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Topic: Is it Bad
ShagnaC's photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:14 PM
I left my husband almost 2 years ago and have made sure there has been
no contact with him and I. I am in the process of getting the divorce
and I think I am really ready to start seeing people on a more personal
level. Is that bad to start dating before the divorce is final?

Vicarious's photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:17 PM
I don't think its bad you've moved on and this is just another step in
ending your relationship with your husband.

mitchdamuscles's photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:19 PM
I don't think that there is any thing wrong with getting to know people
really well while your waiting for your divorce to finalize. But on a
religous note because i'am christian the bible does say that to be
intimate basicly would be fornication. That is not word for word out of
the bible those are my words of how i understand the bible.

no photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:24 PM

My soon to be ex and I have everything writen out. Our only reason for
delaying the actual divorce is neither of us has come up with the full
lawyer fees. It has just been about 6 months for me and I have not seen
anyone. That is not because I have not tried to move on. She moved in
with her lover so there is no way we are getting back together. So it is
over and I am trying to move on. Legally divorced means very little as
she has moved on. Why should I stay alone because she wanted out of the
marriage?

Ghostrecon's photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:27 PM
No as long as your sure the devorce is going to be final so you don't
mess with the other guy and decide to go back to your ex.

ShagnaC's photo
Sun 09/10/06 08:32 PM
I will never get back with my husband he got into drugs and I am not
putting up with that BS and drama for anyone!

no photo
Sun 09/10/06 09:32 PM
i don't think it is bad. it sounds like you are ready to move on and i
hope everything goes well for you. happy hunting

amacree's photo
Sun 09/10/06 09:36 PM
my divorce isnt final either and i was havin the same thoughts not 2
long ago but whether it is legal or not things r over and everyone has 2
move on. dont worry what others think just do what u need 2 do 2 make
urself happy.

sage's photo
Mon 09/11/06 07:26 AM
As long as you are seperated, I think it's perfectly fine. Go for it,
and have a great time!

soul's photo
Mon 09/11/06 07:31 AM
I am kind of in the same boat but I think that once you have seperated
and you know there is no chance of reconciliation then it shouldn't be a
problem. Ultimatly it boils down to this: If it feels wrong to you then
maybe it is wrong for you. What is right for someone else may not be
whats best for you so I would go with what your heart tells you is
right.

no photo
Mon 09/11/06 07:44 AM
2 years is a long time to wait for a divorce especially after not seeing
them for 2 years. If it feels right move on.

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Mon 09/11/06 07:57 AM
I don't think that its a bad thing at all after all you have been away
from him for two years that is a long time almost as long as I have been
married to my second husband. Everyone desirves someone who will treat
them good so go find that someone. Good luck.

paterafan's photo
Mon 09/11/06 07:58 AM
SHIT GIRL YOUVE GONE LONG ENOUGH,GET OUT THERE AND START MINGLING!!

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Mon 09/11/06 08:31 AM
I have not seen my ex in close to 4 years I hope and pray that I never
see him again.

no photo
Mon 09/11/06 08:35 AM
no it is not bad but can be painful at different stages of the new
romance.

no photo
Mon 09/11/06 08:36 AM
I hope you never see him again but I already want to see more

unsure's photo
Mon 09/11/06 11:13 AM
I believe that each person has their own way of thinking and handling
the situation. When I was going through my divorce...I didn't date
because I went through the BIG church wedding and I didn't want people
to think badly of me. Plus in my eyes I just didn't feel comfortable
doing it...but that was how I felt! If you feel good doing it, I say go
for it! My divorce only took 90 days because he didn't fight it...2
years is a very long time.
I just wanted to honor my vows in Gods eyes, and I did all of that, but
I say to each their own. If you are ready to get your feet wet and test
those waters...have fun!!

no photo
Mon 09/11/06 11:18 AM
in the words of a wise man(uncle jessie),do you know why divorces are so
expensive?...cause they're worth it lol

unsure's photo
Mon 09/11/06 11:20 AM
haha KING you are so right!! Thats why I say make dammmmm sure you want
to marry that man...if I can not look at a man and think I could spend
50 years with him....I walk away!! DAMMMMMMMM no wonder I am still
single....been divorced for 9 wonderful years and still happy :)

no photo
Mon 09/11/06 11:38 AM
you know what they say, after 30 yrs. of marriage if you can't look him
in the eye and blow his brains out to collect the insurance money...then
you still love him

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