done that

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Thu 05/15/08 02:50 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol..

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:50 PM
set your standards lower...lower expectations will help you...and mutual match I was afraid of that lower standards.

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:51 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me? yeh..been there, done that what shall we do??????

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/15/08 02:51 PM
Because you are afraid of intimacy. You chose women who you know you can't have, and the ones you can have, don't interest you because you know it may lead to something. Sorry, dime store psychologist here....

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:54 PM
Because you are afraid of intimacy. You chose women who you know you can't have, and the ones you can have, don't interest you because you know it may lead to something. Sorry, dime store psychologist here.... Gosh I think that a good answer Makes sense tks Honey if you like being called honey

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:54 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol.. and rubbish means what

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Thu 05/15/08 02:55 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol.. and rubbish means what lol english term for "bad at" hun

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 02:56 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol.. and rubbish means what lol english term for "bad at" hun oh lol ok btw I love your accent

grkboy Joined Wed 04/02/08 Posts: 244	Thu 05/15/08 02:57 PM Edited by grkboy on Thu 05/15/08 02:59 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me? Some people just get attraction to those who show them little or no interest and yet run from those who show them interest. I like to call those "headcases". Other times, men and women put on a completely different face when they meet someone they're attracted to. Sometimes people will be all "there" and "into" someone and trying to be overly nice or overly "cool" to them, when maybe their more true self would attract said person. The way you are with friends basically. There is also the factor that maybe the people who can't seem to attract those they are attracted to are shooting for someone whom would never see them as attractive. Like the class nerd trying to hook up with the head cheerleader when she's only attracted to athletes. Many times it's just a factor of mis-matches. Maybe she would be attracted to someone like you, but just not you in particular. My suggestions: 1) Look at the kinds of women you want, then look at yourself. Are you really the kind of guy they would want? Same deal with women looking at men. 2) Make sure when you see the women you would like, that you're not imagining a relationship with them that would never exist. Like if you're into the wild nightclub girls, don't fathom the idea that she would be curled up on the couch with you on a Saturday night, like some homebody. Same deal with women. If he's more the laid back blue-collar homebody who loves sports and beer, don't imagine him as a classy gentleman who will go to fancy restaurants and the opera with you. 3) Make sure you're showing your real self and your best self. Don't be someone you're not hoping that will get you results. Just treat women like you treat your friends...without being vulgar or anything like that. Be more calm and don't worry yourself about trying to force sparks to happen. mustangtom...I'd also tell you that you should write way more in your profile and maybe a few more images. Show women here you're more serious about meeting them as opposed to a quickly-made profile that will just think you're not too serious.

Sassier2u Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 1024	Thu 05/15/08 02:58 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me? When you get the answer let me know. Cuz the same thing is happening to me.

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Thu 05/15/08 03:00 PM
its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol.. and rubbish means what lol english term for "bad at" hun oh lol ok btw I love your accent thats cool lol..like the american one too lol

mustangtom Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 147	Thu 05/15/08 03:04 PM
Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me? Some people just get attraction to those who show them little or no interest and yet run from those who show them interest. I like to call those "headcases". Other times, men and women put on a completely different face when they meet someone they're attracted to. Sometimes people will be all "there" and "into" someone and trying to be overly nice or overly "cool" to them, when maybe their more true self would attract said person. The way you are with friends basically. There is also the factor that maybe the people who can't seem to attract those they are attracted to are shooting for someone whom would never see them as attractive. Like the class nerd trying to hook up with the head cheerleader when she's only attracted to athletes. Many times it's just a factor of mis-matches. Maybe she would be attracted to someone like you, but just not you in particular. My suggestions: 1) Look at the kinds of women you want, then look at yourself. Are you really the kind of guy they would want? Same deal with women looking at men. 2) Make sure when you see the women you would like, that you're not imagining a relationship with them that would never exist. Like if you're into the wild nightclub girls, don't fathom the idea that she would be curled up on the couch with you on a Saturday night, like some homebody. Same deal with women. If he's more the laid back blue-collar homebody who loves sports and beer, don't imagine him as a classy gentleman who will go to fancy restaurants and the opera with you. 3) Make sure you're showing your real self and your best self. Don't be someone you're not hoping that will get you results. Just treat women like you treat your friends...without being vulgar or anything like that. Be more calm and don't worry yourself about trying to force sparks to happen. mustangtom...I'd also tell you that you should write way more in your profile and maybe a few more images. Show women here you're more serious about meeting them as opposed to a quickly-made profile that will just think you're not too serious. Thanks that was a really good answer? I have another question.