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Topic: for all you women out there
Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 05/30/08 01:13 PM
in an abusive relationship... I can't stress enough the importance of getting out. I was reading thru some of these threads and what you all went thru for "love" Relationships are supposed to be work, we all know that. But they are not supposed to be abusive. I have buried 2 friends of mine that were killed at the hands of their abusive s/o So please, if you are in one, or you know someone that is in one... do whatever you can do to help that person get out of it. There are a million reasons people convince themselves to stay but the best reason to leave is to save your life.

Christopher1177 Joined Tue 05/27/08 Posts: 17	Fri 05/30/08 01:16 PM
WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE AS WELL NOT JUST MEN TRUST ME MINE WAS PHSYICALY AND MENTALY AS WELL

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Fri 05/30/08 01:17 PM
what if you are the abuser ?

Sexyklp4U Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 3377	Fri 05/30/08 01:17 PM
i'm so grateful i was never in a relationship like that..pray to god i never will..i will not put up with that crap and i wont stay..no way i feel for everyone that goes thru it..i've seen some nasty relationships, helped people..its sad

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Fri 05/30/08 01:17 PM
i'd rather be physiclly abused then mentally, jmo anyway

kendrab90 Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1917	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
i abuse every man i meet

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
as long as everyone knows the "safe" word.... what if you are the abuser ?

Sexyklp4U Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 3377	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE AS WELL NOT JUST MEN TRUST ME MINE WAS PHSYICALY AND MENTALY AS WELL true, but mostly men..sorry, but true

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
why my last relationship ended

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE AS WELL NOT JUST MEN TRUST ME MINE WAS PHSYICALY AND MENTALY AS WELL You know I had no ideal until he broke it off with me,..

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 05/30/08 01:18 PM
i'd rather be physiclly abused then mentally, jmo anyway you shouldn't be abused physically or mentally... you shouldn't have to pick which one you would rather have

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Fri 05/30/08 01:20 PM
I would never condone hitting a woman, I simply wasn't brought up that way. It burns me up to think of so called "men" who do this. More than likely it's to make up for the things they lack and to try and exhibit some sort of control in their miserable lives. It takes a REAL man to maintain his composure and simply walk away. A wuss will simply lash out, which shows immaturity and lack of self control.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Fri 05/30/08 01:20 PM
abuse is about control steaming from insecurities,.. usally a learned behaviour,..BUT can reprogramed !!!

kendrab90 Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1917	Fri 05/30/08 01:21 PM
no flying frying pans when he asks for more pancakes

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Fri 05/30/08 01:22 PM
WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE AS WELL NOT JUST MEN TRUST ME MINE WAS PHSYICALY AND MENTALY AS WELL Then the man should walk, not stoop to the level of hitting.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Fri 05/30/08 01:22 PM
no flying frying pans when he asks for more pancakes lol

miss_kitty85 Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 3	Fri 05/30/08 01:23 PM
i very much agree with you jill. no one should go through that

SoldiernTX Joined Tue 01/01/08 Posts: 235	Fri 05/30/08 01:23 PM
my ex-wife was mentally abusive, she had me thinking I was no good and that I would never amount to anything, but I showed her haha!

9CORNERPOCKET Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 2072	Fri 05/30/08 01:24 PM
in an abusive relationship... I can't stress enough the importance of getting out. I was reading thru some of these threads and what you all went thru for "love" Relationships are supposed to be work, we all know that. But they are not supposed to be abusive. I have buried 2 friends of mine that were killed at the hands of their abusive s/o So please, if you are in one, or you know someone that is in one... do whatever you can do to help that person get out of it. There are a million reasons people convince themselves to stay but the best reason to leave is to save your life. that is so very sad to hear any gender lose their life because of domestic violence.............we weren't put here to be that way to one another...............men and women alike who have survived the ordeal, and, i am one that did.............cheers to ya...............

cloudedsunshine Joined Thu 05/08/08 Posts: 1375	Fri 05/30/08 01:24 PM
I was told I was abusive. I don't see how, don't get me wrong if you call me a b*tch you will be called a bast@rd. But he would say I was mentally abusive, he called be names, but the only things i said were bast@rd and jack@$$