mind games

I like you...I dont like you.
I want to be serious....I want to screw around.
You can hang out with your best friend eventhough hes a guy....then you get home and you get hell for hanging out with your best friend.

Yes Debbie, that is part of what I thought. I believe it goes hand in hand with wanting a real person. Real being someoen who doesn't lie and doesn't play games.


cloudedsunshine, I know exactly what you are saying. Exactly.

Mind games like Debbie said

Or just not being who they say they are

They think they are slick but some of us know better

It's a shame though and very sad too

id like a real person

I concur.

Dating however is a big game... It's called the mating ritual for a reason. I look at it like poker, you have to hold something back, or the other person knows your hand and can easily take what you have.... (Conotate that anyway you'd like)

I think "sick of the games" isn't just aimed at the playas out there (male and female ones) who choose to lie and lead someone on for their own ulterior motives, like the guy telling a girl he's falling for her until he gets laid when he moves on, or the girl acting all into a guy just to get free dinners and other stuff from him.

I also think "sick of the games" is aimed at those who play games on THEMSELVES. Like the men and women people meet who maybe aren't over an ex, so while after several dates and even some intimacy you think you found someone, he/she is suddenly telling you they're not feeling it and are running back to their ex to try again. That or even the ones who act all into you one moment, but then the next are all wishy-washy on you, maybe because they might have met a perceived "bigger better deal".

I hate games, flakiness, and indecisiveness as much as the next person, but it's part of life. When I was using dating sites as a means to meet women, I felt I shouldn't sit there in any fashion talking about people who hurt me in the past. All I'd be doing is showing I have baggage. I rather chose to present a friendly, fun, positive image of myself.

None of us can ever escape the games...but best thing is to really take things slow. Don't get into a rush to "seal the deal". Date, spend time together, let intimacy grow slowly. Many actual playas will lose patience and leave, the flakes will also get their issues all up in the air and thus move on. At least then you didn't get close to someone or give part of yourself to them before seeing who they really are.

I'm game!

hi Lil