Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!

I look at profiles for all kinds of reasons. Most of the time, it's not because I'm interested in dating the person. Do you always assume that a person who looks at your profile is interested in dating you?

I only look at profiles for one of two reasons. Either I DO have "some" twinge of romantic interest in the person, and want to learn more...

or I want to email them about something they've said in the forums, privately.

well other people have a variety of reasons.

Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

better to see it now than later.........next!

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!

Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!

I have received a few e-mails about my profile. I asked some women who I respect what they thought. So I have kept it as it is.
But one woman comes on like we could be a match if I wasn't so pick about womens size.
We had a respectful discussion, then we got matched from the matchmaking thread.

Welcome to the world of online dating. You'll meet all types out here in the Interweb.

I had one e-mail me saying how she wanted to marry me and bare my children. Keep in mind that this came from her FIRST e-mail to me, which is a tad unsettling no matter how you look at it. She also claimed that living over 800 miles away wasn't "all that far", either.

Now THAT is what I call an unhealthily DEPENDENT woman. Either that, or a scammer.

Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

that it is a 'dating' site? Did she not expect to receive some unsolicited e-mail? Instead of being annoyed or rude to someone who has taken the time to write me a note, I am pleased and maybe a little flattered...even if it is someone who I am not really interested in. After all, this is a 'dating' site isn't it?

Cool.

Did anything come from it?

Minor detail. Unwanted, maybe. Unsolicited, no. I would, however, consider email unsolicited if I received several from one person and never responded to one of them, and it persisted. Wait, that's stalking.

Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!